Are you ready for your next baby?

@nica269 (1399)
United States
April 19, 2007 2:25am CST
I have a 6 month old baby and i'm sooo ready to have another one. Alot of people think i'm crazy, especially my family. But I want my lo's to be close in age, so they're good friends. My sister and I are 5 years apart, and it was hard growing up with a 'little sister'. She always wanted to be around me and my friends and I was mean to her. I don't want that to happen with our children. So, i'm ready to have the second one...are you?
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@MJJ1011 (107)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I did not think I would say this so soon, but yes, I am so ready for another child. Like your baby, mine is only 6 months old. We had a really rough start with her being born almost 2 months prematurely, and at times I thought we would not have anymore children. Now all of that seems like a distant memory. My baby seems to be growing up so quickly, and I'm already missing some of the sweet little baby characteristics. I'm sure we'll wait at least 6 months to a year before starting to try for another one though. How long do you think you will wait?
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I know what you mean about them growing up so quickly and missing the nb baby charactaristics, and i think that's one of the reasons why I want to have another one so soon. I want to wait another 6 months before traying, since it took us so long to get pregnant with our first one, but dh wants to wait until he's 2 years old. I think we'll come to a compromise sometime soon. :o)
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I have a 32 month old and a 7 month old. Initially it was very difficult with them being so close together, but as they both get older, I find it wonderful. Having said that, we will wait until the youngest is almost three before we have our last baby, because my pregnancies tend to be very difficult, and it was very hard, with my last one, especially with a toddler following me around, whenever I had to throw-up, i'd run to the bathroom, trash can whatever, and 10 minutes later I'd hear my son pretending to throw up too. (: Also, my youngest was especially fussy those first few months, which took us off guard, and made everything much more difficult. NOw he's a pretty happy baby, for the most part, still much more demanding than I expected, but that's just his personality! I have a friend who got pregant when her first was 4 months old, she has pretty easy pregnancies, and she loves them being so close in age. She had those two really close, and will be getting pregnant again in August of this year (that's thier plan at least) SO her youngest will be almost 3 when she gets preggers again, and she's going to do the same with her next two, they actually want to group them in 2's. they want at least 6 kids. So you should do what you and your hubby want, not what your family wants for you. But, I must warn you, just because they are closer in age does not mean they won't fight, sometimes it makes it worse. My sister and I are about a year and a half apart, we fought constanly when we were younger. Our friends overlapped, because we were so close in age, and we had to share a room, so we hated being around each other. We were in the same sports, and she was one grade ahead of me. It made things quite difficult. As we got older (later teens) it did get easier, and I opted not to go to my junior prom, b/c I felt she should have prom to herself (her senior year). Then when I moved out we became really close and still are today. But like I said its your descision, I by the way, am missing the baby stage, mostly because mine weaned himself from nursing lately, and that makes me a little sad. (:
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I know that there will be times when having children close in age will be difficult,especially if they have completely different personalities. :o) I think that we are going to have them 2 or 3 years apart, now hoping that they'll get along. :o) I know women who have gotten pregnant when their babies were 3 or 4 months, they're in my mommy board and they're just ecstatic about it. I don't think that at that age I would have been ready for another one. i was barely starting to get use to my lo. I know I have a long way to go until he's old enough to do thing on his own, but I think when he's about a year old I will be comfortable enough to be pregnant again.
@maximax8 (27048)
19 Apr 07
I think two children close in age must be wonderful. They will always be close to one another. The older child will not be as jealous as they would be in a few years time. I know a lady with a 4 year old and an 8 month old baby. The older child resents her mum being busy with what she sees is competition for her attention. If you feel ready for the demands of a second baby I say go for it. It will be wonderful for your children. But it might be tiring to be pregnant and also have a one year old. But it would get easier as your children got older. I am currently 35 weeks pregnant. My son is 12 today. I think 12 years is far too long a gap between children. I have a sister 5 years older than me. We always get on very well. But I think a gap of less than 2 or 3 years is excellent. As close in age as possible is the absolute ideal.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
19 Apr 07
Congratulations on the soon arrival of your little on. My dh and his brother are 10 years apart and he says it wasn't too bad, but sometimes he did feel like an only child since when he was old enough to go out and play, his brother was off doing something else with kids his own age. I guess it's a good thing too, you get to pay much closer attention to the little one with a older child in the house to help you. I think 2 or 3 years apart would be great for us.