Do you think big is beautiful?

@mamasan34 (6522)
United States
April 23, 2007 1:37pm CST
I am a larger sized woman. I have never been able to get back down to my former size. I have been thinking about this a lot. Why can't big be beautiful? I have accepted that I will never be thin again. I am a little bigger than I would like to be, but I am comfortable with my body. I love me. The stereotypes of larger ladies is atrocious. Maybe some women are like that, but I am certainly not. I am very clean, I watch what I eat for the most part, I work out twice a day. Unfortunately for me I have hypothyroidism. I will never be thin, it just won't happen for me. I work with what the good Lord gave me to work with. I wear size appropriate clothing, but I am very sexy. I wear heels and I wear make up, I fix my hair and I feel good about myself. So, I do think big is beautiful, not just because I am a thick madame, but because I find beauty in all things big or small. I think Monique is one of the sexiest ladies out there. She is also my role model. She is confident, and unapologetic for being who she is. So, how do you feel about the larger ladies?
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@Foxxee (3654)
• United States
23 Apr 07
It's all about how you carry yourself. If you have good self esteem and you feel sexy, then you will be seen as sexy to others. I'm a large woman as well and I have a very handsome husband and two beautiful kids. My husband makes me feel good about myself everyday. There are men out there that like big women. What they don't like is someone who has low self esteem. Just don't be shy or worry about your weight. you are who you are and if they like it, then good, and if they don't, then oh well, just keep on moving. You seem like you have it together and I'm sure there are people that think you are sexy. And I think big women can be sexy, it's all how you carry it. :)
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Miss Foxxee, you seem to have it together too! I am so glad to see that there are more larger ladies out there that feel the same as me. I just see a lot of these women hanging their heads down low because they don't feel that they are worthy to be considered pretty just because they are heavy. I know there are men out there that love the big ladies. I have dated many of them and they were handsome and very proud to stand by my side. It is definitely how you carry it and having good self esteem. I do'nt care if not another living soul didn't see me as sexy. I know I am. LOL
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@sunshine4 (8710)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I think that it all depends on how you represent yourself. I think that many bigger woman are beautiful. They dress to enhance their figures. They use proper hygene. You obviously are comfortable with yourself and take care of yourself. I think that the bigger ladies who dress like slops and smell give all big ladies a bad name.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I totally agree with you. I really find it repulsive for a larger lady to be seen with oily hair, and her hygiene is more than lacking, and really don't care about what they look like. I don't dress for anyone else, but I do care how I represent myself in public. I do care for myself, and knowing that I am larger, I take extra care to keep myself refreshed, especially during the hotter months. I even take baby wipes with me to freshen up. I just hate the smell of sweat. I just think that some ladies think, that just because they are heavy that they can't be sexy or pretty. That is so wrong. Thanks for commenting!
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@fen_fen (36)
• Indonesia
23 Apr 07
yes, I think big is Beautifull. Especially if you are feel comfortable with it. I'm also agree with you that big is also sexy and beautifull. so, keep on what ever u wish as long as u feel happy and dont ever think to do on diet ok.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Thanks for that comment. I don't diet anymore. I do however watch my food intake and make sure I eat healthier things and I believe that excercise is important as well. I do both and whether I lose weight or not, that's ok with me.
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
I'm glad to hear that.
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
I'm glad to hear that.
• United States
25 Apr 07
I too am a larger girl and well I've gotten over all the media hype about being thin. I think it's ridiculous that people judge other people based on something as silly as weight. Weight does not make a person ugly, a person's personality, confidence, sense of humor and everything else that makes up a person's attitude is what makes people beautiful. You can be skinny, with a great complexion, but if you have a horrible personality, I'll find you extremely unattractive. I wish more people thought this way, it would be so much simpler.
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@k1tten (2321)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I agree wholely with you! I've met a lot of people who I consider pretty but have horrible horrible personalities. I'd hate to see what their souls actually look like.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I sure wish I could give out more best response ratings. This is such a wonderful description of how things "should" be! If you are skinny with an ugly personality you are so right, it is not attractive. Life would be a lot simpler if we thought more like this!
@raydene (9875)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I find beauty in all sizes.Where people are concerned what they look like is way down on the ladder.I care more about who they are inside.You can close your eyes and block out the sight of someone but who they are on the inside will still scream to you. I think you are a nice larger woman that is trying to become at ease in a body you are making an effort to accept.If I were you I wouldn't worry about weather or not big is beautiful.You are beautiful..You are special..That house you reside in isn't who you are,Honey. I look at skinny models in mags and on tv and they look ill.How awful for them to be starving themselves on purpose when children all over this planet die due to lack of food every day. Sweets just be yourself..I have the feeling you have a sexy personality that will shine through any size body..Don't allow this crazy world to dictate what you feel you should look like..Those that judge you because of what you look like do not make good friends unless you are shallow also and I suspect you are not. I bet that most men perfer women that have a little weight.Most men according to research do not consider skinny woman sexy. Hugs
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Thanks so much raydene! I do find myself sexy and beautiful. It did take me a very long time to get to this point in my life. My mother is a petite, small woman. I come from my fathers side of the family where everyone is larger. I know I will never be small and that is ok with me. It is very liberating to be able to feel this way. It makes me sad that I see these ladies in the magazines and movies having to lose weight for a part or a job and being persecuted for not being able to maintain the weight. I see the girls at my daughters school literally dying to be thin. Beauty is everywhere, if we were all built the same, we'd all be fat, that is how I see it...LOL!
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
24 Apr 07
Don't forget it's the you inside that counts. Hugs
@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I think that pretty is as pretty does. on other words it is not your size that matters but how you act and or treat others that does matter. People can treat others as they would like to be treated and maybe this world would be a little nicer? Anyway, there are real health problems that can cause someone to be overweight,, or even under weight, and it is sad that people try to make everyone think that everyone can be the same size with enough effort when its not really true it is better to be one size than to keep going up and down in size. Also there are people of all diffferent sizes that wear clothing that they really may want to think again about for one reason or another in my opinion. Hope you are having a great day, and don't worry about what people say it is more important that you are comfortable with who is looking back at you from your own mirror.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Thanks for your comment. You made several valid points. I also believe that pretty is as pretty does.
@tater03 (1765)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I totally agree with you. I see nothing wrong with bigger sized women in the least. I think it is a sad state to our society that we tend to think the more skinney a person is the more beautiful they are. I am so glad that you have the attitude that you do about yourself. That is the most important thing is that you feel good about yourself.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I agree with you that our society thinks that the skinnier someone is the more attractive they are. I believe that anorexia and bulimia are an epidemic and I even see my daughter talking about those things with me, saying that a lot of girls at school do it. She is very confident in who she is as well. I tell her big or small, you can be pretty and attractive. it is all representation. But my main goal is for her to be healthy as for me too.
• United States
24 Apr 07
I prefer my women to look healthy, like muscle and a few pounds of fat seems fine to me.
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• Canada
24 Apr 07
I am a bigger women. I have been called fat since I was seven years old. Although I agree that big is beautiful. I do not agree that fat is beautiful. I think bigger women then the standard of what we see in magazines and some so called movie stars is absolutely beautiful! The most beautiful women in the world have a bit of meat on their bones that make them a little more curving that the standard skinny stick pole of a women. Don't get me wrong I feel bad for the super skinny women that can not gain weight but desperately wants to. Yes believe it or not there are some like that out there. About the beautiful big women; indeed she is so extremely beautiful until she becomes fat. There is nothing sexy about bulging out all over the place with drooping leg fat causing her to waddle. For that matter it is not sexy or beautiul for a man either. I am a big women.. when I was younger I was called fat by my friends and voluptous by old men. Since I didn't want to be looked upon with drools from old men I took that as a negative and I suppose it added to my list of reasons to be fat. I wish now I had that little curvy body back. I am working on it. I have been fat for too many years then I should of allowed. As much as I have tried to believe that fat is beautiful it is not. When I slip into bed at night wanting to be sexy for my husband I know the truth is there is nothing sexy about it. My wonderful husband never does anything or says anything to make me feel any less of a women and makes me feel like a size 5 when we are making love. God bless him for that. I recently had a talk with him saying to him it is wrong for him to not say anything about my weight. If I was naturally a bigger women that would be one thing but I am not I am obease! He should love me enough to hurt my feeling and ask me in love to take better care of myself. I will take this a step further and say that I believe women who go on a band wagon to say fat is beautiful and I love myself the way that I am is only covering up for the fact that to them it is easier to except themselves fat than it is to try and get their bodies into a healty and slimmer condition . Yes I know being fat doesn't mean out of shape if they are being physcial active and exercising but they are still overweight to an extreme and there is no way they can truely say that it doesn't affect them in some negative way. So maybe the question should really be; how big is to big. When does big beautiful women become discustingly obese women? The later is me in case you are wondering!
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I am so very sorry that you feel so badly about yourself. I don't care how big you are, you should be confident in yourself. Not just your weight, yourself as a person. It is apparent you have no self love. I exercise daily, I take vitamins, I am very active. I am however 275 lbs. I have hypothyroidism and this makes it very difficult to lose weight. It is however not my crutch. I too have always been a big girl, I was never meant to be petite or small. I was made fun of, and put down. Obviously your husband loves you for who you are, not, for how much you weigh. I think you are too highly critical of yourself. If you genuinely feel that you are obese and unhealthy, that you really hate yourself for being so big, then do something about it, but love yourself in the process. That is all that I do. I love myself, big or small. If you can't allow yourself to love yourself on your journey through life, I am sorry for you. Regardless of whether you feel you need to lose some weight, you should love you, fat and all.
• Canada
24 Apr 07
Seeing something in a true light does not mean you do not have respect for yourself or don't love yourself. It simply means one is not in denial about the circumstance and there for can be proactive in changing it. Which I am finally doing for myself. My point of view is that it saddens me to see so many obese women not having enough respect or self love to want to see things as they really are! So to make themselves feel better they promote big is beautiful. Which I agree wholeheartedly. Just not obese! How can one deny that flab hanging and dripping on their bodies is beautiful? It is not! I have enough self respect and self love to acknowledge that to myself. My desire is for other women to come out the the denial as well and have the victory over this snare in their lives.
@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Obvioulsy, you are talking about physical beauty. Any woman, big or small, that doesn't take care of herself, i.e.,bathing or showering daily, washing her hair, wearing clothes that are clean, wearing deodorant, is not beautiful. A woman doesn't have to be big to be "ugly". I have seen many thin women that do no take care of themselves and look nasty. The stereotype comes in when people think that all big people are lazy, that is why they are big. This is so untrue. I just chalk this type of ignorant thinking up to the lack of tolerance in this world of someone whom is different from what "society" deems is normal. I am big, beautiful, confident, hard working and successful in most things I do. I am far from lazy. The only thing about me better than my outer beauty is my inner beauty. If we are beautiful on the inside, the rest of the package is pretty fantastic also. PEACE
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
24 Apr 07
Now that is great that you said that. I agree with you on all points. I feel that representing yourself appropriately is very important. I too feel that any person who doesn't take care of their hygiene, or present themselves as a clean person is awful. Regardless of size! I too have dealt with the stereotype of being a larger lady means I am lazy. My ex-husbands family thought the same way. It used to hurt me to no end to hear this from others in the family tell me what was said. I know I am not lazy. I had a clean house, I cooked dinners, ran errands endlessly and at that time, I was going to college, working a full time job, and taking care of a three year old and a very infantile husband. Lazy, I think not. I want to thank you for posting this!
@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
24 Apr 07
From one BBW to another, you are very welcome! PEACE
@k1tten (2321)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I don't care what size anyone is. They're all beautiful. If you work the way you are and feel good about it then more to you. You have done what everyone else shuns. I look for the beauty in someone. And if you think you look good then you're beautiful
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Thanks for your comment, I wish more people thought like you!!!
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@k1tten (2321)
• United States
23 Apr 07
You're welcome! I'm glad that you enjoyed my response.
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@tombiz (2039)
• Philippines
4 May 07
Maybe it's really about time we have to discard the polished and thin image of a beautiful woman in our mindset as the ultimate definition of beauty. It's about time we have to face the fact that no matter what we do, we could not be as thin as those parading models in the catwalk. Just imagine all the sacrifices they made just to get that modelic body and you will be sick to learn of such. You can really be beautiful even if not thin. Beauty emanates from within. If you have that beauty originating internally, then you are beautiful no matter what. We don't have to be victim of the Hollywood and fashionista culture. Big ladies, stand up now and be recognized.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
4 May 07
Fantastic! I totally agree with what you are saying. The fashion world needs to realize there are more "real" sized women than the models that wear their clothing lines. I also feel beauty emanates from within and I am one of the few that stand up and say I am beautiful regardless of size. I think it is much more important to have self love than to have a size 0 pant size! Thanks so much for your comment!
• United States
3 May 07
Size has nothing to do with being sexy or a person's character. I am glad that you are comfortable with yourself, that is all that matters. Not what others think. I commend you my dear.. P.S. I painted a picture animal character of Big is beautiful. It is in my shop if you care to look at it: http://www.cafepress.com/margieanneart
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
4 May 07
Oh that is fantastic! I will definitely go look at it. Thanks for the comment!
• United States
3 May 07
Size has nothing to do with being sexy or a person's character. I am glad that you are comfortable with yourself, that is all that matters. Not what others think. I commend you my dear..
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
4 May 07
Thanks so much for commenting! I believe this as well and I appreciate your thoughts.
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
2 May 07
my friend, being big is still beautiful.. what is importans it what we have inside rather than what's physical, I have big friends as well and i am proud to say that, they are all happy and content with their lives.. SMILE! YOU are BEAUTIFUL!
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
4 May 07
Thanks for sharing that! I really believe that as well.
@gloria777 (1678)
• India
1 May 07
Beauty really lies with how we present ourself to others. Thats why one intelligent person quoted as " Beauty lies beneath the skin". so just go forward.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
4 May 07
I believe that saying as well. So many people don't think that though and it is sad. I do move forward when there are shallow people in my midst. I don't feel that they are worth my time and I find their attitudes to be unhealthy. Thanks for commenting and I appreciate it!
@bluewings (3857)
27 Apr 07
I think the beauty of a person lies in her personality not her size.It's how a person feels about herself.At the first glance people might judge a person by her looks ,but when they hear you and know you more ,it's the strength of character and confidence in being who you are that makes you beautiful.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
4 May 07
I agree! I think that confidence and personality make someone look a lot different. I have known many thin/beautiful women who after speaking with them were the most heartless cold creatures I have had the displeasure to encounter. I think of myself as beautiful because of the kindness in my heart and the confidence I have to carry myself. Thanks for commenting!
• United States
25 Apr 07
I love you already. You seem to be such a nice lady and really the size is not important. It was a pleasure reading what you wrote. You can be proud of yourself and who you are. Your feelings are right and if you feel sexy, it means you are. You are so beautiful in the inside and I admire your way of thinking. Keep being yourself and don't worry about all these stupid norms that the medias are imposing on us. As long as you are healthy, that is the real goal. I wish you a happy day and to me you are the prettiest woman with a wonderful soul.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
4 May 07
Thanks so much for the comment, I am very proud of myself for fighting to be who I am and not giving up on myself. I don't know what normal is or what the norm is anymore. I don't think there is a norm! Thanks for the comment and I hope that you have a great weekend!
@axoloti (125)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
definitely big is beautiful! not just beautiful but also sexy. being sexy and beautiful depends on how you feel and how you treat yourself. if you think poorly of yourself, then you won't feel sexy and beautiful ever in your entire life. the reason why I'm saying this, it is because I dig larger ladies, I see how beautiful and sexy those ladies are and admire their confidence and how they carry themselves.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
25 Apr 07
That is great! Thanks for commenting and letting us know how you feel. I think the same way!
@axoloti (125)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
Big is certainly beautiful! not just beautiful but also sexy! no matter how big you are it depends on how you feel about yourself! they say skinny is sexy but I say being sexy comes from within! by the way I dig larger ladies. LOL!
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
24 Apr 07
It is wonderful to know that there are men out there taht are open to any woman who is beautiful, not just because the are skinny. Thanks for commenting