When someone is committing adultery and you know it what can you say to them??

@AnnaB87 (761)
United States
April 25, 2007 11:34am CST
I know someone who is in an adulterous affair who calls me a lot and tries to justify that they are with someone else's husband. They seem to think that because that this man was having marital problems he was fair game. I think that is wrong, don't you. Also she seems to think this mans wife is acting juvenile when she kicked him out and fought with him. I think he got what he was acting for. I mean if you don't want to be married you can get divorced instead of just cheating on your wife right? Anyway, I have not really said much of anything to this person except that I think they have a bad idea and its not a good one. I think a lot of people can and will get hurt because of this.... Adultery is always wrong I believe, don't you agree with me?? Or am I old fashioned???
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@amitntpc (55)
• India
25 Apr 07
i dont know how to define adultry but ofcoursce cheating is bad.if there is some problem in the marital life and is impossible to get along togather better take divorce but unfortunately geting divorce has become impossible now a days this is one of the reason people are taking this type of roads.
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@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
25 Apr 07
It is not impossible to get a divorce, also this man was still living with his wife but I think she may have kicked him out this week I am not sure. It is better to work things out than to get divorced but if you can not then you can separate and get divorced, and not see anyone until after you have your divorce. I don't believe their is a good excuse or reason to cheat on your spouse at all.
@mememama (3077)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Adultery is wrong, no matter what the man is arguing about with his wife. It's best to end a relationship before you start a new one. Are you married? If you are, ask her how she would feel if she found out that your husband was cheating on you, her friend. I had a friend that was being cheated on and I was so mad at the other woman, especially since she knew they had a family together.
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@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I am married, and so is the person I am talking about, but she is separated from her husband because they were having problems. The man she is seeing she met at work and she knows he has a family. this is just a mess, I am sure that if the shoe were on the other foot she would not be happy at all. She has a double standard. personally I think that if this mans wife takes everything and leaves including both cars she is justified and her husband who is cheating deserves nothing at all. The mans wife is not cheating just him, anyway I wish that she would just wake up and realize that this mans wife has a reason to be mad.
• India
25 Apr 07
Since when has fashion come into ruling relationships? I believe exactly wat u said...if they dont like the person they are married to...they might just as well get divorced...cheating on someone has no excuse!
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@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I agree.
@vebela (310)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I don't think you are too old fashioned. I told my husband up front before we got married that if he ever cheated on me, I wouldn't stay with him. I believe that as long as someone is spoken for, he/she is NOT fair game. I think that if someone is having marital problems, the worst thing to do is commit adultery. The things is, your friend is making the situation worse. She should give them a chance to work it out before swooping in and becoming "the other woman". How does she know that he's not feeding him lies to sleep with her? And if she begins a relationship with this man, how does she know he will ever leave his wife? How does she know that he wouldn't do the same to her by cheating on her with other women? This causes to many forseeable problems and raises too many questions.
@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I agree with you. And have said so, but I am afraid that my words fall on deaf ears. I would personally never trust someone that was cheating. But she thinks she is doing nothing wrong??? This is just a very bad idea and I told her so.