requesting to be put on friends list

@deebomb (15347)
United States
April 26, 2007 1:33pm CST
Hay, people don't you think that when you ask to be put on someone's list of friends that you should respond to at least one of their discusions? I know that my discusions aren't very interesting but surly you could find at least one to respond to before requesting to be my friend. Isn't that why you are requesting to be my friend so I'll respond to some of your discusions? From now on I will disarove any one that asks to be my friend and doesn't respond to at least one of my discusion
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@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I have over two hundred on my list. Most have requested to be put on my list, I have approved all of them. I spend most of my time here in the topic "discussions my friends started" that way I get a variety to choose from.
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Yes I do like the idea of have that much material to search for agood discusioun but over the last couple of days I had several people ask to be friends. today it just struck me as wrong to ask to be friends and not give at least one response
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@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I understand what you mean. I have had many request and then you approve of them and then you never see them again. Some of them don't continue with mylot. Not like us that are here all the time, LOL.
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I appreaciate your coming around again.
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@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
27 Apr 07
Very rare that I requested friendship on mylot. this is because I read many topics saying that they deleted their friends because their friends never replied to their topics. I really don't think this is what mylot friends are all about. I have more than 100 friends, only 5 ever responded to my topics regularly and I never complain about the rest because I myself don't have much time to spend here and I don't respond to topics I don't find interesting or I know nothing about even if they are my friends' topics. If I ever requested friendship on mylot, usually because the person responded to my topic and I like the response, or because I responded to their topics and I like their comments or they gave me BR so I know we do think alike. I don't think I ever denied friendship requests, but I might months ago I forgot now.
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I don't oftrn request to be added to someone's list but when I do it is because I like the topics that they put out for discusions. Usually the people that are asking lately I feel are just after someone to post on their discusions.
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@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I've got a couple of friends like that too, that have asked to be friends, but never responded to my discussions, and I don't even have that many. It's kind of rude, to not even answer one. At least I have some good friends,who not only have good discussions, but they respond to mine sometimes. It's just like being appreciated.
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Yes I have some good friends that do post to my silly discusions but when I decide to ask to be someone's friend I at least do a couple of posts to their discusions first.
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• United States
1 May 07
I do believe that myself. I don't request to be put on a friends list very often but I have a lot that have requested to be put on my list and I don't get any responses to my discussions from them. I think that makes it kinda one sided. I have been thinking about turning the notifications off on those who don't respond to my discussions at all.
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
1 May 07
The only thing I can think abou them is they geive me another place to look for discusions. in the discusion they respond to. When I request to be put on someone list I always respond to a number of their discussions and I like them.
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@yanjiaren (9050)
2 May 07
You are right my friend, I rarely make a friend's request but I saw what a good mum you are and want to learn from you ll, also the fact that my big sis has moved to the U.S and has married an American and guess where she lives? Lexington South Carolina lol, she has become a right redneck lol..I love them, even id politically we may frazzle a bit hehehe
@deebomb (15347)
• United States
3 May 07
That is one of the thins I find so exciting about myKLot it's finding people from your home town or someone living in the town you live in
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
3 May 07
Forgot to thank you for the comment about being a good mom
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@yanjiaren (9050)
13 May 07
Every time I see your posts it reminds me to try and be a better mum every time. I had a fantastic weekend with my son, and both days he wanted to cook with me. He is brilliant for a 12 year old. Thanks for the best response too, I never expected that..
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@JoyfulOne (6243)
• United States
1 May 07
It would be nice if everybody on the friends list who asked would post to at least one discussion, just like you said. I don't get why you'd want to be onto somebody's friend list if you didn't care enough for their discussions to chip in an opinion here or there. I know my mailbox gets filled everyday with multiple discussions. Depending on how busy my day is I will try to answer at least a few. I haven't been on myLot for about a week to answer anybody's questions anywhere, so I'm spending this afternoon going through my friends lists and trying to answer one, two, or more from each person. Erratic, I know, but sometimes it's the best I can do with the time I have, but at least I'm trying:o)
@dawnrm69 (1174)
• United States
13 May 07
I totally agree with oyu on this I am not on a couple of days during the week and well the days I am able to get on I try to get to as many as I can For I want the same in return. I do want to add that everyone has different opinions and well I think we should share no everyone is not going to agree and that does not bother me I just like to hear different opinions myself. Sometimes I learn something from them. like learning something new everyday myself. Thank you for this conversation and take care till next time
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
14 May 07
I don't expect them to do much but at least one before asking to be added to the list
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@JoyfulOne (6243)
• United States
14 May 07
That's a good point Dee...when somebody asks to be added to your friends list, they should have at least replied to ONE of the discussions you started. I get a lot of requests from people who have never responded once before asking to be added. I have often noticed this. Oh well, at least we're trying to respond!
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@tess1960 (2387)
• United States
16 May 07
I make a friend request after finding a rsponse to my discussion and going to view some of the persons interests and discussions. then the friend request is so that I will get e-mails of when they start discussions. I ususally response from an e-mail or from being in the discussions my friends started section. If the person does not start a discussion that interests me I will not respond. If they don't start discussions very often I may not remember to go and check. I am part time here so can only see and do so much. Maybe now I may regret my friend request. Oh well!!
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
16 May 07
Hello tess Thanks for droping by. I don't respond to every discussion made by my frieds. I was having abad day when I posted this discussion. I have since rethought the situation.. The more friends I have the easier it will be to find some good discussions through their friends too.
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@tess1960 (2387)
• United States
16 May 07
Yes, I agree, the more friends the better.
@disvachic (10125)
• United States
18 May 07
I get those all the time requesting to be a friend and dont even here from them anymore,i said i wasnt going to delete but its to the point where they dont even bother,so why request to be a friend,i thought you may found something interesting ya know.
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
18 May 07
One thing about adding them is if you run out of discussions from yoour regular source you can go through their responses and possibly find some one with some interesing discussions to post. I believe you get more by responing than starting new discussions any way.