how long can you stand being away from ur partners?

@aciddrop (798)
April 22, 2007 11:13am CST
some people are very independent from their partners.thats why they can figure out a long-distance relationship.my friend just pointed out that how could i stand being ignored for a whole day by my bf even without a msg?and that such a guy doesnt deserved to be cared about.well my bf was going to HK this afternoon but from the previous night to the moment he gotta leave he did not contact me at all.i guess my friend overeacted a bit coz she even claimed that she would dump a guy if he treated her this way. well i dont really care though if he had sent me a msg i would have been more happy.so 1 day being apart from each other and no msg is ok.thats fine.but am i the kinda people who can be still alright staying away from bf for a certain period?defintely not.just not long ago my bf went to australia for a-month holiday.you know that period of time was really hard to me,as if i was undergoing 1 year alone.heck still feel like a nightmare now. do you prefer to spend most of ur time with ur partners like me?will this pressure them a lot?i know alone time is needed for a relationship.but i cant stand being alone for long.do you?
5 responses
@mypeace (395)
• Nigeria
23 Apr 07
l dont attach my life to a guy. my happiness does not depend on my guy. lf he is around, all well and good, but if there is a need for him to be away for even up to 1 year, l dont have problem with it. Though l and my fiance call each other at least once a day, but if by any thing he doesnt call, l would sure understand him. l appreciate communication in relationship, but l wont dump a guy because he didnt call me for a day, or away from me for even up to a year, if am aware of whats is happening. l would only pick offence, if only am kept in dark.
@aciddrop (798)
23 Apr 07
you're very understanding.but i think it has something to do the guy you're with.if the guy gives you a high sense of security and makes you feel confident enough towards ur relationship,then you will be less dependent.
@mypeace (395)
• Nigeria
23 Apr 07
you are absolutely right. l think all we need from our guys is just assurance and commitment. lf we get these, we wont give ourselves headaches over nothing.
• United States
23 Apr 07
Well I spend most of my weekdays alone, since my husband works, and yes I get lonley and miss him, but I know he will come back. On weekends we spend a lot of time together and it makes up for his work week. You have to miss one another to keep the love alive, if we were together every second of every day, we would feel cramped, every couple needs to give one another space. There is nothing wrong with it.
@aciddrop (798)
23 Apr 07
yes you're right.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I'm actually a very indepentant woman so I can be away from my man for extended periods of time no problem...but I'm also the type of woman who, should he ever want to go our seperate ways for any reason, I'd be like "oh ok, see ya and call us some time" ya know...I have trained myself over the yrs to NOT NEED anyone (other than my kids, I'd be lost without them)....
@aciddrop (798)
22 Apr 07
oh i'd really like to be independent like you.i think men like women who can do things themselves.
@qoo_rie (428)
• Indonesia
22 Apr 07
i can't... i'm independent enough, well we've been separetd for about 1 month... n it sucks... i don't like it. even we do lot of communication but somehow can't meet him is even worse.... but it try not to think about it. well it has to be like this... well being away isn't our want.. but... i think t'll survive this... so far just 1 month.... he's coming bac tomorrow...yippy.. don't know how long he's gonna be here though ^^
@aciddrop (798)
22 Apr 07
i totally understand ur feeling.when my bf was in aus,we sent email and talked online too.but that turned out to be useless coz i still missed him a lot!and the nigth b4 he came back,i was too excited to fall asleep:P
@eunixia (387)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
I can't stand being a long for a day without my husband. For me, support and special attention are needed for us both. We need each other.