Was this mean?

@Fleura (29274)
United Kingdom
May 3, 2024 3:24am CST
As I’ve often mentioned, I’m a keen user of ‘Freegle’, where you pass on unwanted things, or ask for things other people might have going spare. Since I started (on what was then Freecycle) in 2003 I must have Freegled many hundreds, probably over a thousand, things. So I’m quite used to how the system works and the different things people say. The best ‘customers’ are those who are polite and tell you how they would like the thing you are offering, possibly even why they want it, and when they could come to collect it. The worst ones are those who just reply immediately to a post simply with ‘plz’ and then if you offer it to them, they don’t reply again for days, or they don’t bother to turn up. Yesterday I offered something I had picked up from somewhere along with some other stuff for the garden. I thought I might be able to use it but so far I haven’t, so I decided to offer that. I’m not even sure what it is, maybe some sort of keep net for fishing. Anyway I offered it with an explanation and a picture, and as usual I asked people to say when they could come for it. When I got home last night I found that one person had replied with the words ‘Is available’ They didn’t even bother to add a question mark! And of course they didn’t say when they could collect. It was tempting to just ignore them, but on the other hand I do want to re-home this thing. And I don’t want to exclude people if, perhaps, they struggle with English. Normally I would reply to enquires to say, yes the item was available, and would they like it, and if so when could they come? But it was late at night, and why should I write a long polite reply if they didn’t bother? So I compromised and in response to the query ‘Is available’ I simply replied ‘Is’ Still waiting to see what they say next. The picture is nothing at all to do with the post. All rights reserved. © Text and image copyright Fleur 2024.
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11 responses
@MarieCoyle (29422)
3 May
I did freecycle for years. Even ended up moderating the local group for a bit. But with the coming of facebook, freecycle fell off and there wouldn't be hardly any posts at all. So we shut the group down. We have groups on facebook that are called BuyNothing. Most communities, towns, cities, etc. have at least one. No money is ever exchanged. It's all free, no bartering or trading either. You can pick whichever person you want to get your item after you post it. I know that if I post to give an item away, I often get people who post just one word--''want'' which I think is just rude. Sure, everyone ''wants'' but if I can't get more than one word out of you, I am not going to give you my stuff. Most of the people are very nice. There do seem to be problems of people not picking up items after they whined to get them. If I am giving something away, they can come and pick it up, I cannot take the time right now to take things to whoever. But the idea of the groups works well here.
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• Canada
3 May
If they really want the item, your answer matches their query. They should've understood that. If they don't reply it probably isn't because of your response.
@Fleura (29274)
• United Kingdom
3 May
The Freegle group seems to work well here. It has several thousand members and I've only ever had one person who was a real pain in the posterior. I've never joined Facebook as I don't agree to their terms so I know there are various groups on there but I can't access those.
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@MarieCoyle (29422)
3 May
@Fleura I understand. I do find the BuyNothing group a great resource for many.
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@snowy22315 (171153)
• United States
3 May
Mean no, petty ? quite possibly.
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@Fleura (29274)
• United Kingdom
3 May
Should I have just ignored him?
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@snowy22315 (171153)
• United States
3 May
@Fleura Now THAT would be mean.
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@allknowing (130292)
• India
4 May
I too have a story to tell. I normally give away fruits that grow in our garden and most accept them with gratitude but this new person probably an upstart suggested that I give it to some poor kids
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@LadyDuck (460346)
• Switzerland
3 May
People are so rude, they could at least be more polite when something is offered to them. My husband thought to sell a few things and I told him "call the charity, at least they come and tell you when and they say thank you".
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@LindaOHio (158447)
• United States
3 May
Politeness is so rare these days. I hope you get a legitimate person to pick up your item. Have a good weekend.
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@Fleura (29274)
• United Kingdom
3 May
Thanks. I haven't heard any more so far.
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@LindaOHio (158447)
• United States
3 May
@Fleura You're very welcome.
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@grenery8 (3012)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
5 May
i hate that too and agree with you. if someone really wants something, he would ask and tell all in one go.
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@GardenGerty (157865)
• United States
4 May
Your reply gave me a giggle.
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@Juliaacv (48633)
• Canada
3 May
I cannot begin to try to understand why people are like that. I used to freecycle too, it was great, but like you mentioned, there were those who were not genuine in their replies.
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@wolfgirl569 (96390)
• Marion, Ohio
3 May
I hate those simple ones and do what you did.
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@RasmaSandra (74114)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 May
Best of luck to you with this,
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@just4him (308536)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 May
I don't think it was mean. But I think you stooped to their level and should have given a proper reply. I hope they will reply back that they want it and will pick it up.
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