Does your partner listen to you?

When you as him/her to do something do they really listen to you or do you find yourself asking the same questions over and over again? for me, i like to have a clean kitchen table, my husband, likes...

Baby gear/clothes

If you give them to someone do you expect them back? I figure once I let someone use it, there is a chance it will get broken or ruined. I don't think we are done having kids so I don't want to loan...