Spanking kids with ADHD!

@soccermom (3200)
United States
April 21, 2007 8:27pm CST
I just read a message board on msn about alternative treatments for ADHD, aside from mrdication. I was surprised at the amount of posts that said their parents spanked them to control their ADHD! I have ADHD myself, and have struggled with it my whole life, but my parents never spanked me as a way of keeping me in control. I think keeping a regular schedule, allowing me to express my creativity and giving me a stern talking to when I needed it did the trick. I am an incredibly productive adult, although I am dependent on my day planner and post it notes, and the occassional reminders from my husband to stay focused. Do you think spanking is effective? I have never spanked my kids, I have never had to, but I couldn't imagine this as a way to keep them focused and controlled.
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@xfahctor (14131)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
23 Apr 07
It seems theses days adhd is an overused diagnosis for any kid who doesn't behave. It's the new age thing for progressive liberal parenting methods. I'm not saying it doesn't totlay exist, but I don't believe it does to the extent teachers and parents claim it does. The school tried to tag my daughter with it when she was in kindergarden. Well, let me tell you, no meds were ever given and no trips to the doctor about it, it was a BEHAVIOR problem. Yes, i spanked my kids when they truly deserved it and they are grown and doing quite well as productive members of society with no tendencies towards violence or any other nonsense some people associate with spanking.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I agree with you, ADHD is a way overdiagnosed condition. Parents should be aware of the difference of kids just acting their age versus one who is really struggling in day to day life. Our country is way to dependant on medications. There is a pill for everything and pills to counteract the effects of that pill and so on and so forth. It makes me wonder what happened to raising your kids right, instead of running to the doctor for a pill everytime they start acting out.
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I am not really that familiar with true ADHD. I think it does exist, but I really don't think it is as common as people think. My husband had a teacher that claimed he had it. His parents took him to the doctor and got him medicated for it. He turned so violent from it that he was in much more trouble than he ever was before! His real problem was that he was dyslexic and acted up when he couldn't understand something. It had nothing to do with ADHD. I think everyone just classifies any kid with any behavioral problems as ADHD. I dont' think spanking will solve any problems, though. We give my son an occasional swat on the hands or the butt, but only for things that are dangerous to him or someone else. And those are just swats with our hands, not with anything else. I think that repeatedly spanking your child for every little thing with a paddle or something just breeds fear and contempt.
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I don't believe that spanking will help them focus or get control of themselves. I do admit that I have spanked my children for doing somethings like starting fires. I have a system in place. Usually I will talk to my children about what they did wrong and what the consequences could be. I agree that for the most part talking is the best way to handle any kind of child whether they have ADHD or not. Time outs work well also but I also think that after you have done the talking and the time out that if they continue to do the offense then a swat on the butt doesn't hurt.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
22 Apr 07
After reading the responses I'm getting I think I should've clarified "spanking". My kids have gotten the occassional swat, like when I caught my 4 year old playing with a lighter, but the majority of the posts on the board I read involved wooden paddles and the like as punishment. To me that is just taking it too far. Kids do need the occassional swat, but nothing like what these people were talking about.
@rowantree (1190)
• United States
24 Apr 07
ROFLMAO...oh...thank you for making me laugh. Oh my! Like spanking is going to fix a biochemical disorder? Must be a conspiracy with all the pharmaceutical companies, right? These kids don't need medication, just a spanking - Oh...my sides hurt from laughing. Sometimes people are just so insanely stupid. Instead of spanking, why don't we round up these idiots & plop them onto an island somewhere so they'll leave all of the people who actually use their brain alone? :D
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@Jennifer21 (2476)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I am a firm believer in NOT spanking your children. I have never and will never see the point in it. I was abused as a child, so I have made it a point to NEVER hit my children no matter what. I have found that sitting my son on the couch, standing him in the corner or sending him to his room tends to do the trick just fine.
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