Who do you run to whenever you have a problem?

Philippines
April 18, 2007 4:29am CST
I just wanna know who from your loved ones do you always run to whenever you have problems--may it be about love, school, family, friends, etc. In my case, I run to my bestfriend for advice. But most of the time, I keep all my problems with me because I've grown tired of sharing it with the people I trust mainly because it has become a cycle. My problems usually go back or repeat that's why I manage to work on it on my own.
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@jhaspher (105)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I usally keep my problems for myself. I don't tell them to anybody. Because all of them will put the blame on me even its not my fault, that's why the only time they will knew about it if its really big that i can't handle it no more.
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
you see how it gets worse when you don't seek help? try to confide it with someone you trust, like your girlfriend. . i bet she'll understand you rather than blame you, and she can always help you...
@vamisola (906)
• Australia
19 Apr 07
When problem comes, it will be solved together by me and my husband.
@bluewings (3857)
19 Apr 07
I used to go to my closest friends and to my family if it's not that serious in nature.After having joined Mylot I sometimes post it in my discussions or ask my friends here for their opinion or if I think they could help,but I still go to my friends when I can't come up with a solution myself.Most of the times I have received sound advice.
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I usually go to my best friend, who is my neighbor, whenever I have any problems. Sometimes I go to my parents as well but most times I will go to my friend. We can relate to some of the problems that we have experienced in our lives so it easier to talk about them. She gives me very good advice and suggestions. My parents have been very helpful as always but try not to put any burden on them.
• United States
19 Apr 07
My husband, mom, or my sister. These three people are my best friends and between I can basically find a answer to anything I come up against.
• United States
19 Apr 07
Hi! Welcome to myLot! I usually run to my sisters for advise whenever I have any kind of problems. If they're not available, I run to my best friend. If my problem is very trivial, I would then try to solve it on my own because I would like to learn how to tackle difficulties independently. I don't usually bother my mom anymore because I don't want her to worry. Enjoy your stay here and happy myLotting!
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
18 Apr 07
I usually go to my mom. That way I know not only would she give good advice, she wont let me down or use what I say against me or tell anybody if we happen to get mad at eachother.
@vebela (310)
• United States
18 Apr 07
When I have a problem that I need talked out, I always first turn to my best friend, who happens to also be my husband. Even before we were romantically involved, I would go to him for all my problems and vice versa. We even talked to each other about relationship advice when we were dating other people! He's usually the one that encourages me to share what's going on in my head and talk about what's bothering me. Even when I'm mad at him, we talk it out with each other before we go to bed that night. Even though he's the first person I turn to, he's not the only one. I am lucky to have a great friends and family, like my mother, that has helped me through a lot of problems.
@jemimay (38)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
I agree! When I was in high school, I used to confide with my friends but now that I'm nearly 20, I realized maturity starts with handling problem. You can always confide with your friends, well, yeah that what friends are for, to give you advices but at the end of the day, the only person who can help you is yourself.. :-)
@zing_i (269)
• United States
18 Apr 07
when ever i have a prob I run to my god sit n front of him for some time and ask him t help me with my prob he gives me the answer too, and if not the solution atleast he gives me the pations to go ahead with the situation
@laila675 (528)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Apr 07
When I was single, I use to run to my friend though she can't help me sometime but at least I could tell somebody what I feel and that helps a lot. At the least I can releas some emotions. But since i got married and my husband is a jealous type whether it's lady or man, specialy if he don't know, i started posting to diffrent sites that have this kind of discussions. At some how it helps. You see it's like no matter what your problems are, releasing what you feel can be at least make you feel a little better. And keeping yourself quite can add more tension to your problems,then when all problems piled up you might explode and tells things that soon you might regret.
@marababe (2513)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
When I have problems I run to some of my closest friends and my 2 closest cousins. They just listen and give comments and opinions after I have told them what my problem is and what really happened. They are supportive but if I'm the one who's wrong they tell me. They don't take sides. That's what I love about them. They are honest.
@yeenee (134)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 07
I seldom communicate with my family as I live by my own. I learned to solve every problem by my own. However sometimes it happened that I need some advices if I should just go for that or this, but I will only talk about it with friends whom I trust most. I believe that sharing is only to not feel too bad whenever problem accur and that's only helps when the other party truely understand you. All the best!
• Nepal
18 Apr 07
I am going alone far from crowd and sitting and thinking, thinking than meet my friends who are really take care about me.
• Malaysia
18 Apr 07
I have a big family. Usually when i have problem I will try to resolved it my own. When I couldn't manage to solve it, I will run back to my family. At home, whatever big issue, after telling the issue out, my grandparents and my siblings will give some advice. Even if they couldn't provide any advice or suggestion, it is good to know that they are always by my side, supporting me no matter what.
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
usually i run to my husband because my friends are too busy with their studies. but whenever i had problems, i just whisper it to God, if i need help, i just run to him. He may never give me advice at least it helps when i can tell my burdens to someone like him. Like my husband, he will just listen to me, but will not give you advice he will just say its your decisio or its up to you. at least he listened right??
• United States
18 Apr 07
I try to always talk my problems out with my fiancee, but sometimes he just is not in a talking mood so in that case i go to my best friend :)