if you could meet yourself as a child, what advice would you give yourself?

@ESKARENA1 (18299)
April 23, 2007 9:51am CST
I have often thought that i wish i had the benefits of youth with the wisdom of age. If you were to meet yourself as a child, what advice would you give yourself?
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@derek_a (10902)
23 Apr 07
Oh yes, I wish too! What would I tell myself? Strangely enough, not a lot. I feel that all the mistakes I have made, all the pain I have encountered has brought me to who I am today. It's almost as if I know that I came here to do just what I have done and I would go through it all again. If I had the awareness of what was happening that would be great, but not really. I would tend to just think, 'this is what I supposed to do, the pain will soon stop' I feel I have to be in that space of 'not knowing' as I am right now. Sometimes it scares the life out of me, but it has to. I think it was Helen Keller who said, "life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all". That just about sums it up for me I think. I feel wisdom cannot be given, it has to be discovered. :)
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
23 Apr 07
i think logically you speak a lot of sense, but the yearning remains, if only i knew then what i know now remains very strong blessed be
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@derek_a (10902)
23 Apr 07
Ah yes... The past is gone my friend, is but an illusion. Yearn if you must, but yearn in the present until you really understand.. :)
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Oh ho is this a loaded question for me to answer....there are so many times that with what I know now I wish I could go back and change...I was too much of a child seeking approval especially with my mother...my parents were divorced and I never got to know my father...growing up I heard nothing but negative things about him..but then she'd turn around and say--oh, you're just like him, you have his personality...is it any wonder I wanted my mom's approval of anything...now I know that I don't need to seek the approval of anyone..save myself...either you like me or you don't...but I sure wish I had come to that conclusion and concept when I was younger as a child. Also, I would tell my "child" self never let anyone talk you out of your dreams and goals..if you have a goal and you want to pursue it by all means go for it...I didn't do that as a child...again the approval thing--and many times I gave in to what my mom wanted just to keep her silent so she wouldn't go on and on and on about it--took me a very long time to realize just how manipulative my mom was-- a real push your buttons type. It's only NOW after all these years that I'm starting to go after my goals full steam ahead...at the "young" age of 51! So bottom line...if I were to tell my child self what I know now..don't be bending half a.. backwards trying to please or seek approval of anyone...the only person to approve of it yourself..and to never ever give up on goals or dreams just because it doesn't get the approval of one's parent(s)
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
24 Apr 07
i remember the day. It was my 40th birthday party and all of a sudden it hit me. Who I am now, fully formed, what you see is what you get . Oh the power of having that level of self-belief as a child blessed be
23 Apr 07
I think I was lucky and had a good childhood, but if i met myself as a teenager then i think i would have to tell myself to be more outspoken and make people listen to what i have to say and not what or how they want me to be, I would deffinately gone for more long term learning instead of a couple of years after school at college and i deffinately would have made myself stay away from boys hahahah blessed be
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
23 Apr 07
hahaha i agree with the stay away from boys bit lol, but seriously, isnt it sad we can never combine youth with knowledge? blessed be sister
• Canada
23 Apr 07
If I met myself as a child, depending on the age,I would equip her with the most knowledge i possibly could give her. My younger self was very trusting and unknowing and because of certain things that happened in her life she ended up getting hurt, and hurt badly by people who were suppose to be family. I would basically warn her, tell her that even as a child she is still powerful and she has a voice, a pretty loud voice that would have been heard if she wasn't too afraid to talk...I would have warned her about the dangers of smoking and how it could rob and take away so many people in her future... My younger self would have grown up feeling a little more confidant about herself, and she would have felt like the world was there for the taking instead of feeling that the world was out to get her...knowledge is power, and I would have made sure she knew that...
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
23 Apr 07
i think that is absolutely great advice to give to any child, i think the dificulty is getting the child to accept it blessed be
23 Apr 07
I would have to say ... do not be quite so trusting and generous. Be more sensible with your money and work harder at school
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
23 Apr 07
i certainly know what you mean about the trusting bit. I would think to be aware of others intentions would be an ideal blessed be
• United States
23 Apr 07
To be honest and confident. We tend to tell too many white lies to get by in life. Also, as we grow, we listen to other's opinions far too much and allow it to chip away at our confidence until we just settle for anything remotely close to our dreams. I would tell myself to remain confident in the face of adversity and be honest and hold to your morals no matter what happens.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
23 Apr 07
that would be great advice indeed
@k1tten (2321)
• United States
23 Apr 07
The advice I'd give my younger self would be not to procrastinate and to think before you spoke. Yeah... I need that advice.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
23 Apr 07
i think that is a universal need. We do waste an awful amount of time doing nothing at all and it really is always later than you think blessed be
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
i would probably tell little me to watch my diet! so that i will be healthy!
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 07
Well for a start I would advise myself not to marry who I did I would also advise myself that I will have an incurable Illness and to try and Deal with it straight away Do not let People walk over me all the time and hurt me I would also advise myself to never feel useless I think those would be the main things
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