should i give my son ritalin

@kayrod2 (1304)
Australia
April 19, 2007 6:57am CST
wondering if i could get some advice. My son plays up a lot. Sometimes he can get uncontrolable. He lashes out at his sisters and can get really angry. At school he is good in class, but mucks up in the playground. He isnt the greatest at reading, but gets help with this. He doesnt have heaps of friends, as he tends to fight a bit, but i put that down a lot to boys being boys. He can also be so loving, and keeps his room clean except when he has one of his episodes and starts throwing things around his room. He then has to clean it up because i wont do it. He will also help around the house when asked. I know that i have spoiled him and let him get away with things in the past, so i blame myself for some of this behaviour, but he has been quite sick in his short life (he is 8) and been in hospital a bit. I have tried many different things to try and change things but nothing seems to work. I have finally taken him to a specialist, and he has suggested putting him on medication, probably ritalin, to help him concentrate better and hopefully change things around. My problem is i dont know if i should put him on it, as i have heard about side effects, and dont know weather it will help. Does anyone have any suggestions.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
19 Apr 07
only you can make that decision. It is a decision to be made between you and your doctor. If you are uncertain, get a second opinion from another doctor. all medication has side affects anything that we take. It does not mean everyone will get it and you can watch to see if your son gets it or not. also you have to look at what produces the greater good, the medication to help your son, or not taking the medication.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
19 Apr 07
The doctor said a similar thing to you about what is greater good. He said if there a chance it will help him it is worth trying but the decission is mine, and if it doesnt work, i can take him off it. Thanks for your reply
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@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
19 Apr 07
Well from reading what you wrote about him I doubt he needs ritalin. He doesn't sound like he's ADD or ADHD. I would though suggest you get him assessed by someone other then just the school counselor. If you can get him into a psychiatrist who specializes in kids. It does sound like he has some problems that need to be addressed but I don't think its ADD or ADHD.
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
He hasnt actually been labelled with anything yet. I would like to get it looked at by someone else as well. He has been under various specialists most of his life for other things, and his behaviour is always noted as not being the best, but they not psychiatrists. When i see the doc next i intend having a list of questions for him.thanks
• United States
20 Apr 07
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• United States
20 Apr 07
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
Thank you! I will look into it
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
11 Nov 08
My son has ADHD, and autism. He has been diagnozed and are on medication. But his medication is Concerta and I consider that being a god medication. If you asked my son, he would not be able to function without it in school. However, before giving him any med of any sort. He has to be validated, and diagnosed. The doctor should send him for a consilidation with professons in this matter, not just say he should be on med. Med do ot help him if he do not get med for the right purpose. And can hurt him more than help. A real proper investigation of him is important before giving any medication of any sort. So, If he has not ben investigated yet, I suggest you make that happen and then consider if he is in need for any med at all. If he really have a neuvroupsykic problem, then med might do the trick for him. Other wise it will not. I hope it will work out for both you and your son. I think his anger can be a side effect of not feeling OK. Godluck
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
11 Nov 08
thanks for your response. My son is now on Concerta as well. it is amazing what a difference it has made. his school work has improved so much, and his behavior is a lot better to. he is under a specialist that he sees quite often, and he is very happy with his progress. he still has his moments, but not like they used to be. best wishes to you, anetteh, and take care
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
5 May 07
Hello, There are lots of disccussions about medicin for children with ADHD. I decided for my son to get medication. And all I can say is that for my son it has helpt a lot. If you ask a child who have the experienc of medication for children with ADHD he probebly wold say - do not hesitate. My son get medication once a day. It last for 12 hours during a day. The effect is so good that hi seems normal. But of course every person is individual, you may not know. But for us it has made this a lot better both for me and for my son.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
5 May 07
Thank you for your response. I am so glad for you that it has worked for your son. I am trying my son on fish oil at the moment as i have heard of benefits from it. We will see what happens. And welcome to mylot, i hope you enjoy it Best wishes to you
@wahmoftwo (1298)
• United States
4 May 07
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
5 May 07
Thank you wahmoftwo for the site link. I will check it out. I have started him on fish oil, as i have heard of benefits from it. so i will see how it goes. best wishes to you
@mtdewgurl74 (18122)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Well, my nephew was on ritalin once and he was almost a zombie. My sister had him tooken off and they tried something called Concerta which was way better for him them the ritalin and has less side effects. I would get online and research it first. Has he been tested for low magnesium? They said the side effects of low magnesium is kids acting out. So I would gather all the information I could. You have just described my little 5 year old sister also. My mom hasn't tooken her to a specialist to get anything to help her yet. because we have spoiled her rotten also. I would see if a diet change would be in order and it also states that anything with red food dye in it will cause hyperness in kids, so try to stay away from that. That includes alot of the already made drinks and coolaids. If your son has to be on something maybe Concerta would be a better choice then ritalin. I have several nieces and nephews on it of different ages and it has helped them out alot and focus better in school. Another medicine is Concerta, a once-daily extended release form of methylphenidate, which was approved in April 2000. Studies have demonstrated that long-acting methylphenidate preparations such as Concerta are just as effective, if not more effective, than IR (instant release) formulas.[1][2][3][4] Time-release medications are also harder to misuse.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
thanks for your response. You have given me some good advice. Iwill look up some information on this other medicine you have mentioned as well. Thanks again
• India
20 Apr 07
i am no physician lady but i definitely am against the advice of medication.first things first your child is 8.only 8.you need to try and control his anger first.have you ever heard the saying "spare the rod and spoil the child".if you are against punishment be it.but i would advise you to raise your volume little bit.give him a sound hearing and warn him against showing of his anger.advice him things like counting until 15 with slow breath before taking any action.keep on reminding this idea whenhe gets angry.as far as reading is concerned you have to make him develop his intrest in reading.you cannot force the habbit of reading into a child.try tellin him some really good stories.it wuold change into reading.you can find many such techniques
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
Thankyou. Your response is good. I do punish him, we have rules, but it is really hard at times. He does like to read but he gets very frustrated, especially that others in his class are ahead of him. but he is improving at it. I have also got hold of a program to help him while making it fun.
@Foxxee (3654)
• United States
20 Apr 07
They gave your son an EEG right? Usually that is how they can tell, along with other test. They just don't give a child Ritalin anymore these days. They can actually tell in brain activities with a head scan now a days if a child might have ADHD or even Bipolar. I would look more into it if I was you. Make sure they do all the correct testing. I know where I live, they do lots of testing, they like to be 100% sure before they give a child medication.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
No he hasnt had an eeg. This is something i am going to talk to the doctor about. I am going to look more into it. Thanks for your response
• United States
20 Apr 07
My son was diagnosed with ADHD and we did put him on medication. But, we also had him see a psychologist for testing and had and EEG done to confirm that it was truly ADHD. He was on Ritalin for quite a few years and I did see a big difference in his attitude, his school work, his ability to handle friendships, and his ability to handle his hostility. But, he had quite a few problems that indicated ADHD before we had all the testing done. Even his teachers at school had problems with him staying still, staying seated, understanding directions, listening, and participating in class. I would also do some research on my own and maybe make an appointment to speak to a specialist dealing with ADHD before I tried the medication. We even tried some relaxation techniques and massage therapy before we tried medication. He is 12 now, and they have changed his medication, but this one has kept him from eating all day. I took him off of it and I think with age he is better able to help himself, and he has been medication free for 6 months and still kept his grades up. So, I will continue to keep him off the medication until I have to put him back on it, if the need arises. I am told that sometimes they outgrow ADHD. tdbrower1969
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
Thankyou for your response. I am going to try and see another doctor and look more into it with some research. Glad to here your son is doing better. I have also heard they can grow out of it
@PatriciaL (2081)
• United States
20 Apr 07
While I think it's a good idea to get other's opinions on here, it's best that you talk to your family doctor about it. They will be able to give you lots of information on it. Also make sure to do your research online and lots of it. Go to the Ritalin site and check out their info. Also look for forums(parenting, mental health) and try to get some feedback from other parents that have had their child on Ritalin. There will always be two sides of the story, some will like it and some will not. Why? Because it's a medicine and every body is different. Some people will respond in a certain way to the medication while others may have a different response to it. That doesn't just go for Ritalin, it goes for any medication. So just do your research, way your options(medication, therapy, etc), and good luck!
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
Thank you so much for your response. You have some good advice that i will take into concideration. Am going to look into a support group
@bmodina (241)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
you should teach him how to discipline while he is still a child.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
I do disipline him, but i still have trouble. Thanks for your response
@gemini1960 (1162)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
i dont think you should give him such medication,or try haveing second opinion about his health as i read this, i can see that your child is normal,now why give medication?
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
thanks for your response. Am looking at getting second opinion
@gberlin (3836)
20 Apr 07
I would get a second opinion. If both doctors agree then put him on medication. I would also ask the doctor if there are other medications beside ritalin and tell him your concerns about ritalin. If he still pushes it then do like I said before and get a second opinion.
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
thanks for your response. I am going to look at getting a second opinion
@MsTickle (25014)
• Australia
19 Apr 07
Before anything else I'd do some research on the Internet and take some notes, Arm yourself with as much info as you can find on the subject of ritalin and anything else when you enter your son's symptoms. Try also finding a support group perhaps in Yahoo Groups where you can discuss things. Have a chat with your GP or district nurse. Maybe obtain a second opinion or go back and chat to the special;ist. All the best.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
Thanks for the advice. I have looked up a couple of things, but a support group sounds good. Am going back to specialist in june