Same feelings for adopted one?

Baby - baby and mother holding hands
@mrsbrian (1951)
United States
April 25, 2007 12:58pm CST
This is a question about adoption. Can a woman who adopts a child feel the same love for that child thats she feels for a child that she has given birth to? You feel the baby grow and live within you and you have formed a bond with that child for those nine months so by the time you have the baby you have a very large bond with the child. But if you adopt can you still somehow have those deep feelings for the child you adopted as you have for the one you gave birth to. I dont know anyone who has addopted but I wonder dose the adopted child somehow end up being loved differently than one you had?
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• Canada
25 Apr 07
I beleive the bond would be the same . I have a child living in my house that is not biologically my child , she is not even an adopted child . She is a child I took in that didn't have the care that all children should be given to as she had quit school when she was in grade 6 , got messed in with some bad crowds and ran a crazy lifestyle . I took her in to live with us and got the papers for leagal guardianship , she may not be my child but I love her just as much as I love all my children . I have four that are mine and always tell people I have five because I include her in everythihng we do as in my mind she is a part of our family . I care for her the same as the other children and the rules are the same for all of them . I will alwasy do what I can for her and now that she is with us the younger children called her Sissy and look to her the same way as they do with my other older children . I pay for everything for her and have her enrolled back in school after all these years and am trying to help her to understand that this is all for her as it won't benefit me if she doesn't get an education but it will harm her in so many ways . I love her just as much as my other children and in my mind she is one of my children . I am raising her to be the best that she can be and have just as much faith in her as I do with my other chidlren . I may not be her biological mother and we may not share the same blood but she is my child . I am raising her and want the best out of life for as I do with all my children , so with all this said I do belive that anyone who takes the time to go through an adoption agency to get a child to love will love this child as much as their own as I love the child in my house the same as if I had given birth to her :)
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@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Thank you for responding and Thank you for being such a careing person. I wsh there were more of you in this world so many children need the oppertunity you gave this child.
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
26 Apr 07
Definetly i dont dare to face this situation because iam very much attached to my kid and i cant see others in his position ahha in case of spending some lovely hours with them i love but not permanently,but i new two persons who adopted a child and aregifted with their own after adopting and till now i observed they never showed a difference between them and are equally cared.One is my closed relative, they adopted a girl baby after 5yrs they were gifted with aboy baby and the girl married to well settled NRI and gifted with 3 boys,the other is my neighbour whose story is the same but they still young.
@Rickrocks8 (1751)
• United States
25 Apr 07
We have talked a little about adopting a child. We have two sons and I gave birth to both of them. I think it is what you decide to make of it. If you love a child with all your heart and soul they will love you back. I'd say that can be a very close bond. If you look at what you are given not what you have lost the love will grow. They may have questions later in life, but that isn't anything against adoptive parents. There are so many kids out there that just want a family to love them. I say go for it!