Do you think that a marriage can work if it's not to the person of your dreams?

United States
April 20, 2007 4:40am CST
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@lucy67 (819)
• China
20 Apr 07
most dreams can't be realized. even when a dream is turned into reality, you will take it for granted. only love can't definitely make a marriage work. perhaps you are not lucky enough to marry a person of your dream, but as long as you love each other and commit to the marriage, you can make your marriage work.
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@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
In the first place why do you have to marry him? In whatever reason you'll be marrying him... once you marry him whether you like it or not... make the most out of it. You put yourself into that situation... then be your best... if he cant be the man of your dreams then be the woman of her dreams... give him a chance... give your marriage a chance. If you cant do that... DONT GET MARRIED or youll make your life miserable.
• United States
22 Apr 07
I'm actuallynot engaged, and this was just a question that popped into my head awhile ago because I like someone I don't think I can have. I've also heard of people sayingg, even after they were divorced and married to someone else, that that first person will always be the love of thrir lives even though the marriage didn't work out....and this was AFTER they had married someone else. So, I'm just curious as to what people's thoughts are on what it takes any kind of a relationship to work in the long-term.
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
yes, i think so..because i think you will not marry a person if you dont love him, if you dont feel the magic feeling that goes inside of you, that you dont have the care..it will still work it think..
@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
22 Apr 07
It will be very difficult to get a man of my dreams.so whoever is closest can make the marriage work.
@Meljep (1668)
• United States
22 Apr 07
Yes, it can work. Real life can be so much better than anything we could ever dream up. Maybe someone might dream to be married to a person who is thin and good looking. If they were to get that, the person may turn out to be stuck on themself and selfish. Like the song says -- "Thank God for unanswered prayers."
@chavezrmc (5827)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
First of all, why do you have to marry him? is it because of financial matters? is it because of a parent's agreement? man of your dreams can be different with the man you love. Right??? we have our ideal man this is what we call the man of our dreams, but sometimes we can't mold this dreams of character into one man or one person. I believe that marriage can work when there is love, trust, and respect. The three components that can make any relationship successful.
• Kottayam, India
20 Apr 07
Better understanding of the person you marry will solve all problems, this is an institution made by God it cannot go wrong. First man should his wife secondly wife should respect the man easy going
@diillu (5128)
20 Apr 07
life is not a bed of roses and it's abviously it is not to get always what you wanted. Of course marriage works if the person is not your dream person..it still works..in my point of view to survive the marriage all you need is trust, hope and respect. These can be done to the person other than your fantasy man of course. My mum and dad they had arranged marriage..they even have not seen each other before their marriage and they have a very happy married life till today..i think its already 30 years of their marriage and they are love birds
• India
20 Apr 07
We can dream any thing we like.But the real life is entirely different from the dream.The success of any marriage depends on the mutual understanding between the partners.