Should one be required to wear his or her wedding ring?

Philippines
April 22, 2007 9:45pm CST
For married people out there --- do you still wear your wedding ring? Do you wear your wedding ring anywhere and everywhere you go? Do you think that wearing your wedding should be a responsibility and should be done always or do you think that you're really not supposed to be required to wear it? Should you still wear your wedding ring? Do you think that one should stop wearing his or her wedding ring if you have problems in your marriage? Do you think that not wearing your wedding ring signifies the lack of commitment?
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Well let's see. I have been married for 11 years. My husband lost his first ring in the ocean after about 6 months of marriage. That was replaced about 1 yr later and that one was crushed in his job (along with his finger) after about 3 years. Now just recently, we have both gotten rings, this past Christmas actually. My original ring was ripped off my finger at a job I had, I was lucky to keep my finger. That was 6 years ago. Now we both have rings, I wear mine all the time. My hubby only wears his when we go out, as it is very dangerous at his job to wear it. I don't think it means he loves me any less or is any less committed to me because he doesn't wear it. We both went years without one, and here we are, still married & still happy. Commitment is in your heart & conscious. If you love someone, no ring, no paper, nothing is valuable enough to prove it. Many people are married, wear rings, and remove them to have affairs. A ring symbolizes the love and commitment you share, but nothing proves it other than your actions.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 07
rings - symbol of love and commitment
whew! you sure have a lot of questions on wedding rings:) i'll try to answer every question if i can. yes, i still wear my wedding ring. i'm only married for 3 years now so i am still in love with my ring. yes, i wear it for 24 hours, 7 days a week. wearing the ring is more of a commitment i did to my husband. the ring symbolizes our vows for each other. it reminds us that we are already one and that we have to stand by each other 24/7. even if it is not required to wear it, i'd still wear it. no one is forcing me now to wear it but i do. i think, it depends on the person wearing the ring if he or she should remove it when trouble sinks in their marriage. if the ring is just an additional accesory to the finger and it doesn't do anything else, whether the couple is okay or not, they can choose to wear it or not.
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@s_bala (75)
• India
23 Apr 07
I reason that married people must wear the wedding ring always. If they choose not to wear it at home its OK however, while in public and outside of home they should wear it. The wedding ring shows your affections and belongingness to your partner, and lets your partner know that you are committed to him/her. This will also keep unnecessary people away as they will know that you are married.
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@Calais (10900)
• Australia
23 Apr 07
I dont think not wearing it means a lack of commitment in the relationship. My husband cannot wear his due to safety reasons in the work place and I stopped wearing mine when I was pregnant because my fingers swelled up, and I just havnt put it back on. We still love each other, not having a ring on dosnt change anything.
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• United States
23 Apr 07
I don't always wear my wedding ring, because I am allergic to the metal that it is made of, but when I am going out places I will put it on, to stop others from hitting on me, and it saves me from having to tell people to back off. I don't think it should be shunned if someone does not wear their wedding ring, because although I know what it signifies, you can still be committed to your spouse and love them just as much. Just because a person doesn't wear their wedding ring doesn't mean they love their spouse any less. To me the ring is just an object, the true meaning comes from within yourself.
@kuting (887)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
i think married people should really wear their ring. yes, having ring meand you are already committed to someone and that should clear to others who might be interested in you. even if you have problems, it doesnt mean that your commitment with your spouse ends there. you are still married and you both should work out to find a solution to your problem. not wearng your ring might only cause other problems to arise and may encourage others to hit on you.
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@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Apr 07
wedding band/ring - must be wear all the time if your married
Im married and i wear my ring all the time , its a sign of bond between the husband and wife and must be wear all the time, i think it does in one point a sign of not respecting your vows as a married couple,which means you tend to violate it and find somebody else.
• Italy
23 Apr 07
eh? what?
• United States
23 Apr 07
we have been married for 30 years in May. i wear my ring but my husband does not wear his.. I used to get upset becase he would take it off and keep it in his wallet. we would have discussions about it quite often...i talked him into wearing it for a couuple of months, and everything was going fine. Until the day he came home with cuts on his finger from the ring. he had got it caught on something at work and almost lost his finger...i never again made a comment about his ring. i know he loves me. there are to many jobs out there where if you catch your ring on something you can lose a finger.. think about what is more important to you, the fact that he wears the ring, or if he has all his fingers?
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@gasmas100 (588)
• India
23 Apr 07
some people prefer not wearing any jewellery or ornaments at all, while some others prefer to just show that they are not necessarily married-rather- are available. Depends on why the other person is really not wearing the ing is the reason.........try getting the real reason, if justified then excusable.
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23 Apr 07
I always wear my wedding ring to wherever I go. It is a very dear thing for me which has been given to me by my husband. I feel it very close to my heart.
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@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
23 Apr 07
I am not married but when i am I will definately wear it at all times. I am sure that I will also have my husband wear it =) I think it is a sign of your love for eachother and why not just wear the ring?
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@skbadhan (881)
• India
23 Apr 07
one should wear it if one fells that its a indication for commitment to someone he has choosen as life partner. but i personaly don't like to wear it as i am not habitual of wearing any kind of rings i feel disturbed even i do have my wedding ring but i wear it only once on the occasion of my marrige after that its laying there in my cupboard.
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
Me and my husband do not wear our wedding rings but still our lov e for each other dont do something about that. Even if you dont wear your ring, its in you whether you will cheat on him or not, weather you will have problems or not. The ring is only things that reminds your wedding but it up for the both of you on what will happen on your marriage.
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• Malaysia
23 Apr 07
okay.. i'm not a married couple.. but i do believe i should be given a chance to voice my opinion right? i think that wearing a wedding ring is very important if you're married.. why? because it tells others that you're not single.. and not available.. so.. others won't be causing trouble to you.. if you don't wear your wedding ring.. think of it.. people might be chasing after you.. because they're unsure whether you're single or not.. right? i think wedding ring is something that one should wear for life.. so.. i disagree to those that actually stop wearing wedding ring just because they have problem in their relationship.. i believe tolerance is the best solution for all relationship problems :)
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@mailovee (265)
• China
23 Apr 07
I would like my wife I mean future wife wearing wedding ring and I will do that two.For many reasons ,just like someone said saving you a lot troubles,but the most important is I do think of it as a commitment,rings are symbols that we love each other and we belong to each other,they can remind us all the time you are in love with someone and what you should do what you should not. But there are security problems it might not safe to wearing pricey rings.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
im not married yet. but my siblings are married already and i noticed that they dont usually wear their wedding ring. i never actually seen my brothers wear their wedding ring. my sisters-in-law wear them but most of the times they take it off.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
24 Apr 07
No I don't wear my ring and neither does my husband. We have been married going on 16 years this June. I cannot wear my ring because it no longer fits because I have gained weight I used to be able to wear size 8 now I have to have a size 11. He doesn't wear one because he works with his hands as a carpenter and it gets hung up on things so he just got used to not wearing it when he wasn't working. NO I don't think it signifies lack of commitment alot of guys don't wear rings. If a couple wears rings throughout their whole marriage but then has problems. No I don't think they should stop wearing then because that is a sign that they are giving up, not trying. I would probably wear one everyday if I had one that fit. He bought me another one but it is also to small. I will just have to lose weigh tto be able to wear them.
• United States
24 Apr 07
I think married people should wear their wedding ring always. I'm not married but if I was this is what I'd do. Wearing the ring tells everyone that you have committed yourself to another, not to mentioned it lets those of us who are single that this married person is unavailable. I know many folks don't think a ring is all that important, but it is. It signals to your spouse that your marriage is something taken seriously by you and that it means something. The only time I think not wearing a ring is OK, is when legally separated and filing for divorce. It might seem old-fashioned, but today too many get married and divorced so easily, without really thinking things through.
@ezynex (28)
• Rwanda
24 Apr 07
hello Asteriskec, You asked a very nice question! i feel must marrird couples are reallyy proud of themselves that each time they look at the ring in their finger the feel deep sense of beloging. i use my ring as a symbol of pride and i encourage every couple to put it on at anytime becos finding a soulmate is not easy.... hahahahaha ... thanks to everyone ezynex
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I wear mine, and have worn it everyday since the day I got married over twenty years ago. On the other hand, my husband does not wear his. I find that this is true of a lot of men, that they don't wear their rings, and I don't think it means they would cheat on their wives. I just think a lot of men don't like to wear jewelry, including rings.