guys help me please to solve it.. I think I'm inlove with my chatmate...

I'm just thinking that time.. - it's a day dreaming.. a dream to meet my most awaiting guy for me.. lolz.. whehehe
@jlo228 (170)
Philippines
April 20, 2007 11:02am CST
guys..pls listen to me, In a middle of my boredome, I have decided to do chat and when I entered in the chatroom, I've met an unexpected boy in that chatroom. I've planned to make funny things if they respond to me..but this boy is so naughty at first. I would like to log-out because I don't know if he's a real s** addict or just pretending. But lately there was something that I couldn't explain, my heart beat so fast when this boy said sorry to me because he already knew that I'm not a kind of bad girl that he thinks...I've fallen for him eventually and we do a voice chat everytime he's online.. What can I do? I don't know if he really loves me but why he's always spending his time on me??
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@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
In the first place.. where is he from? I must say that you must see him personally first... then study your feelings towards him... If you still feel the same go ahead... But dont let your feelings grow without seeing him... chat is nnot a real world.. you can make a lot of pretending there my friend...
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• India
20 Apr 07
love - love is life
hi i am rajesh and am in engg. college and am in hostel and i always interfear with ths type of cases and i know the result of this type of case ... as you dont know that man and after chating u are in love but this is not fare because at ths tme one can cheat u and after cheating he can misuse you as i am not telling you to break ur relationship u can continue as if he is a good guy then u can ask him to meet . and please know about his BACKGROUND WHO S HE BECAUSE IT IS NOT A FILM LINE THIS S A REAL LFE AND F U DO ANY MISTAKE IN THIS LINE THEN U WILL FAIL AND ALSO U HAVE TO PAY A PLAENTY as if u have to think about ur parents as they love u from child hood so u have to decide in respect of your parent u have to descus it with ur parent and tell them that u r in love wth that guy ...
@lrincon1 (157)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I don't think you are in love with him I just think you enjoy chatting with him, you cannot be in love with someone that you don't know in person, it's so easy to lie and pretend to be someone you're not on the internet, a lot of people have a different personality when you talk to them online but when you meet them in person they can be different, if he doesn't live far from you meet him in person maybe you will be dissapointed when you meet him because he won't be the person that you thought he was or who knows maybe you will like him. I met my boyfriend online we used to talk for more than 7 hours online and like 5 hours on the phone, I just knew that if I met him I was going to start having for him and I was right I fell in love with him so yup u never know maybe if you meet this guy you will really fall in love with him
@xannebull (1800)
• Philippines
28 May 09
hello jlo, it's not bad falling in love with somebody else, but falling in love with chatmate is sometimes deceiving. you have to carefully assess his personality and know him well.
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
Well, i think your not inlove, its just like. For me love is something deeper, and cant be develop thru the internet alone. You should meet the person first and if you still have the same feelings after talking to him in person then thats the time, you can say if you are inlove or not. You just talk or chat most of the time, and you kinda being attach a bit, but once your computer started messing up, and cant get online for couple of weeks, you ll forget bout what you ve had.
• Hong Kong
8 Apr 08
He spending many time to you? He has a job? Take Care! I think your parents can told you how to do right now.
@jithinsb (520)
• India
21 Jan 08
Don't do any stupid things.If and only if you are very sure that he is not playing with your feelings you should put your heart in the matter.because it is in your hand how you are going to be after some days or so.He may behave well ,say sorry or what ever it may be ,just because it is only online chatting..anyway you are not going to get bothered in that case if at all you play with someone's feelings.anyway he/she is not going to kill you if you become naughty..if something goes wrong just close the chat window..it is as simple as that...so how can you even think to give your heart to a guy in such conditions...don't be stupid...thats all i want to say..
• Philippines
21 Jan 08
really?oh thats great! you know even me,i met a guy in chat room and i fall in love to him also, but before that he is the first guy tells me that im a special girl for him and he can do anything,and anything i want and that's what makes me good and happy he always says that he will always wait for me until that the right time will come for us.and until now i always believe to him..and i want you to know that you can do what your heart say's you always follow your heart beat and if you think that it is right for you, go and do anything that makes you happy and full field.and if you ever get hurt don't be stucked on one corner,you need to move on and your world is always continuing to move until you find the right guy for you.but i cant say that guy is the right person for you,because you need to know her more than you think.because its not easy to say that he is the right guy and you will spend your whole life to him.so be careful to your self and to what you feel. ok? so take care and god bless you always. reanicah
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
you should not believe to someone you really didn't see.. maybe he just bored that time. Think twice before you eventually fall for him. Goodluck!
• Malaysia
21 Apr 07
i do not think you really fell in love with him.it is more to lust and temporary attractions only.when you get anew friend you would feel that way.i experienced it a lot of times too.but i was never get carried away with that feelings after sometime you would not feel that way anymore.if both of you are not from same country then definitily you need to forget him and your feelings.because long distance relationship would never work.but if both of you are from same country then you can start by meeting him first.start as a friends before involving in a real relationship. even if he spend most of the time every day with you it still doesn't mean everything.maybe he did that because he is too free.or maybe he just consider you as his chat partner.even i spend time almost every day with another guy just as a friend.i feel like you are just more like to touched when he apologised to you. that is mormal feelings.but it still doesn't show you really fell in love with someone without really meeting and knowing about his personality
@hqadim (10)
• United States
21 Apr 07
Choose wisely live lovely! what are your factors or criteria? what are the raelly important factors that you never put them aside? Dos he have those criteria? if yes continue , if not leave the case alone and never ever think about it again! Do you have his qualoifications too? ask him! talk about his factors! If you are not the one leave the case otherwise continue! Put time, Know him well, don't rush and don't be too hasty! If he is the one, then MARRY HIM!
• India
21 Apr 07
Every guys in the world try to say sorry for the things to be done for them. So be alert, think twice and make your step accordingly. Just we cant predict through chat that this guy is very good and honest. So be careful.
@vamisola (906)
• Australia
21 Apr 07
By the way, where is he from? You have to be careful. Lot's of guys are pretentious. If you think he is for real, still don't give all your trust. Meet him and introduce him to your parents first. Know him better.
• Canada
21 Apr 07
Probably spending time with you because he's bored like you said you are. Most chat for fun, for looking for that someone, or just to kill time. If you think you have special feelings for him, the best way is to set up an actual date, always remember, you've never seen the guy, so he's still a stranger. You don't know nothing about him. Believe me, there are a lot of players in chat so be careful. Goodluck.
@kring_m (107)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
we really couldn't tell the real personality of a person unless we talk or interact with them personally. as you have said, maybe it's just because you are bored with your daily routine that's why you have decided to meet new people online. my advice is that, you first have to ask yourself what are the risks in entering this kind of relationship. Love is all about taking risks right? you have to ask him also how does he feel about you. If you know your life would be better with him then it's good. what really matters is that you are both happy. good luck girl! keep me posted.. :)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
control your emotion girl!you still don't know that guy very well...maybe he is just playing around...i don't believe that you are in love with him...it's just that you are curious of that guy so relax...take things slowly...
• United States
21 Apr 07
I just wanted to add my thought even though you were looking to talk to men. I think there are alot of things that come before you know you are in love and everything you have to weigh out you option so that you do not end up heart broken and before you even love him make sure he feels the same. How long have you known him. Does he even love you? Are you sure this is what you really want. I think I will leave the rest up to you but I think you know what I mean. I just wanted to wish you the best with whatever you do and decide. happy mylotting
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
You'll know the answers to these questions once you start seeing each other. But for your first meetings I suggest you take major precautions. You might want to bring a friend along. You might want to meet in a public place where you can get help in case he turns out to be a maniac.
• United States
20 Apr 07
Hahahah, this is funny. So based on reading your post, I would assume that you like this person whom you're talking to. Have you actually see him in person or do you just talk? Just be weary of all this internet chatting things, they are usually fake people or bots, but in your case, this you've actually talked to this guy. If you REALLY think that he could be a good friend, then you guys could do video chat. Or perhaps you could even try to meet him in person if he lives close by. Either way, I don't see how you could fall for someone whom you met online, unless its only physical attraction.
@arjun07 (75)
20 Apr 07
If you hve never seen him then you never no on computers You should be carefull and find out who it is really first then you should decide thanks
• Malaysia
20 Apr 07
Em...there are true love exists via internet. But i guess both has to know how to protect themself first. I have similar experience that a guy confess his love via internet, he is from Toronto. I have another fren who studies in the same university with him, so, i asked my friend to check out this guy, because he is so funny, we never meet in person, how could he fall in love wiht me. It turns out that this guy already has a steady gf, and he is just playing around in icq or mirc. My advice is like wise, becareful and all the best for you.