Who take blame everytime there's a breakup?

@ellie26 (4128)
Malaysia
April 26, 2007 3:30pm CST
We often hear about the breakup of a marriage, engagement or a relationship. There so many reasons and causes that can trigger breakups. But the most common causes are infidelity, adultery, two timing. Apart from these, what are the other reason/causes? Do you agree that a simple misunderstanding can lead to it? This is an open discussion, so feel free to voice out your opinion.
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4 responses
• Philippines
8 May 07
There are times when one of the partners had done a very serious offense. In that case, that person should be blamed for the breakup - we do really love our partners, but sometimes we too have limits and can only take so much before we decide that it's time to settle the score. A lot of times, a simple misunderstanding leads to a breakup. Communication is really important in a relationship and failure to have a really good communication can lead to serious effects. In that case, both should take the blame - for communication to work, it needs both partners to cooperate, both partners to commence, and both partners to listen. Communication, like love, isn't just a one-way street - both can talk, but both should also try and listen what the other is saying.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
10 May 07
Yes, when communication break down it can lead to a serious relationship problems. I believe in a relationship we should be able to give and take.
@thai11 (239)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I believe that a simple misunderstanding could be the possible culprit of a breakup. If a couple splits over something small then it wasn't meant to be for them. Sounds corny, I know but I believe in soul mates and that there is that "one" for everyone. Money is another HUGE factor that can tear couples apart!
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• United States
26 Apr 07
Those are big reasons that you listed but there are others. One of the biggest thing in a break up that I have noticed is lack of communication. It is very important to talk to one another in honesty so there can be no misunderstandings. If you approach each other right away when you have a question on something that you think is wrong the situation can be cleared up instead of sitting and festering and a mountain being made out of a mole hill. There is no blame to one inparticular person. Both have to take some of the blame. It takes two to make a fight. It takes two to end up in a breakup.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 07
Yes, I agree with you that lack of communication plays a major role in relationships breakups. Lack of communication happens because both think they can understand each other silence/body language thus creating a misunderstanding. We should communicate more,not only to our loved ones but also those people surrounding us.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
19 May 07
this is a tough one. but, i can share mine. i think its communication gap and the intrusion of a third person (not infidelity). in our case it was his ever meddling mother. this is very common in my country but then mine was an extreme case with situations hard to cope with. i put some blame to myself aswell. me, being a very silent and soft person wouldn't dare to speak outright and eventually when i did, he didnot believe. he escaped the whole situation. they say, love conquers all, but it doesn't. i still love him but that's not the end word. thank you.