How do you address your parents? By their given name or by Mom and Dad?

@ladyljs (1303)
United States
April 18, 2007 7:25am CST
I was always taught to respect my elders, and call my Mother and Father just that. Now, I live in a community where I hear children (13, 14 or so) calling their Mom...Mary etc. I think that this is disrespectful...what do you think?
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@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I call my parents mom and dad. The only time I use their name is when I call them at work or someone ask me their real name. I have called out their real name if they didn't hear me calling them or when we are at a store. If you call out mom about 20 people look lol
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
18 Apr 07
That is so funny! I have actually done that at a basketball function at our school. I bet that 15 Moms turned around! Thanks for the chuckle...giving you a positive rating!
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@sunsham68 (1378)
• India
7 May 07
ha that is so cute. Gosh. What does it take to be a mom!
• South Korea
18 Apr 07
:) i call my parents dad and mom,i have this roomate during my college she called her father as dad but they called their mom by her name. i was wondering why? i asked her but she just answer me " we used to call her that way"
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I don't know why some people do this...it really aggravates me, unless it is in a work or business type deal. Thanks for responding...giving you a positive rating!
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• Japan
18 Apr 07
Some parents don't like to be called mom/dad. I think her mom prefered to be called by her given name.
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@vesuvius (1677)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
I call my parents Tatay and Nanay (this translates to Father and Mother in English). This is what we are taught to do. Here in the Philippines, if a person calls his parents in the way you have seen those teens, that person would surely be disliked by the society. I guess teens like those should be given proper guidance.
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
18 Apr 07
That sounds so sweet. I love to hear about other cultures and customs! Thanks for answering, giving you a positive rating!
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@honeyangel (1992)
18 Apr 07
i call my parents mum and dad,i was taught to respect my elders aswell.
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
18 Apr 07
That is just as it should be. THanks for responding...give you a positive rating!
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@melanie652 (2526)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I was taught to respect my elders too. Sadly I don't see that being addressed in this generation of kids. It seems like many parents are more interested in being their kids friend instead of their parent, so that respect isn't being taught. Our kids are in their late teens and early 20's. They call us Mom and Dad. I call my dad, Dad. My mom passed away over 20 years ago, but she was Mom. I think it would be disrespectful if I called my Dad by his first name.
@creematee (2810)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I see that the respect given to elders is dieing amoung our youth as well. I always try to address others by their proper title and surname-- Mrs. Smith for example. It does seem odd to be addressing my children's teachers (who are at least 15 years younger than me!) by their proper names, but if my children see me do it, then they will do it also! :)
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
19 Apr 07
THank you for your response! Giving you a plus rating!
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@creematee (2810)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I made the mistake once of calling my dad by his real name. AS I said... ONCE! lol! That never happened again. I usually call him dad or Daddy, depending on my mood. I call my mom, Mom. Only on a few occasions have I used her first name. Usually, when we were out shopping and I needed to get her attention. A kid just can't yell "mom" in a store and find only one. LOL! She did tell me that I do have permission to do that on those type of occasions. I expect my children to call me Mom, and they dad, Dad or Daddy. So far, they have and I respect them for it. :) Great discussion!!!
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
18 Apr 07
HAHAHAHAHAHA! Once was probably more than enough...bet you got in a little trouble. I had a very strict father too, I didn't dare call him anything but Dad or Daddy. He would probably have given me a whoopin' THanks for responding...giving you a positive
@creematee (2810)
• United States
2 May 07
Thank you for the BR. :)
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I started working in a family s restaurant with my mom when I was 11 years old. From that point on I called her Sue out of respect. I didn't think that it would be proper to call her mom at work. After a while I got use to calling her Sue outside of work as well. I guess in my eyes it depends on why they are calling their parents by their given names. I had a friend whos mom only wanted her kids to call her by her name not mom. It may not be the children it could be the adult.
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Well, now that makes a lot of sense to me. THank you for giving me some more insight into this! Giving you a positive rating!
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you so much for the positive rating as well as best response. I also always gave you a positive rating.
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@ibsnet (1268)
• India
18 Apr 07
It should be Mom, Dad, mummy etc but never calling with name. It shows total disrespect of calling any elder person with name. I think the children should be made to understand they may have not calling kowingly. We should educate our children in this respect from the very childhood. What children's say they first learn from their parents. Proper guidance to children cannot cause this type of disrespectful calling with names.
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Very well put. Thanks for responding. Giving you a positive rating!
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@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I think it is weird when kids call their parents by their name! I certainly wouldn't want my kids to call me by my name. I am their Mommy and want to be called so =) I remember when my older brother stopped calling my mom Mommy, just Mom. I was so shocked and though it was so weird =) I call them Mom & Dad now, or Grandma & Grandpa for my kids =)
@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Oh, when my little children stopped calling me Mommy I was crushed. I know they have to grow up...but it happens so fast! Giving you a positive rating!
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@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
18 Apr 07
I think children should respect their parents by calling them Mom and Dad in their native languages. I call my parents Mummy and Abah(Dad in Malay). I think it is very disrespectful for them to call their parents by their names. Children should be brought up to respect the elders!
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
6 May 07
I definitely address my parents by mom and dad. I think it is disrespectful to call them by their first name. They are your parents and they deserve to be called mom and dad. I know my ex husband used to call his mom by her first name because she didn't want people to think she was old. I think that is stupid! It seemed like she didn't want people to know that they were her kids. I thought that was totally disrespectful from both sides. I respect my elders and if my daughter called me by my first name, I would have to discipline her about that.
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@sunny916 (151)
• United Arab Emirates
6 May 07
in my culture you only call your parents mom or dad and with the deepest respect and regard. Its only fair considering how much they do for us from the moment they give up being happily a married carefree couple to be parents and all the responsibilities we bring in their lives, till we are educated and free to fly or to go wherever life takes us.
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• Philippines
2 May 07
yeah.. way being disrespectful to the elders
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@Netmoney (144)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Like you, I was always taught calling an elder by their name was disrespectful. Even family members required that you call them Aunt Mary, Uncle John, etc. It seems acceptable to some parents to be called by their first names and even some grand parents are allowing it too!
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@Rickrocks8 (1751)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I call them Mom and Dad or grandma and grandpa. I agree there is a real lack of respect in this world!
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@happymommy3 (2013)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I address my parents also by mom and dad. That's the way I was taught and it wouldn't feel right if I did call them by their name. I have to agree with melanie652's response with these days parents are more worried about being a friend to their children rather than the parent. Now that's how it all starts and the children start thinking they don't have to show that respect as much since the parents did start all of that by letting them call them by name. You can still be a friend to your child but you can also keep that respect. They will be thankful you did so when they have children they will do the same with their children.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
19 Apr 07
I also call my parents mom and dad. I am not shocked when I see other people or kids calling their parents by their names, but that doesn't work for me. There are zillions of Marys, Roberts, Marks, Helens, I want to address my parents in a way that can refer to them only not anyone else with their names.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
18 Apr 07
When you call by first names that makes the parent more your buddy. Your buddy is not your authority. I think it is seriously misplaced to call your parents by their given names. My children refer to any adult as Mr, Mrs., Miss, sir or Ma'am unless they have a title such as Dr. Uncle. Aunt. and Father. Sister. Brother. for the religious.
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• Ireland
18 Apr 07
I have always called my parents by Mom and Dad. When I had children of my own, the youngest used to call me by my christian name until he realised that he should be calling me Dad. He only did this until he was about three years old and I didn't see any harm in it. I don't like to hear older children call their parents by their christian names but I suppose some families don't mind.
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• Malaysia
18 Apr 07
In my family, my sibling and I call "Ba" and "Mi". However, on my father generation, it is quite hillarious. My grandparents went for some kind like fortune telling, and the fortune teller said to my grandma that, "your life will not be so bitter if you don't have a lot of son and daughter." Thus, all my uncles and my aunties (my grandmother's son & daughter) called my grandma "auntie" instead of "mummy". This will create an illusion that my grandma doesn't have a lot of son/daughter. Oh WELL.
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