Help, please.

@Chryssi (828)
United States
April 19, 2007 2:21pm CST
Do any of you worry so much that it makes you sick? I do. I worry over everything, no matter how much I try not to. I start crying sometimes, and it me physically sick, more often than not. Is there anything that you do in order to calm your worries, that you'd recommend to me? ..I've tried keeping my mind off of things, and keeping my mind occupied with other things.. It works for a little while, then I go right back to worrying...Any ideas?
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@teleios (738)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
if your worrying has caused you to become so focused on them that you neglect that the others areas of your life, then maybe its time to get professional help. some people with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) pretty much worry about everything, but talking to a pychologist may help...they can teach you coping exercises that help you manage your anxiety. also, if you're a spiritual person, focusing on that will help you manage your anxiety. prayer and reading self-help books, etc...there's really nothing productive that can come out of worrying...the best we can do is live our lives the best we can. as what a passage in the Bible says, "tomorrow will take care of itself."
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you very much for your response. If I start neglecting other areas of my life, I'll talk to a professional, yes. I posted this to try to stop myself from getting to that point. Once again, thank you.
• Malaysia
20 Apr 07
hi.. worry? i do worry sometime..u wanna know what i think? its only part of life.human are fragile. we have heart. we have feeling..that is what the heart does..worry,happy,thinking too much..sad..all kind. we should be happy that we still have heart..let it worry..it shows that ur heart is working..
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@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you for your response.
@Babyzey (21)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
Chryssi, you are not alone. I have been in the same situation for years already. It started when I decided to quit law school. I found it difficult to find a job. Since then, I always worry on everything. Then, i got married. My husband worked abroad, It aggravated the problem. Just last month I had a miscarriage. Now, I have this phobia on getting pregnant. can somebody help me on how to overcome this phobia?
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@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I've never been pregnant, so I can't tell you that I understand exactly how you feel, but I do understand what you mean. Maybe you should think about why you fear getting pregnant. Is it another miscarriage that you fear? Is it the thought of being a parent? Once you figure out why you have that fear, it'll be easier to overcome.
@dlufel (424)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
i was worry about everything.Sometime started to cry sometimes. I think it's really bad. I'm christian now .. i suggest you to find help from God. Coz i used to worry so much about everything but now .. i feel peace a lot.
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you very much for your response, I'm glad that you're doing better.
@mnflower (1304)
• United States
19 Apr 07
Life is way to short to sit and worry on things that you cannot change, you may need to talk to you doctor my mother was like that and they ended up giving her something for it for a month and she is much better now, you need to learn that if you can't change it dont worry or ponder on it, the upset stomach is your mind is constantly looking for a way to change something or something has happened that makes you worry something tradgic. and if that is the case you will alway feel this way unless to talk to someone and get it all out. even if it is your doctor.
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@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you for your response, I'll try talking about what's got me worried, when I'm feeling sick.
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19 Apr 07
Worrying causes you to be anxious, and you get that feeling in your stomach that is like butterflies or the stress of it that makes you feel ill. In the short term, you could try taking a herbal remedy such as Kalms, as it calms your nerves. But in the longer term you need to work on ways to calm yourself down. I get anxious and feel ill over things quite a lot, but if you breathe deeply in through nose out through mouth, you calm down. Also try and deal with things as they happen, not thinking about what MIGHT or MIGHT NOT happen, just deal with what you know IS happening.
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@Chryssi (828)
• United States
19 Apr 07
Thank you, very, very, very much for responding. I'll certainly try Kalms, and also dealing with things as they happen. Again, thank you.
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
Okay Chryssie, with much compassion I tell you just one thing - stop it darling! It's a mind thing, seriously. All those thoughts going around in your head making you feel insecure, telling you things are going to go wrong. But not only do your thoughts go round and round in your head, your tummy feels like it's quivering and nervous and you end up in a terrible state. Get yourself a bit more grounded, means you need to toughen up a bit. You have as much right as the next person to be here so create some boundaries so you start feeling safer. When you start getting these worries, ask Why? What's going on? Take some breaths, calm yourself. Feel the feelings and acknowledge where they are inside you. Breath through them and let your belly become part of the process. You are stronger than you think, you just don't know you are! Often people who are full of anxiety are in their head too much and not in their body, and don't feel strong in their belly. You've already acknowledged that your mind is the problem, so take steps (not pills) to change. Did you know laughter, dancing and things like that are great things to get you in your belly. Martial arts get you in your belly. A bit of boxing type exercises - like boxercise might help. Take little steps to start being part of the world instead of feeling like you can't live in it.
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you very, very much for your response, and your tips. I've been thinking of taking up martial arts, as well. Once again, thank you.
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
21 Apr 07
Chryssie that is wonderful. Thanks by the way for best response. Don't be afraid to tell the instructor you are not confident, a bit nervous and they will help you. You won't know yourself in 6 months. Go for it.
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I'll be sure to do that. You're welcome, as well, for the best response. Once again, thank you for your advice and tips. =)
• India
23 Apr 07
worry it is a waste of time.if u worried a lotit will surely makes a simple incident into a big one so avoid worries instead live happy and enjoy every day in a joyful manner... god is with u/..... have a happiest day my dear frnd....................
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Thank you for your response. =)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I have two suggestions. One, trust God and pray a lot. Two, ask the doctor for anti depressents, they will help a lot. Good luck my friend.
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
21 Apr 07
Thank you, very much for your response and your suggestions. If my worrying/anxiety gets worse, I'll go see a doctor about it. Once again, thank you. =)
@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
20 Apr 07
It sounds to me like you are suffering from a case of anxiety, which is not uncommon. I can tell you that you need to try to curtail the worrying and alot yourself only a small amount of time during the day to worry. Write down all your worries in a notebook and see if you can find solutions to all the things you are worried about. Also, having gone into therapy for anxiety, my therapist gave me a piece of advice that I have never forgotten. She said that ninety-five percent of what we worry about never happens and it's true. Present yourself with a worst case scenario and ask yourself if you will be okay regardless. Chances are you will be fine. If you are still having problems you can try meditation or buy an over-the-counter anti-anxiety supplement like kava kava. Good luck to you!
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you very, very much for your response. I'll keep in mind what your therapist said to you, and I will start keeping a journal of my worries...If all else fails, I'll see a doctor or try an herbal/OTC medication. Once again, thank you for your tips and time.
• United States
20 Apr 07
I know how that happends. breathing deep and thinking what worse could happend in this situation and prepare for that. that will help your stop worrying about things and go out to express yours worries to someone who loves you most and you will stop worrying
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Welcome to myLot and thank you very much for your response.
@multisubj (451)
• India
20 Apr 07
1. Suggestion 1: We can try HOw to Stop Worrying and Start Living - a book by Dale Carnegie. 2. There is a Hindi proverb, when translated into English reads as under: When money is lost, nothing is lost; When health is lost, something is lost; when character is lost, everything is lost. Health and character can be reconstructed. Money, difficult to recoup.
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you very much for your response and suggestions. I'll see if I can find that book.
@jimbomuso (950)
20 Apr 07
It sounds like your making yourself quite unwell, do you have anyone to talk your worries over with? Have you been to a doctor or counsellor? if the answer is no then you need to find one of them, because sitting on your own with this problem is guaranteed to make it worse. Light exercise during the day will help. I hope you feel less anxious soon.
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you very much for your response. I do have someone to talk it over with, and like I've said before, if it gets worse, I'll go see a doctor. Once again, thank you.
• United States
20 Apr 07
Chryssi, it almosst sounds like you might be suffering from anxiety. I would recommend that you start by doing some research on what stress and worry can do to your body. I did a research project in college about how to reduce stress and was shocked at the repercussions of giving over to worry. I learned about meditation then, about how to confront the things I was afraid of and see them as they really were. The Dalai Lama's greatest advice I've ever read was this: "If there is something you can do about it, why worry? If there is nothing you can do about it, why worry?" It may seem a bit coded at first, but the more you think about it, the more it starts to make sense. There is no reason to worry at all. Everything that happens in our lives is a direct reflection of our focus. If you are always worried and focused on hardships and difficulties, that is what you will see in your life over and over again. Change your focus to positive things, and you will see how easy it is to stop worrying and start living!
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you very much for your response and the inspirational quote. It does make sense, and if I can't get my worrying under control, I'll go talk to a doctor. Once again, thank you.
• India
20 Apr 07
First of all dont tense yourself. If you face any problem, think about the problem calmly and look out for the alternatives in which you can solve them. Worrying makes you physically sick and you will not be able to solve the problem. Just think that you can do it and surely i will do it, the confidence itself will boost you up.
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you very much for your response and tips.
• India
20 Apr 07
try the devil may care attitude.i will explain it some other time but for now try keeping yourself busy all the time.do something or the other .believe me it will work definitely.
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I do keep myself busy all of the time.... The worry still seeps through. ..Regardless, thank you for your response.
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
I want to share this short quote about worry... "Worry distorts our thinking, distrupts our work, disquiets our soul, disturbs our body, disfigures our face. It destroys our friends, demoralizes our life, defeats our faith and debilitates our energy" ...so let's be aware of those things that could happen when we are worried.. always remember... "That there is one way to happiness, that is to stop worrying about the things beyond the power of our will." Likewise, God said, "Don't worry!"
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Thank you, very much for your response and inspirational quotes.