Do you go to bed at same time as your partner?

@muscare (3068)
Australia
April 25, 2007 6:00am CST
I'm just wondering if you do, is it every night. Or do you stay up later? 9 nights out of 10, I go to bed at the same time as my wife, and usually we talk for a while before going off to sleep. I know there are nights when she needs to go to bed early, but I don't sleep if I go too early.Hmmm, guess that's why I go to bed early sometimes. Oh, Sorry, too much info for you. I have heard of partners who hardly ever go to bed at the same time. To me, it's like finishing off the day, hugging my wife before going off to sleep.
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@Augustta (1850)
• Poland
26 Apr 07
Well i am the one which want to stay more at computer(see like now in mylot)and my boyfriend can't sleep until i don't come near him...but i use a trick,i go when he call me,i stay near him until he is fall asleep,i kiss him easy,and i come here at computer..yay!!!...not once he stayed and looked at me several minites for make me careful he know my trick...but,i have the most wonderful man... augusta
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
27 Apr 07
Hmm, Augusta, I wonder whether you like your friends at myLot too much! JUst kidding.
@Augustta (1850)
• Poland
27 Apr 07
(tongue out!kidding also)
@limcyjain (3516)
• India
26 Apr 07
Surely we try to go to bed at the same time as we both have a tendency to fell each other as we go to sleep. We hold each other well as we are into sleep. But we have our own wake up times depending on the tasks we need to do.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
27 Apr 07
My wife always gets up in the morning before I do, but I think it's great that you spend the time together the night before.
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
25 Apr 07
I never go to bed at the same time as my wife. She gets up about 3 hours before me and goes to bed 3 hours before me. And even on the weekends she keeps the same schedule and goes to bed about 10pm. I can give my wife all the hugging and kissing before she heads off to bed, unless she decides to stay up, which hardly every happens. She just sits and dozes off in her chair. :)
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
Old habits are hard to break, but if you're happy with the way things are, why change them. I know I would prefer my wife to go to bed, rather than stay up and go to sleep in the chair.
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• Philippines
25 Apr 07
whenever we are together, we have to be in bed at the same time coz we couldn't sleep when the other is still up and doing something else. i tried to sneak out of bed a couple of times in the early days of our relationship to work on my laptop and finish some work but he kept calling me back to bed every 2 minutes. the next time i would get up from bed, he'll get awake and would ask me where i would be going... -lol- it really is very nice to snuggle up in bed together unfortunately, he hates to wake up and find there's space between us however small. he likes at least one part of his body touching me. -lol- now i'm used to it. so it's imperative for us to go to bed at the same time and stay in it. :)
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
My wife is like your partner in the fact that she likes to be touching me as she goes off to sleep. I love to cuddle, but don't like to be touched as much as I'm trying to sleep.Maybe that's why she sleeps better than me, because I let her keep touching me until she's asleep.
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
-lol- well, some couples are like that. my boyfriend claims that he sleeps better when we're together. although i admit that sometimes when he snores a bit, i'll be ending up with some lost sleep. :)
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
My wife has a tiny snore, which doesn't worry me, but she also grinds her teeth. I hate that noise, so generally I gently get her to move around a bit and she stops.
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
27 Apr 07
I always like to have my partner at the bed when i am in bed.I always like that.I just can't sleep without him.But he sometimes goes & watches movies & those stuffs in TV late night.I am not interested in those so i go to bed but can't sleep.I have told him this but still he also needs his space.bvut if he does it regularly theni really get annoyed.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
28 Apr 07
I hardly ever stay up later than my wife, especially if it's only to watch late night movies. Occaisonally I'll do it for sport, but spending that quality time with my wife before sleep is more important to me.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
25 Apr 07
For the most part we go to bed at the same time. But there are nights that he stays up later than I do, particularly if he had to stay at work later than normal (which happens about once or twice a week in his line of work) then it takes him time to wind down, and I'm already into the relaxed mode. Some of those nights he falls asleep on the couch watching tv lol. But I have to agree with you, when we do go to bed at the same time, it is like finishing the day in the best way possible.....falling asleep next to each other. I have found that when he is not right there next to me, I don't sleep as well through out the night (there are times he has to stay over where he works, like during our Valentine Day snow storm)
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
How disappointing to be alone on Valentines Day, whether for sleep or....cuddles. It is a waste of time going to bed if you haven't unwound from a long day. I think that just makes it harder for both of you to get to sleep.
• United States
25 Apr 07
Yes it was hard on Valentine's Day, we actually ended up being apart for 4 days due to that snow storm, but I knew he was doing his job, which part of that job is keeping other people safe. And we stayed in touch, he called me when he had the chance too. And there will be other Valentine's Days together, this was only our second one together (well apart as it were! lol)
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
It's great to know he was helping others. At least you know there will be plenty of other valentines days to make up for missing one!
@nancygibson (3736)
• France
26 Apr 07
I go to bed a couple of hours before my partner but he always always comes and tucks me in! I love that he wants to do that for me, and I always sleep much better knowing that he made sure I was comfortable before he went and finished his evening. Its the little things like that that make me love him so much even after all these years (he's been tucking me in at night for 15 years now!)
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
That is so sweet that he tucks you into bed, even if he's not going to join you. I've never thought of doing that before. Thanks for the idea, I might try it sometime.
• China
26 Apr 07
no, I always stay up late surfing the internet,and my wife would like sleep much earlier than me, its not good, I know, but I cant go to sleep early at night, the habit is impossible to give up. sometimes, I would accompany my wife watching tv, and go to bed at same time. have a good day.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
It's not an easy hobby to break, surfing. Often, my wife watches TV while I'm surfing or mylotting, then we both go to bed once I've finished, as long as it's not too late. Other nights, we'll watch TV together.
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
26 Apr 07
Oh i wish i could sleep with my hubby at night. But i cannot. He has a different sleeping schedual then me all together. we're never even in the bed at the same time unless its me laying beside him while he falls asleep, which i sometimes do. See, he works midnights, and we have a small baby, so i have to sleep at night to keep her on a good sleep patern. otherwise i'd just stay up all night and mylot and sleep when he got home LOL. but at least i get to sleep with someone in my bed.. NO its not another man!! lol i let my baby girl sleep with me, that way neither of us get lonely ;)
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
27 Apr 07
Glad to hear it's not another man,lol. I'm so sorry you have such a different sleeping pattern, you miss out on some of the quality time before sleeping. At least you got your girl to cuddle with.
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@piropos (312)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I envy you my friend. You sleep normal hours and with your wife to boot! As for me, my working hours extend to the late hours of the night down to the wee hours of the morning. I don't get home until about 2 am. It will be between 3 and 4 am before I am ready to sleep. I'll be lucky if my wife is still awake at that time ready to hug me to sleep. Because of this, our intimate moments are somewhat scheduled most of the time, but we do find some spontaneous occasions. She surprises me some nights by waiting for my arrival. Some weekend nights too, I arrive while all my three kids are still watching TV and purposely waiting for me, expecting some treats. My line of work keeps me from having normal working hours, but I try to keep normal routine at home, as much as possible.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
That does make life quite a bit harder. It's great that you have a wife that does try to surprise you on occaisions. I don't know if I could sleep in your position, first, because of the hours, and second, because of no cuddling with the wife!
@aciddrop (798)
26 Apr 07
yes i usually go to bed with my bf except that he sometimes wants to watch football games or cricket,something that i am not interested into at all.and we dont have muh time together,at most just 3 days out of 7.so we cherish the bed time:P i especially like hugging to sleep,its soooooo sweet!:)
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
That's a hard call, to watch sport if you only get to spend 3 out of 7 days together. Different if you were watching something you both like. My wife and I still cuddle on the couch to when we watch some movies.But yes, it is very sweet. I don't sleep as well without it.
@metrix88 (49)
• Indonesia
26 Apr 07
Its wonderfull if we can go to bed at same time with wife, she will feel very happy and romatic. give her a very nice smile and honest softtouch. talk with her some thing new.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
It's the best end to any day, especially if it's been a hard one.
@jlara_gtr34 (3491)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
no, i sleep first because i tend to beocme sleepy around 9pm and he still stays awake till about 11pm because he has a lot of shows to watch on TV.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
I usually watch sport if I stay up, or work on the computer. TV sometimes makes me tired if there's nothing exciting on.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I am going to bed the same time as my partner does. I dont know why i cant sleep while he is still awake. Then we will kiss goodnight before we sleep, and i will open my eyes in just a few minutes then i will see him sleeping so thats the time i will sleep too.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
My wife seems to be able to drop off to sleep really quickly once we've stopped hugging, but it still takes me that little bit longer.
@Betso221 (1699)
• India
26 Apr 07
We never go to bed at the same time cause im not married yet. Hehehehe. Just kidding. Buth when we are together we are there holding each other and sleeping. We never feel like let go of each other. I just love ma girl like mad we been goin on for 6 years and half and i love her more and more. Cheers.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
That's cool. Probably not seeing each other, or living with each other makes it even more important to spend the time in each others arms. Good for you.
@wenfri (1185)
• Canada
26 Apr 07
Seeing as my hubby is a TV fanatic and me puter one. He falls asleep on the couch and I go to bed when I get tired of being online. Not saying we don't do the unmentionable LOL We aren't that old yet. I just can't sleep with a TV in the bedroom. He usually nods off way before I do Wendy
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
Do you at least have the computer an TV in the same room? Otherwise, with your different interests, you'd hardly see each other! Although some couples thinks that's a good thing.
@Jennifer21 (2476)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Well, I must admit, I go to bed with my husband only half through the week. Just like right now, I tend to stay up on mylot and answer or start discussions. I tend to have a few drinks and them I am 'all ready to go' to answer questions. My husband does not mind me staying up late really, he is just fine with it. See, he has to get up at 3 am. I don't have to get to bed until; 11 pm, or even midnight, because I don't get up until 7-8 am. I get plenty of sleep. I think it is wonderful that you crave to hold your wife everynight. So sweet.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
If your husband has to get up at 3 every morning, he must go to bed pretty early. I have to say that anytime my wife goes to bed before 9:30, she usually goes by herself. That's too early for me. And I'm sure your hubby craves to hold you too, but with such an early wake up time, it's a hard thing to do.
@red158 (333)
• Canada
26 Apr 07
It is very seldom that me and dear hubby actually go to bed at the same time. We both work shifts, and it works that way. We have the weekends, but even then we seldom make it to bed at the same time. But when we are both in the house at the same time, I always tuck him into bed, and sometimes I have to wake him up in the morning. In fact in 20 minutes I have to go wake him up. All is good, sometimes better because we hardly ever have to put up with each other's bad sleeping habits.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
Ha, some people seem to get along better the less they see each other, especially if they have bad sleeping habits. It has to be harder working such different hours.
@gemini1960 (1161)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
we dont go to bed same time, usually im the one who goes off, been tired for the whole days work.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
Yep, if you're worn out after a long day, it's hard to stay up. It's better to get the sleep, ready for the next day.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
My husband works on shifts, so there are times when he's not home at night because of work. So when his schedule permits, I make sure that he sleeps the same time as I do. But at times, he really can't help but watch the tv up to 12 midnight. This really annoys me because instead of resting he would waste time in watching non sense shows at night. I already talked about this to him and he agreed that he won't stay that late so we could still have chats before we both fall asleep.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
Yes, shiftwork does make things hard, and I think it throws the body's natural sleeping habits out of whack. I find chatting before sleep is much more relaxing than t.v. and beneficial to both.