When should the woman pay for the meal on a date?

United States
April 25, 2007 2:29am CST
When should the woman pay for the meal on a date? Should she ever do that? Is there ever a good reason for her to do this? Or should the man always pay?
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@00fear (3209)
• United States
25 Apr 07
i think it would always be the man who should pay for it but there can be sometimes the woman should. my brother has a girlfriend and she pays whenever she sees my brother being broke from buying important things or he has money, but to waste on other things like school work and bills and stuff. other than that, it is my brother who pays, as far as i heard. thats what i would do too. i would pay for whenever i get a girlfriend and start dating, i would wanna be the one who pays and stuff.
• United States
25 Apr 07
Your mother must be proud!
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• Singapore
29 Apr 07
Wow, that's so sweet of you. I have always felt that it was very gentlemanly for a guy to pay. I feel it makes ladies feel well taken care of and cared for. It's very nice of you indeed. I'm sure your girlfriend will be one lucky gal! :) In this day and age though, there might be some ladies who feel that since they are equal to guys, they also don't mind paying on dates. So I guess it depends on the couple. I think it's ok to take turns if the couple prefers such as arrangement.
@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
25 Apr 07
I think it is a personal choice, and my choice would be never to pay:) ha ha In all seriousness. If they both work and they like to eat out then I think it is fair to make turns.
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• United States
25 Apr 07
Once I liked a guy and he started taking me to dinner, I would make dinner for him sometimes. However, I would never pay. :)
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@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
26 Apr 07
You are again one step ahead, I can't cook. So maybe I should have cooked them one meal, and then they would forever pay, because if I should suggest again that I'll cook they will make a nice excuse and rather take me out:)) Why did I only think of it now! darn it I could have saved a couple of bucks. lol
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@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
3 Jun 07
Ha ha let them pay let them pay! Thanks for the vote my friend, much appreciated!
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
25 Apr 07
I think there is one occassion that the woman should pay for the meal. That would be when she is the one who issued the invitation. The man would therefor be her guest, and the bill would be her responsibility.
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• United States
25 Apr 07
If she invites him, yes.
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@laiza14 (593)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
a think a woman should pay the meal when she was the one who made the date.. but its so unethical if a woman paid a meal and the guy wa sthe one who invited her..
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• United States
25 Apr 07
When I was single I never asked a guy out, but that is common these days.
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@smkwan2007 (1036)
• Hong Kong
25 Apr 07
As a man, I of course insist to pay for the girl I am dating with. But nowadays, the table has turned. Most women like to pay for meals on dating time in my city. In Japan, some girls have salaries higher than their boy friends. It becomes a common phenomenon that they, the girls, are always the ones who pay the meals the movies in a date.
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• United States
25 Apr 07
Who would have ever thought that would be the case in Japan.
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• United States
25 Apr 07
unless a mutual agreement is made i think maybe im alittle old fashioned but the man should pay unless the woman is upfront and asks the man out on the date then under certain circumstances she should offer to pay. but i dont think men should let a woman cover the entire bill! (especially not the first date, lol)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I am married, but when I was single, I never paid. However, as the relationship progressed, I would cook for the person.
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• Melbourne, Australia
25 Apr 07
Lol as the only person working I pay for all my husbands meals when we go out. I really don't mind. I know he would do the same if it was reversed. I think it's so old fashioned for the man to pay.
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• United States
25 Apr 07
You can pay for mine, too! lol
• Singapore
26 May 07
Isn't this an equal world? Lol :P I guess there are reasons why the lady should pay - maybe she's the boss? Or she is richer? Or she wants to give a treat? Or.. endless possibilities.
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• United States
26 May 07
It is supposed to be an equal world. Women still do not get equal pay. If a man wants my company, and he asks me out...he should be prepared to pay. Now, I am married, and no man has the right to ask me out. Any time my husband takes me out, he pays. He would never have it any other way. He is an Old School Arab.
• Singapore
26 May 07
Well, they get equal pay here.
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Well, I think that the only time the girl should pay is when shhe is taking him out to celebrate something like a birthday or congratulate him for something he did. For everything else it should be his treat. Take care!!
• United States
30 Apr 07
You're a good man, Twils2!
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• United States
25 Apr 07
I think that if a woman invites a man out to dinner, there's nothing wrong with her paying. However, I think the man should pay the tip or even chip in if it gets unussually expensive. Lloyd
• United States
27 Apr 07
Thank you for your thoughts.
@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I see nothing wrong with paying for a meal on a date, just as long as it doesn't happen every time. These days, many women make more money then men, so they have more to spend. A lot of other things factor into this, such as how long or serious is the relationship, and what type of place are they dining, who decided where to go, and how much it costs. Some men may get offended by the woman offering to pay for the meal, but I've seen more today that are grateful for the woman to pick up the check occasionally.
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• United States
25 Apr 07
My husband would never let me pay for a meal while we were dating. Today, as a married couple, he would still never allow me to pay. That is a part of his culture and I like it. A lot of younger American men are happy to have a woman pay. As long as they both agree, I think it is up to them.
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