Will you give your seat for someone?

Philippines
April 25, 2007 7:16pm CST
I take a bus to my office and it is located on the business district of our country. During rush hours, the bus picks up passengers even if there are no seats left. This is actually okay for us because in Ayala avenue, every bus is full. Much worst on the our trains. Yes, I'm a girl but I don't expect anyone to give me their seat, but when somebody does i'm very very thankful. And this kept me thinking, what will it take to give your seat to someone?
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@pendragon (3350)
• United States
26 Apr 07
It's a rule on the buses here that you need to give your seat to an elderly erson if youre in one of the convenient seats in the front, I always do,I feel its a privelege and not just a rule, I take the bus routes withe grocery stores on them so mainly their already struggling with bags, so I like to be as helpful as I can.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
Hi pendragon! This makes you a blessing for someone.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I live in Cavite and work in Manila. I ride the bus to work and most of the time, it is already full. I don't expect anyone to give me their seat even if I am a girl and they are sturdy men sitting on the bus seats, because to my opinion, we are all paying the same, so why not take a seat while we can? Besides, every person has a choice whether or not to ride the bus which is already so full of people. In my opinion, if an individual still rides the bus even if it is already loaded, he should do so at his own risk, meaning, he should not expect those who are sitting to give way for him. I no longer believe that men should act gentlemanly in this situation, like give their seats to girls. If a girl, or an older person wants to seat down on a bus, then he should not ride one which is already so full. It would be unfair to other people to give up their seats just because a girl or an old person rode the bus. But then, if someone gives me his seat, I'd be very grateful. And if I am the one sitting and I see someone with a baby in her hands, or if the woman is pregnant, I'd get her my seat, but I wouldn't be doing that now, in any case, because I am pregnant myself. So I just refrain from riding a fully loaded bus. If I had a choice, I'd ride a jeep, just so I can sit well.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Just a week ago, I rode the bus and it was so full of people. The traffic was very heavy and the driver had a hard time finding a way. An old woman suddenly shouted that an important document she was holding flew out the window of the bus. It might have loosen out of her hand when the bus moved, and I could tell she was having a hard time keeping her balance (we all were, since we were standing and the bus was packed with people). A man in the front seat shouted at her, and told her she should have held it firmly. I pitied the old woman because I know it was hard for her standing there with things in her hand. I thought the man should have been more considerate. He was sitting comfortably and the old woman was standing along with others. The man was so fidgety. When we reached the toll gate, the bus encountered a problem and the driver had to stop it. The man shouted at the driver. The driver shouted back. It was early morning but you could feel the tension in the bus. Oh, it was disgusting!
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
When something like this happen, specially in the evening, i just want to cry. I mean, after a long day of work, where do they get the energy to yell at someone.
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Yeah, i don't expect anyone as well. Have you experience a hot discussion among passengers? I hate is when a heated discussion starts on the bus. I mean, hey, if you want to be push and stomp, take a taxi!
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• India
29 Apr 07
it takes nothing to give your seat to someone. i do it all the time. and tell you what - have made so many friends in the bargain - its worth the effort if one can be helpful to even one. wish lots of people keep offering you seats - always
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• Philippines
30 Apr 07
Hi there goldream29! Yeah, a lot of people wish that too.
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
26 Apr 07
If someone came on to the bus who was elderly or a pregnant woman or someone who just looked like they needed the seat more than me. I would happily give my seat away.
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
So nice of you. This world needs more people like you.
• Vietnam
27 Apr 07
I also do the same. But with young people, they'll never stand a chance. ^^
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@metrix88 (49)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 07
yes, man must give the seat to the girl,take and give. remember some day later may be man need help from girl
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• Philippines
30 Apr 07
Hello metrix88! Thanks for posting and sharing your views.
@dsuesue (180)
• China
29 Apr 07
Most of people in our city Xamen will give seat to others if necessary, So do I. For the same reason, we don't like to seat in front of the bus, since all people here get on bus from front door, if you see someone need help, you'd better give you seat first.
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• Philippines
30 Apr 07
People in your place must be very nice! Thanks for posting.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
26 Apr 07
i am a girl, too. but i have given out my seat many times to others as well. especially moms carrying babies, disabled persons and the elderlies. i guess the guys feel a bit embarrassed when they see me give up my seat for someone else since when they see me doing it, they give out their seat for me. happy myLotting!
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
They sure does! lol. Thanks for posting.
@Stiletto (4579)
26 Apr 07
If I'm travelling on a bus or train I give up my seat for an elderly person, physically disabled people, pregnant women or women with small children. Sometimes I'll also give up my seat if someone has a lot of bags to carry. I wouldn't expect someone to give up their seat for me just because I'm a woman though.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
Hear hear! A very positive attitude, sending the message to all of you guys out there.
• Canada
26 Apr 07
Yeah it is quite common for me to give my seat to some who is in need, usually i give to old lady or to lady who feel uncomfortable standing.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
In behalf of those you have offered your seat, thank you!
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
26 Apr 07
I am on the receiving side of people giving up their seats...i have horrible knees (i am scheduled for surg soon) and i sometimes need a cane. It is wonderful when people do that!!
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• Philippines
30 Apr 07
It is wonderful indeed! It gives the person who offered you his seat a wonderful feeling as well. Hope you get well soon after your surgery. Thanks for posting cher913!
• Canada
26 Apr 07
Only to seniors, mothers, and physically disabled people... after all I worked all day too and am tired as well
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
This is also the reason why i don't expect anyone to offer. Hello blackatdreamer!
@msjigga (864)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I am a women and I tend to give my seat up to elderly people, pregnant women and disabled people.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
Thanks for sharing your views msjigga. Be blessed!
@vijiayyar (191)
• Ireland
26 Apr 07
I can surely give my seat for anyone but it depends on a few things: 1. How i wud be feeling on that day, like my mood. 2. How will i be physically that day. 3. Does the other person really needs the seat desperately, like old age persons, lady with child, someione injured, etc.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
lol Ü
• China
26 Apr 07
Yes,I will. I think we should be friendly to everyone.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
I think you are such a friendly person! Thanks for posting!
@Betso221 (1699)
• India
26 Apr 07
Yes i always do that when i see a matured or old people waitni to seat i normally give them place. But sometime i act mean cause when the bus or train is too crowsded then i probably rest my a*s rather than getting up. But 90 times out of 100 i usually give ma seat to someone.
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
The part of my body that really hurts are my legs. Just tell yourself they don't know you anyway. lol
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• China
26 Apr 07
I think I wont give seats to young girls, even I want to, its too embarrased for boys to give seats to unknown girls in my country. but I will give my seats to the old and the pregnent, this is for sure. the bus in my city usually has two kinds of seats, blue and red seats. the red seats are especially for the old and the pregnent. in general, I wont take the red seat even its empty, I prefer stand and leave the red seat for those who need it. have a good day.
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I've never heard of that, does anyone who is neither pregnant nor elderly takes the red seat? Well, yeah it is true, when somebody offers me his seat unexpectedly, im a little bit embarrased, but i'll take the offer anyway. Ü
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• India
26 Apr 07
I will give seat to old people and children or some people who are not able to stand. I get up and give my seat as soon i see physically challenged, pregnant ladies and people alike. It gives me a very sensitive helping feeling. It makes me feel good when help others like this
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
Makes you somehow proud of yourself, right? yeah,it is indeed a good feeling even if it is just a simple act.
• United States
26 Apr 07
Elderly people, pregnant women, women with small children, and handicap people are who I usually give a spot up for. And that could be anything from a seat on a bus, to a seat at the kids ball game or school function.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
Hello gypsylady28! I never really thought of giving my seat at a basketball game (o--o). This is so nice of you! Be blessed!
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
26 Apr 07
I will give my seat to the elderly people. That's what you do.That's what respect is about. You just don't let them stand there in the bus. Unfortunately a lot people don't give away their seat.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
It is very rare, i ride the bus everyday as i observe it i think it only happens 2-3 time a month. Hello eyewitness!
@jlara_gtr34 (3491)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
yes i think i would give my seat to someone else especially if i see that he or she is really in need of a seat. i would most probably give up my seat to afrail old man. i really have a weakness for them. :)
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Hi jlara_gtr34! Be blessed.
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