if your parents dislike your boyfriend what will you do?

China
April 25, 2007 9:22pm CST
you and your boyfriend love each other very much and you get along very well.you has been at marriage age so you decide to marry him.but your parents dislike him without any reason,they just dislike him and they do not agree with your marriage.under this condition,what will you do?
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@smartmom (827)
• United States
26 Apr 07
If my parents do not give me any valid reason for their dislike, and my relationship with the boyfriend is just what I want, then I will go ahead and marry him. I do feel though, that if my parents were against the marriage there must be some valid reason behind their scrutiny, and I would definitely try to get the issue resolved first. Only after hearing what my parents have to say will I be able to make a sound judgment on whether or not they have any grounds to base their concern on.
• China
26 Apr 07
but everybody says that:our parents is the only one that will not hurt us.what should I do? but thank you for your advice !
@rodeotexas (1154)
• United States
26 Apr 07
It's simple. I would still marry him. I have two good friends in this situation right now. His family does not like her and cannot give one good reason as to why they do not like her. What I told them is ya'll are adults, it is ya'lls life and if you parents do not ant to support you two then let it be. They will eventually come around and if they don't then they are the ones missing out on ya'lls lives. When you love someone you can't just turn it off and say I don't love you because my family doesn't like you. You say I love you and I will stand by your side no matter what even if my family does not like you. They need to get to know the person and once they do they will see what you love about them and hopefully come around. If not then it's like I said before. It's their loss not ya'lls.
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• China
26 Apr 07
maybe you are right,time can tell us.thank you for your advice very much.maybe I should insist on myself.
@earth2jacq (1503)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
If I feel like we are really meant to be and that he will be a good husband and a good father to our future children then I don't see any reason why I shouldn't marry him even if my parents don't like him. In the first place I will be the one who will live with him and not them.
• China
26 Apr 07
what you said is right,but it is hard to do for me.I always obey my parents.
@massageeh (966)
• Taiwan
26 Apr 07
It comes down to choice. Which is more important to you. your parents or boyfriend. Or, I think you would need to find out why your parents dislike him. Don't take "without any reason" for an answer. It wouldn't be fair to you and your boyfriend. Then, how much does your boyfriend love you. Is he willing to do anything to have your hand? To change? What are some things he needs to do to prove his worth. Sometimes you just need to play the middle person and work it to your advantage.
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