Men are Unfaithful in the Philippines!

@Mirita (2668)
United States
April 25, 2007 2:46pm CST
I visited the Philippines this past March and I noticed that married men are unfaithful to their wifes. In other words, having a mistress is accepted by society and by the family. Nobody makes a big deal about this type of behavior. In my opinion, women need to value themselves more and demand respect from these men. I bet you that if they were the ones unfaithful to their husbands that it would be different. What do you guys think?
8 responses
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Mirita, how many men from the Philippines have you met in order to draw up this conclusion? I've lived in the Philippines for 29 years of my life and unless some drastic change has happened during the last 5 years that I was away, I'd say all forms of unfaithfulness are not readily accepted by our society. That doesn't mean that men don't cheat. But where in the world does men , and women for that matter, don't cheat?
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I'm sure that every country in the World has lots of unfaithful people ,and I'm just referring to men from the Philippines because I was told by many women in the Philippines that is very common for men in the Philippines to cheat on their spouses because most women allow this type of behavior. I'm sure that italians, germans, cubans, puerto ricans, americans etc etc have unfaithful people too. I'm not trying to insult anyone. I'm a white cuban lady married to a wonderful filipino guy ,and my husband is one good example that not all filipinos are unfaithful.
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I know you did not mean to insult anyone, I was just wondering why you singled out the Philippines. And my original question, how many women did you talk to to come up with the conclusion? It's every woman's choice to stay or leave their philandering husbands. It's not because there's no divorce in the Philippines or that Filipino women don't have respect for themselves. It's because they chose to do it. And I say again, it's not unique to Filipinos only. I am happy that you found a wonderful Filipino husband.
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@cyrile07 (236)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
well, i guess not all men are unfaithful here in the philippines but mostly yes, i agree.. i guess they are not contented in their life.. they love to ruin things specially the trust of their wife.. men who betray their wife are IRRESPONSIBLE and SELFISH.. they dont care about the feelings of their wife specially their kids... I hope they will change.. and women who have a well unfaithful husbands please wake up.. please...
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Finally someone who understands why I'm trying to say. Yes, They are irresponsible and selfish because marriage is a serious commitment.
@cyrile07 (236)
• Philippines
10 May 07
thank you.. i do hope that through mylot we could help wives whose husband (or vice versa) is unfaithful.. because not only men are unfaithful there are also women maybe not just in the Philippines who are unfaithful specially those women who has parents who made arrange weddings for their kids :) happy mylotting :)
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@jhad17 (33)
• Philippines
17 May 07
hi mirita!! hope ur doing ok., i am a Filipino and i respect your opinion and observation towards the said concern., but i think that neither of us can judge generally the Filipino men and so with the other races., but on the other hand infidelity is a big no, no to every relationship., so i definitely agree with you., ;p
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
17 May 07
Thank you for your comment ,but my intention was not to generalized the filipino men since this was based on my observations. I feel that every country should have the option of divorce since we agree that infidelity is a big no no. Also, Have you noticed that not even one filipino man has responded to this discussion.
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 07
Yes, the asian traditions are too different. They are more oriental: it`s normal for a man to live in a concubinat, to have many wifes -legal or unlegal.But for the women this is not the same.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Yes, there is always a double standard.
@letzap519 (408)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
that was a sad experience for you coz you just met or saw the unfaithful ones however i can say that there are still faithful husbands to their family and wives just quite a few of them... hope you will be able to meet them on your next vacation in our country..
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Yes, I'm sure that you have lots of couples who are faithful to eachother , and I guess I was unlucky because I met so many unfaithful ones. In regards to the Philippines, I love the people and I was treated with a great deal of respect. I was just dissappointed with the infideliy situation. This happens a lot in the Philippines if a man has a good financial situation and so many poor young girls are looking to improve their lives the wrong way.
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Honey men are unfaithful everywhere. I do think wemen should value thier selves more. The problem with this is that if we as wemen wouldn't date married men or men that were taken they would have no one to cheat with.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Yes, you are right, men are unfaithful everywhere ,but in the Philippines women allow this more than in the Western World. Also, you are right so many women also disrespect other women by getting involved with married men.
@paulsy (1264)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
Well, to give justice to us Filipinos, that is not entirely true with the whole Filipino population. There are still some men who are faithful to their wives. My father was faithful to my mom until his very last breath. They were married for 25 years and we never had family problems about either one of them being unfaithful to each other. And so goes with my grandparents. When a husband is unfaithful, it's not that no one makes a big deal about it. It's really the decision of the wife to put up with it. That's just the same in any country, anyway, right? It just so happens that more Filipinas opt to just let it happen to themselves. However, yes, you are right, if the Filipina became unfaithful to her husband, she is definitely considered an "unclean woman."
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Yes, you are right because my husband is from the Philippines and we have been married for 21 years and we are both faithful to eachother ,but the reason why women in the Philippines allow men to be unfaithful is because there is no divorce and women have no legal protection. Also, they have no support from family and friends and most of these women are housewifes who believed that is normal for men to be unfaithful and sometimes the kids even blamed their moms for the behavior of the Dad. I saw so many cases like this. In the western world women are secure of themselves and will drop guys like this like a hot potatoe. Also, Kids will be also on the side of the mom ,and they will defend their mom against their Dad if they have to.
@rodeotexas (1154)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I think that both the man and the woman need to be faithful in their relationship. I would not accept it if my husband was not faithful with me and to me only.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I agree with you totally.