Why ladies today are single,is this true for you?Are you single or married?

@disvachic (10121)
United States
April 25, 2007 2:29pm CST
Would you like to add something to this list?For those who are super duper sensitive its hypothetically speaking!lol you can say maybe a "JOKE" for some,for others it may be TRUE okay. Why ladies today are still single: 1. The nice men are ugly. 2. The handsome men are not nice. 3. The handsome and nice men are gay. 4. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married. 5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money. 6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money. 7. The handsome men without money are after our money. 8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don’t think we are beautiful enough. 9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money, are cowards. 10. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have some money and thank God are heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!!! 11. The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative. Now, who the hell understands men
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
26 Apr 07
when most people say it's hard to understand women, now i can say... it's difficult to understand men, too. there goes equality in every level! hehe. anyway, i am single because it's my choice. but i am in a relationship and has plans already of marrying the man i love the most. why i chose to not get married yet with my exes because i felt like i wasn't prepared before. or maybe, i was too scared of the responsibilities awaiting for me on becoming a wife and a mother. or maybe, it wasn't the right time for me to get married yet. i am 29 but i am not in any hurry to get married. i believe and i always do that marriage comes in the right time. happy myLotting!
@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Yea I am single by choice to.Well thats wonderful you are happy with your relationship.I wish you much happiness in your marriage.Yes love and marriage comes @ the right time.Thank you and Happy posting to you also.
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
26 Apr 07
thank you. i hope you find the man of your life, too. or did you already? hehe..
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
LOL,not yet hopefully soon.
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@Easytime (126)
• Nigeria
25 Apr 07
Ladies of marriagable age who are not married today have problems. There could be so many possiblities of their problem. It could be that they dont want to marry, or they are ugly, even the beautifully-ugly ones, or their background dose not respect marriage, or they are sisters of catholic fold, or the are barriered by witches and spiritual forces of darkness. In this situation, they need spiritual backup. There is no how a good looking man even the ugly one who has money will see a beautiful lady and not approach her for marriage. So, if you are not married, pls check yourself.
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Personally I dont go by looks.LOVE is within the heart.Even the most beautiful person can be the ugliest person in heart and they will not make a good relationship.AND NO you check yourself becuase if you read in the discussion its not the TRUTH for EVERYBODY!!!It could be true for SOME!
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Yea my aunt is 62 and never been married and is very happy with her life.
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@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
26 Apr 07
Well I am divorced so you can say I am single but not for those Reasons lol Then again I am not single as I do have a lovely and loving Man in my Life As for understanding Men lol I don't think I ever will lol
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I know right!!lol but for #5 I have experienced that one though.OH you haven't changed your avatar today?lol like your name on the wing,so, so cute.
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@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
26 Apr 07
Nope this one is staying as it is my award from the lovely Elp and I really appreciate I love it
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• United States
26 Apr 07
Funny. I always thought still single cause God hadnt brought the right guy along. But your list enlightens me. There are OTHER reasons! ;)
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Hahaha some of those things are true for some and for others NOT.I really had a personal experience with #5 but he was very handsome.God will send us Mr.Right.NoT to worry!LOL
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
26 Apr 07
yup. hehe. it's funny though. now we have more reasons why we are single. we need some enlightenment from time to time.
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@Dog316 (20)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Speaking from a mans point of view, most women seem to be looking for a knight in shining armor when sometimes the man that could be meant for them may be right in front of them.............
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
25 Apr 07
oh hey in my 10 year I have turned down plenty of those and I COULd have been married and all but I chose to stay with the zero
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@Dog316 (20)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I have to commend you beautiful lady!
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
28 Apr 07
Hihi, this sounds funny:-) But to be honest, i am single because i am still in a process of healing my traumas from the past experiences.
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
28 Apr 07
Hi,sometimes it takes a little time to heal and really need to just lay low until you feel you are ready.Theres nothing wrong with that.
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@letzap519 (408)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
yes i'm still single coz i still have a lot of responsibilities and me and my boyfriend are not yet ready mentally and financially... hope in 2 yrs. time we are ready to settle down and have our own family... nowadays you really need to think a million times before you get married and one important thing we need to consider is if we are financially stable coz it's possible when financial problems come it will also affect your relationship...
@disvachic (10121)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Yes marriage is a big step and my ex wanted to marry but he was from job to job.I gave him a whole year. I didnt want that for us.He couldn't seem to understand...
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• United States
26 Apr 07
I only have one thing to add to this conversation. I'm a happily married woman, my husband is neither handsome or hot. I love him for who he is on the inside and how he makes me feel about myself, not what he looks like. I have this to say, being alone it these are you reasons is because of one thing. Looks aren't everything, and if you expect to find a good man your looking in all the wrong places by the looks of that list. Men are not play things and are not a peice of art that you can enjoy, they are parnters that are to care for the inner you as you would them.
@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Hi if you read its really hypothetically speaking and if you really read responses of mine I take men very SERIOUSLY.My ex relationship of 10 years was not a LOOKER and I loved him for who he was.I was very faithful to him being a loving partner and true.When he wasn't giving it 100% back then I was hurt.My last which lasted for only a year.I was very faithful also.Once again I loved him for HIM.He was from job ot JOB always asking me for money and didnt have any of his own.I have 3 kids,how can I take care of a GROWN man also.He kept telling me,"yea I'm going to get it together" not,NEVER happened and it went on for a year.I dont take nobody as play toy,that would be wrong.Its great to hear you are Happily married and I wish you the best in your marriage.I hope to have a husband one day in my life.I thank you for responding here and God bless.
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@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
26 Apr 07
I must say all of these have a point my favorite is # "4. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married" not because it is true but because the grass always look greener on the other side or so we want to think
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Hypothetically speaking it does seem like it!LOL
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• Greece
26 Apr 07
3rd point is the best. except greek guys of course :P
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Haha I havent experience #3 I HOPE I dont ever or a sista will be heated!LOL
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@palina77 (1178)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I like to add that 1. men are available while climax are grown 2. dating schedule are more than I expect 3. live together scope is more than past 4. marriage tie may loose as rate of divorce increasing 5. value of girl decrease after divorce 6. earning scope is lot without hard labor 7. home work is hard though men are blame women for less work than them 8. giving birth and serving for kids old age come quick 9. kids raising is very hard work but after marriage kids left mom's and live with their wife so old age are troublesome. 10. can write always a word " miss "
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Hi,I hope I grow old gracefully and when my kids become grown they wont forget their po' old mother here.I still would love to get married some day,but no rush.Take care.
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@lingli_78 (12841)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
i am married already... i married a man that falls with your number 5 desciptions... he is not so handsome but he is a very loving and nice guy and he doesn't have much money... i have to work hard to help him financially... but the most important thing is we are happy and we know for sure that God bless our marriage... we always depend on Him and seek His guidance to guide our family...
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
This is so lovely!When you are married vows says through thick and thin.I wish you the best and hope your financial situation with your husband will get better.GOD Bless
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I married a wonderful man, and when he passed away almost 2 years ago, I vowed that I would never marry again. YOu wouldn't believe the pressure that people put you under with the "it's time that you found someone else" or "you know your husband would want you to be happy with someone else. When you have lost your soul mate...you don't need to look for another. I will see him again someday, and I prefer to wait.
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
OH,I am so sorry to hear about your husband.I really commend you on what you are doing.YOu are being a very strong woman.Last year when my aunt passed away her husband was at another lady's house the very next day.We felt he disrespected my aunt as well as us.He onviously been seeing this lady while married to my aunt and really my aunt was not his soulmate like you are to your husband.Thank you 4 your time.And yes you will see him again!
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@easyzheng (666)
• China
26 Apr 07
It's true that more and more women choose to be single all their life, especially those in big cities. I guess it's not that they don't want to have a family of their own, but that this highly developing world doesn't give them a sense of safety. Most of these kinds of ladies are well educated ones and are financially self-supported. They don't want to find a man who can't earn much as they do if the man is not highly promoted or very outstanding, nor do they want to marry a very rich man because it gives them a kind of insecurity. If a man if very rich, he can offer to make a lot of girl friends and their loves are not reliable. For this reason, many young women choose to remain single though at the same time they can have their boy friends if they like it because women and men are equal.
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
With me its not even about how much he makes,the point is please earn SOMETHING.lol #5,on da list, I gave my ex plenty of time to get 2gether.DONt want a scrub in my LIFE,can't afford it.
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@semak76 (187)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I apparantly like to combine reasons, I find not so handsome men, who arent all that nice, and don't have much money. Of course when I meet them, I think of it the other way, kinda handsome, not that mean, and not too broke. funny how our perceptions change based on what we're looking for. I find that I keep falling into the trap of settling...and no, its not really about anyone of those things, but I think, well, this guy seems decent enough...instead of saying "no, he's not everything I want" I guess I'm so afraid that there is no mr perfect out there that i keep settling for mr so-so. After then end of my last not so spectacular relationship, I have decided to take a break. Step back for a minute and remember who I am...and why guys should be falling at my feet..lol. I am actually happier right now than I have been for ages. Of course there are things I miss, but the benefeits are outweighing it. spending more time with my friends and family is number 1.
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Thats exactly what I did with my ex.Settling..I had to end it before it got worse,he was actually bringing me down.I feel like you right about now happier as ever and I am just doing me which is taking care of my kids,working and handling my business.When Mr.Right comes knocking then thats whats really up.
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@friendship (2085)
• Canada
26 Apr 07
I am happily single because I feel free and I can do whatever I want to achieve. I am very thankful to God that I don't have to go through stressful things such as heartbroken, divorces, and other marital issues. Please don't get me wrong. I am not a lesbian. I just don't have an appetite to marry. Looking at increasing divorces around the world, I don't think that getting marriage is fun and loving things. I am not skeptic about a marriage institution. But I feel that my mission in this world will be more dedicated if I am single.
@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Thank you for your honesty.OH I wouldn't think you are a lesbian only because you dont want marriage.My aunt feels the same way as you,she says that being in a relationship is almost the same for her but without the paper.For me I want to get married one day but I'm not rushing it.God will send him one of thease days.
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@chiyosan (30198)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
im still single.
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
26 Apr 07
single to mingle,i hear ya!
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@Savvynlady (3685)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I'll say this; I was married but now I am divorced; I will be honest, afterwards, I decided to take a man break; It lasted a while; matter of fact, you might can say I am still on it; I have met folks that I would like, then something comes up; I met one recently, and before it could get somewhere, it didn't. I would like to be married, and I will be honest here, I don't believe all them statistics about there being no men out there; I feel they are out there, but sometimes what your looking for isn't what you need. I don't know if I will remarry or what, but for now, I am doing my best to take care of me and my kids; I would love to be with someone, but being out there, trying to find someone and all that, is a bit much for me. On top of that,I have an elderly parent who is terminally ill, another parent who isn't in the greatest health herself and I'm the primary caregiver. With all of that, who will step to the plate and hang with me through all of that? Perhaps that is why I'm still single. then another reason, I downplayed it too. I didn't want to get hurt, I didn't want to get caught up, so I stayed away from it.
@disvachic (10121)
• United States
25 Apr 07
There are plenty good men in this world.I have really good friends that are true to their Lady.I have good men in my family.So I know they are out there.I just havent ran into the right one yet.When I was younger I PROLLY did but I was so sprung on the guy I was with and paid them NO mind.I chose to be with somebody that was doing me dirty.Im sorry to hear about your parents.When you say nobody will hang in there with you,Hey a real MAN will be there for you through the good and the bad.HOpe your parents will be ok.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
Hello,disvacchic.I am single now,the reason why I ma still single may be I bad experience in relationship ,I would be very careful in choosing guys when into a relationship,also at this moment, i am enjying to be single actually because I dot have to respond to anyone and I can do anything i want to do without any restiction, if i want, i can sleep for whole day, or stay at home replying mylot without going out.
@disvachic (10121)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Yes I can relate,my ex has taught me a valuable lesson.For now on I will be careful also.
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@estarga (1188)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Almost all married men think the grass is greener on the other side. They think that when they got married they got a housekeeper/maid. They also think that their wife is also their mother, expects us to iron their clothes etc.
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
25 Apr 07
COULD gracious I hope when I get married I hope he doesn't expect me to do everything by myself.I would hope 50/50
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