pls. help and suggest??

@aissha (2036)
India
April 17, 2007 5:44am CST
my daughter is almost 2 and half but she is not talking i mean conversing. she loves songs and since last month she is singing part of two songs ,catching tune almost perfectly few words are also she is picking . apparently she belives in non verbal communication and will take u what she wants like she will bring glass or a bottle for water she get her things done . sometimes it feels like she is picking few words ,she is healthy never been seriously sick ,accept speech acieved all her milestone on time or even lil before ,sat on her own in 5th month ,walked in 9th month,very active ,cheerful child. i also spoke late at 3 ,is it normal ?i've visited docs and they think she is normal pls suggest sometimes this eats me.
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• India
17 Apr 07
no issues aissha if she is responding there is nothing to worry even upto 4 yrs its normal she is smart enough coz she do her work she will surely speak
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@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
17 Apr 07
My neighbour's child is 1 year and four months old and till today he has not uttered a single word not even mummy or amma whatever language he is. All other acts like turning, sitting, walking everything slow only. He does not even know to say that he wants to pass urine and anybody carrying him, on them only he passes urine. So do not get worried. Some children are slow at doing things. Later they will be fine. When my son was small he was talking soon, but the neighbour's child was not. She too complained the same thing. Later he talked and now he is well employed. God is great. Everything will be ok my friend.
@aissha (2036)
• India
18 Apr 07
hi there everone ,i'm quite overwhelmed by the responses,my daughter has definitely made progress ,she doesn't go to any play school and children of her age are not around ,only this month she started singing part of the songs ,she says few words but prefer non-verbal may be because ,it is esier for her,she will start pre school in june and before that going for marriage ,i hope she picks up fast ,i'm a mother so whatever my child lacks i'll worry unless she picks up or i come terms with it ,since mylot is huge so i thought people will advise me,whenever i worry my mum always say she is absolutely fine and u stop worrying .thnx all
@cikedo (3487)
• United States
18 Apr 07
She sounds normal enough to me. My youngest brother didn't start talking until he was 2 as well and now it is hard to get him to be quite. She may just be shy or have a quite personality.
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@iris0718 (58)
• China
18 Apr 07
don't worry about her,i think it's noraml,so you let good which she allows nature to take its course.
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• United States
17 Apr 07
Babies develop at different rates. Your baby sounds normal to me. It's abvious that she understand what you're saying and she does communicate with you in other ways...just not so much in words. But don't worry about it. It will come in due time. Right now, she's just busy absorbing. Just continue to teach her, engage her, encourage her and soon enough, she'll be talking so much you can't shut her up!!
@us2owls (1681)
• United States
17 Apr 07
All three of my children talked well fairly early. One thing I did with them and my grandchildren was read to them a lot. Also when she wants water and just brings you a bottle - say water to her and encourage her to say it and try not giving her the drink of water until she does. If she gets everything she wants without talking then why should she make the effort.
@wachit14 (3601)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Your pediatrician is your best source for developmental information regarding your child's speech and language development. Having taught this age group for many years, I see parents fret too much regarding their childrens' speech development. From what you describe, your daughter sounds like she is within normal range for her age. More important than speech is her ability to understand you. If she understands you and can follow simple directions, then she is perfectly fine and her speech development will follow in time. She is too young for any kind of evaluation at this point.
• Malaysia
17 Apr 07
erm.. have you tried asking her about it? or .. is it because you didn't care for her enough ? it's confusing why your daughter would act like that.. i think she's just afraid to talk ? erm.. if the doctor says it's okay.. then i'm sure it is.. the only factor that doctor could have miss is the family members factor.. try keeping an eye on her .. see what she likes to do.. and try communicating with her based on her interest.. you might get her attention.. and .. who knows.. she will start conversing =)
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• United States
17 Apr 07
She could be normal or it could be an early sign of autism. I am no expert but autism is a communication disease, and most children do not speak. In Severe cases children do not even use hand gestures to try and communicate. This month is actually Autism awareness month so if you are really ocncerned I am sure your doctor or some health websites can help you with more information! I really do hope that she does not have it, I am just saying it might be a possibility to consider if you are worried.
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@dbeast (1500)
• India
17 Apr 07
hey there buddy i think you aer worrying too much.kids like these will grow out to be the best trust me.when i was a kid i was all bones with just a layer of flesh over me and i used to fall ill frequently,my parents were really worried but i eventually grew out to be really healthy.since you have also visited the doctors and they said it was ok i dont think you have anything to worry about.try getting your kid into conversations.reading out of a book with pictures might just help her.just dont worry.things will straighten out.
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17 Apr 07
Hey aissha,don't fret.She will talk soon and once she starts,she will not stop.One of my friend was also worried that her daughter did not speak at all,and she was 2.5 yrs old.But once she turned 3 yrs old,she started talkning and now at 3.5 yrs,she speaks very clearly.All kids are not the same, and the statistics availabe in websites are always an average.Every kid is different and they all have their won time to reach their milestones.Just keep talking to her and encourage her to talk.Show her objects and ask them what they are.Also,when she wants something,encourage her to talk and say what she wants ,in words.Initially kids like non verbal communication.But once they are confident of talking they will not stop.Also,said in another response here,don't talk to her in baby language.Speak to her as if you would speak to an adult.That way she will catchup the language faster.
• United States
17 Apr 07
All children are different and do things at their own pace. I think it's too soon to worry about it. My 4 year old amazes me everyday with the things he knows, and I didn't know he knew them. They have a way to manipulate us to giving in to them. LOL She sounds healthy as can be, so I'd try to focus on that for now. Otherwise you WILL go crazy! Good luck to you.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I think your daughter is fine.i had five children and sometimes children develope at different rates.If she is almost 2 she is doing just fine,and if she is singing parts of songs then that is great...Sometimes when children are that age they just take you to what they want and that is pefectly normal.I do not think you have anything to worry about,my daughter was only saying a few words at 2 years of age...Maybe she is just a little shy,and don't see the need to say some things,sounds like she is getting what she wants without saying anything..Don't worry,she will be talking a lot before you know it..
• United States
17 Apr 07
Please rest assured, your daughter is normal, I believe my son was almost 3 before he said his first words, but of course he had a sister that was 18 months older than him and she was always talking and could never get a word in edgewise. I would just keep working with her and letting her sound the words out with you and perhaps that will prompt her to start talking. Feel blessed for the time she is not talking now, soon she will be talking up a storm.
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@KissThis (3008)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I believe your daughter is normal if she is able to sing parts of songs. My nephew use to do the same thing. The doctor told us that when he pointed to items or brought them to use to tell him the name of the item and ask him to repeat it back to us before we gave him what he wanted. You might try this to see if it will work for your daughter.
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@magiee (63)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
you're daughter i think is normal child. Though i'm not a doctor as you've telling the story, she is normal. But my son ryt now is starting to talk,he is 1yr& 4 months. My mother teach me that i should talk to my son in early in morning,if they are awake. That was the good time were the child are in good condition. ALso don't talk to her like a baby. Talk to her as a old as you are.
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@ipodbaby (53)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
As the doctor said, she is normal. So needless to worry. The development of every child varies. She's 2 and she is singing part of songs as you said, that's a good start. Communicate with your daughter more often. Start with monosyllable sounds like "moo" (cow sound) "ba" "da". If she can follow those sounds, proceed with simple words like "mommy" and "daddy". Say the words slowly (remember, you're teaching a child) and emphasize your lips and tongue movements (but don't exaggerate). You will notice that she'll look at your lips as you say the words. And as you go on, she will imitate your lip movement and eventually produce sound. Another thing is, be patient. Sooner or later she'll develop her speech and language skills. Also, speak straight. Don't "baby-talk" her. If you still suspects your child to have a speech developmental delay, seek your child's pediatrician for check-up.
@aissha (2036)
• India
18 Apr 07
this much she is doing watching lip movement and copying it lil,but i guess it should be more and only gradually it will happen.thnx
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
As i've said, be PATIENT. Your kid will NOT miraculously speak words if she's not yet producing sounds. It would take time. Teach her if she's in the mood. Teach her when she wakes up in the morning. READ: Don't pressure the child. If you're still bothered with your child's condition, seek another pediatrician and have her evaluate the child. Doctors knows best. =) Goodluck.
• Australia
18 Apr 07
It's normal. Just be patient with that. Some babies is like that. Just try to make her speak, ignore her if she try in non verbal conversation. Maybe she is start speak on 3, she can speak a lot of think then. Don't worry mommy.
@subha12 (18463)
• India
18 Apr 07
i think she is normal. as u urself started talking at 3, its genetic. when she can sing, she will talk also. don't worry so much. but better to consult doctors as they know better. It will be even better if u take 2nd opinion.
@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
don't worry too much. I think your daughter is normal,she is picking up few words, observe it. In some articles i have read a year ago,as how i remember, it is said that generally a child should speak some words by 18-24 months. But there are some who start so speak or converse at the age of 3-4. To enhance her speaking, you might encourage her to sing with you, since as you said you noticed she loves songs.