when a friend asks u to lent him $100,will u ask for a reason?

Of course I would ask what the money is for. If they refused to tell me I probably wouldn't lend it to them. I only lend money when it is a case of neccesity.

my friends rarely ask me for money,so yes i would ask-not for being nosey,but to make sure there isn't a deeper problem maybe i can help with. like if they said "i have no food".i could point them toward emergency food banks if it happened again.

Since its my money and at least to me 100$ is a large amount of money, I would ask him why and if I really couldnt part with it I would tell him the truth.

of course i will ask why he/she want to borrow money from me, then i 'll decide wether to lent him money or not, if it's very important then i'll lend him

Of course I will ask him why he is nedding that much money. I value my savings that much and I dont spend a penny if can. If he is really in a bad need for the money, at least tell me the reason. What you did was right but I must admit sometimes its just hard to refuse someone who is in need. But in your case, as you say, he's involved in gambling, he needs to give you avalid reason why he is needing the money.

Its my hard earned money, and if someone wants some, yes, I expect to know why. When possible I will get the item they need rather than cash so I know its being used for good. I don't have much money myself, so even to spare a little is a heartache for me. Ex. my friend had 3 kids, and no food in the house, asked to borrow money for food. I went to the store, did some savvy on sale shopping and for about $50 bought them enough to last at least a week. I wouldnt let them starve, but nor do I want to be buying them cookies. Only exception might be someone really close to me, who knows my money situation, and I know would never ask if it wasnt urgent. Rule of thumb on lending money. Never lend more than you can afford to lose, I always lend on the expectation that I'm not ever gonna see it again. If they pay back, great, if not, I they know never to ask again.

It is hard to refuse a friend but if he is a gambler he probably lost his money gambling. He obviously is not a good friend as he only called you when he needed you for money.

i think if the same thing will happen to me, then i will also ask my friend what it is that he is going to do with the money but not in an offending way. maybe joke or kinda kid about him borrowing, something like that, because i need to know where the money will go. if i'll be helping someone or if it's just going to be used for something illegal or stuffs like that. i think it is also my responsibilty too. that the money will be put to good use.:)

whenever someone asks me to lend them money, i never have to ask what it is for. usually that person just tells me what it is for. even if they didnt tell me, that is fine. it is money that is being lent to them, and as long as they are going to pay me back, that is their own personal business. in your case though, i think i would have asked too. if i had a friend with a gambling problem, i would be concerned too. i would also have to wonder if i would even be getting my money back. i have only had one person, i thought she was a friend at the time, ask me for a large amount of money to borrow. i lent it to her, but it took her almost a year to pay it back to me. it wasnt even in one big payment either. it was always just 10 dollars here and there. in the end, i never did recieve the whole amount back. she always claimed that she was broke and couldnt pay me back yet, but she would always have new shoes, or be going out to eat for lunch. needless to say, when she had the nerve to ask to borrow some more (still didnt pay me back half of the first amount) i had to tell her no.

It's unethical to whimsically call an old friend just to borrow money. I only lend money to friends unless when there's a dire need for it, otherwise, they'd better look for other sources.

Considering this "friend's" history, I probably would have done the same. However, if it had been a friend that I knew to be a person of good character, I would have no problem with it. I've heard that the standing rule should be that when a friend or family member comes to you for a loan, you should always assume that you won't get it back. So, I guess it depends on how much you value the person.

I do not borrow money to just anyone. When I do borrow money its because someone is short of cash to buy something. I'm sure if its a large amount and its urgent, they'll be the one to give a reason as to why they needed the money. I don't borrow money to just anyone. I borrow them to responsible people who will pay it back. When I do not want to borrow money to the person who's asking I'll just say that I don't have money.

It depends on what type of friend it is, If its someone like your friend or someone that is close to me. It takes me a week to make 100 dollars so they would be asking a bit from me. If a good friend randomly called me and asked for it, I might be inclined to say yes, reason or no reason. Judging by the fact of whether they will pay me back or not. If a person I hardly ever talk to calls me, id be more inclined to say no, unless they promised to pay back at least half the money.

definitely $100 is not an ordinary thing. and if someone comes and ask you , you experience shock and also a little apprehension. if my friend is really needy i wont question much ,but if its someone i dont know very well i ll find out the entire matter before lending. becuase u cant trust everyone and anyone. there are some people who borrow money and forget that they have ever borrowed. so if u dont ask beforehand there may be a chance that yr money will never be returned.

well you are very right. Why would he want you to borrow him money and he did not accept to tell you what he wanted to do with it Yeah and you bet the only reason he called you was to tell you that he needed money and not because he really wanted to ask about your welfare. I think you are very much on course by asking him what he wanted to do with the money cause of his antecedent in gambling with money and your anxiety about collecting your money back from him. If i were in your shoes i would also ask cause it is my money

In your situation you couldn't have a better response: no or bad reason for asking for money, not a real friend, if a close friend of mine asks me for money & know by experience it's not his kind to use it wrongly, I might ask him why, but if he refuse to tell me the reason I would lend him anyways

Hmm.. Yeah. I can understand why u did that. He only turned up when he wants something from u.:( If it happened to me, i will do the same as u. Unless they are a very close friends of me.. friends who we can trust.. like ur situation, he is not real friend.

I wouldn't lend money with the friend giving no reason at all. Personally I lend money because when someone asks me he really needs it and gives it back. Although there are many times when I lend money, forget that i have lend it and then when he gives the money gave I'm like....for what? Pretty funny isn't it. I really need to be more serious about it.

of course, i too will ask why my friend would be needing money. there is a reason for sure. if it's for emergency, if it concerns health, family, then i would lend my friend. but if it's for paying debts, i might think twice. why? because it'll be possible that my friend will be borrowing again from another person to pay his debt against me. there should be limitations in friendship. some instances that involves money between friendship ends up of becoming enemy to one another because of financial understandings. we must be very intelligent when doing this kind of decision because some friends just want to play the fool.

When my friends or family members ask me if they can borrow money I never question them about it. I mean what if you needed money and someone told you they would lend it to you but they needed to know why. Wouldn't you feel agravated or even mad? It is just that friends and family will ask to borrow money from you and it is non of your business what they need it for. Either you are going to lend the money to them or you are not simple as that. There is no need to aks what the money will be used for. Stay out of other peoples business if you don't want other people in yours. If payment is the issue get your friend or family member to sign a promisary note and that it's all.