Friends and etiquette
April 17, 2007 2:05pm CST
I have been friends with a woman for over 22 years. She is a good friend although sometimes her brain seems to go out the window! I talk to her regularly on AIM and our conversations last a good while. She has started having one-sided conversations though. Never really asking how I am, how my hubby is or how things are going. She seems to just moan and isn't too interested in anything but what is going on with her. Has etiquette/good manners flown out the window these days? Do you find this happening in this high tech age?
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20 Apr 07
I know a woman like this too , Only the one though I am glad to say , I go out of my way not to be caught with her , she goes on about the colour of tights she buys and the kind of toothpaste she gets , i wouldn't mind if the conversation was interesting but its boring , I was in the DR surgery one day and she got up and was following me into the doctors room and still yapping m, I had to almost shut the door in her face , I was so embarrassed , the Dr laughed as he knew her well , be like me pal , try to avoid her lol xx
17 Apr 07
That has nothing to do with technology, it's just plain old fashioned rudeness which, unfortunately, never seems to go out of style. I am tired of dealing with it from people. I have met a lot of friends on line and off line and we never have this problem with eachother because we know and respect eachother. People who can't be respectful, we all try and avoid.
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25 Apr 07
Can't imagine that it has much to do with technology, unless it is the fact that we seem to have something making noise all the time - radio, tv, ipod, etc., so no one really listens. Listening is an art. Not everyone learns to value it, I'm afraid. But what caught my attention is that the relationship seems to have changed. She used to be interested in what you had to say but no longer seems to. What has changed in her life? I know there are people who talk non-stop who don't have people in their lives to talk to and when they find someone who will listen you can't shut them up! I've known a lot of elderly folks who get that way from living alone. The isolation seems to affect many people that way. I've also noticed that some people with chronic illness or disability get really self-focused. They become consumed with their condition and think everyone else is as interested in their ailments as they are. Has her health changed? Maybe you could ask her if she has noticed a change in your relationship because you've noticed a change in your conversations. But be ready for anything as a result! :-) If you think the friendship is worth saving, work on it. If not, hang up!
25 Apr 07
Thanks for the input as it does mean alot :) I finally got a chance to have a say so a couple of days ago with her and had a good chat. She says she didn't realise how she was behaving and apologised. She is a good friend and I wouldn't want to lose her friendship. Will see what happens the next time we chat though :)