How do you discipline you child?

Philippines
April 23, 2007 6:51am CST
Is it by force and intimidation? The used of iron rod? coercion? pleading? by rewards system? How is it really done?
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• United States
23 Apr 07
I have a 5 year old daughter who was totally out of control, so I went to a discipline training and learned some really good ideas. We use time out, she gets 5 minutes in time out, because they say 1 minute per year of age. Usually if you be clear and consistent aboout which behaviors are acceptable and which are not and be clear and consistent about what you want, you won't have too much trouble with them. There used to be alot of yelling in my house, until I discovered that's a waste of time.The only thing that taught her was to yell at me.LOL. So for now the time-out thing is what works best for us. Great topic.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 07
Yes, to be clear and consistent is hard to do. You child notice it when you are not consistent.
@Mickie30 (2636)
23 Apr 07
My daughter is a very good girl and I think she is like this because since she was born I have been telling her how much I love her and how good she is. By teaching your child how valuable they are to you this is how I believe you discipline a child because then they do not want to upset you. If you tell your child they are naughty then they will come to believe it and act like that.
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
It is like positive thinking. These is a very good advise.
@mmygrace (78)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
A child will always be a child. Disciplining them needs not to be coercive. The iron hand won't work neither. If my child does something wrong, I talk to him and make him realize that what he did was wrong. I try to ask him to be humble at all times and admit his mistakes willingly and as much as possible, ask him not to do his wrong deeds again. Diplomacy would always be the right mode of discipline although at times, spanking would be ok but not too much. I believe that physical pain would bring torture and trauma to children. Giving them sense of realization and responsibility as young as they are would ensure that they grow up knowing their limitations.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 07
i am not yet a parent. but for all the parents out there, if ever you tend to use force on your child, please don't overuse it. please watch yourself as you use force because this leads to so much damage to a child's esteem. it happened to me and i don't want all those kids suffering from it.
@lightningMD (5937)
• United States
23 Apr 07
WE use time outs and groundings. The worst thing in the world for our daughter is to be sent to her room and seperated from the rest of the family. It works every time.
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