break up through phone or sms?

Philippines
April 25, 2007 5:51am CST
i have friends who ended their relationship with just a phone call or a text message. is it ok if your boyfriend/girlfriend breaks up with you through phone or txt?
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12 responses
@ergg78 (344)
• Malaysia
25 Apr 07
ehmm.. hard to say okay or not. Relationship is serious business. It hurt when you don't explain it clearly. Well, come to think of it again, perhaps it depends on situation too. Let say the girl react cold in the relationship and you know she is seeing another guy. She never even bother to discuss with you about your relationship. Never even tell you that she wanted a break up. I guess it's okay if you just sms her and said 'the end'! :) I think she is just waiting for you to say the word so it look like you're the one who wanted a break up with her. :P I guess it's better if you can talk things out face to face and not with text messages!
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
i also believe that it is better to settle things with each other. you're right! ;)
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@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
27 May 08
i think it is inappropriate, you can say that perhaps you hve been meaning to do that but still you have to talk with the guy/girl in person. do not be so coward as to only break up through phone.
• United States
10 May 07
I personally think thats a cop-out if you're going to break up with someone at least be decent enough to do it in person and for all of the non confrontational people out there write a letter and hand it to them in PERSON
• United States
10 May 07
I personally think thats a cop-out if you're going to break up with someone at least be decent enough to do it in person and for all of the non confrontational people out there write a letter and ha.nd it to them in PERSON
@kardel (199)
• Romania
30 Apr 07
i have tried that, because i can`t tell to mu girl, it`s all over, to say it in her face..it`s nor fair, i can`t do that! so, with an sms, it`s great! i do that only if that girl it`s an inocente one, and i don`t wanna see her face when she will hear me...
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
28 Apr 07
Many people are afraid to end with a normal converation face-to-face, so they think that one sms or talking at phone will save the problems and the scenes. Stupid and unfair behaviour, i think! But there is worse variant and this is to leave without any word:just silence and trying to ignore all the messages, callings and etc.
@mofelorn (611)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
It's a good idea to talk in person especially if we have problems when it comes to relationship than to talk on phone or just by texting. Through phone and texting we can't talk well. So it's better to find a right place to sit down and converse.
• India
25 Apr 07
I personally feel that if a person thinks its over...then in most cases its OVER. how does it matter if they do it over phone or via sms or email? but one thing i cant leave out without mentioning is it is al the very least important to sit down in person and break up...i believe its the least they could do just to respect themselves if not anything else...i mean if that was a prospective spouse...u owe them atleast that much respect.
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
For me that is a very coward act to do. You have mention that, i remember my coward ex bf. Actually it happens on me and its really painful when i can do anything to know why and what happen when i was miles away and time by time you think about him and you keep the relationship strong even your far away and you love with all your heart and he will just did that to me. Just dont what to do and what to think. If its true or not the fact that it is just through phone that you break. Well when i got home i talked to him in person and then confirm and i've been through healing period and it took me a year to overcome that. Well now i have forgiven him and i have my own separate lives now with someone whom is deserving with my true love.
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
i do not agree about that ,we can judge your friend and say he is a "chicken" ,he sample of a bad man. They haven't brave in there heart to spoke to her girlfriend.But i knew that to spoke this decission we must have do it very smooth , so your girlfriend not being too hard when hear that
@galatea (687)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
My previous relationship ended that way. Although it was preempted by an email, still the same we weren't able to talk in person. I almost did the same hurtful thing to my current boyfriend. I was afraid of commitment. I'm glad I gave him a chance, I hope he wont waste that.
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
i think it should'nt be the case and it is improper to brek up with someone through the text, unless the relationship was more on the fling side and not that serious. if i were the girlfriend, i'd be furious with the guy because he can not face me to tell that he wants to break up with me. he doesn't have the guts to even explain how or why he wants to be out of the relationship.