Do you apologize too much?

United States
April 26, 2007 10:17pm CST
Do you apologize too much for silly things? My son had tball pictures the other day and the lady just could NOT pronounce his name...It's Chayton and for some reason she had a real problem with this. I told her his name like three times and then I just apologized...I actually apologized for my son's name! I started thinking back and I have found that I apologize for my kids' names all the time! They both have differnet kinds of names...very original...and I find that when I tell people their names I end up aplogizing for the names! I really started analyzing more of what I do and I find that I apologize for all kinds of things. I apologize to people when THEY are in MY way and I say "excuse me"...I then apologize. LOL I think I am addicted to it! LOL So, do you apologize unnecessarily?
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@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I didn't think I did really but then when I thought about it I think I do. When you mentioned the "excuse me" and then apologizing I realized yeah I do that too. Perhaps I do over apologize. Now I will admit I have never heard the name Chayton but I do know there are many names out there :) Sometimes finding different and unusual names is nice to do. I did look it up at babynames.com but it didn't have it's meaning. Do you know what it does mean? I like learning things like that.
• United States
27 Apr 07
Chayton is a Sioux Indian name meaning Falcon. They believed that the Falcon carried their dreams. Having a baby was always my dream and it was so hard to get pregnant...in fact, I was told I would never have kids...for over 10 years I was told this. Then, BOOM...got pregnant with my little boy. So, I thought the name fit perfect. :)
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• United States
27 Apr 07
What a pretty story.
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@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
27 Apr 07
When I looked it up it said it was Sioux but not that meaning. I like that meaning and I can understand why you gave him that name. It seems to fit considering how you said he brought your dreams to life.
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@TerryZ (22085)
• United States
27 Apr 07
This is a good discussion. And yes Im always saying Oh Im sorry.LOL I think its mostly nerves thats why we are always doing that. And IM always say excuse me too. I think alot of us do that.
@AmbiePam (48118)
• United States
27 Apr 07
It's always better to be overly polite than unneccesarily rude - which I doubt you have ever been. : )
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@kylanie (1205)
• United States
27 Apr 07
My husband would tell you thaT I do that even when it's not my fault that is one of my faults that I have just don't ask my husband the other ones lol but yes I am the bad one of the bunch that says that to everybody.
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@ricknkae (1726)
• United States
27 Apr 07
yes I am the kind to apologize a lot ... I don't know why exactly ... probably because I am nice natured and I don't like conflicts ... it seems to make the others feel better when you apologize I know it is not always good because when you are too nice people tend to be more like ly to "step on your toes", but well ... tha's the way things are , and I can see that you seem to be of the same kind as well Well, welcome to the club But you shoudl not pologize for your son's name becaus eI think it is actually very cute and original at that ... better than john ... lol Feel proud of your kids names !!!
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• United States
27 Apr 07
No I dont. I am the opposite I only apologise when I am sure I am in the wrong. I find that people that apologize too often have a low self esteem. You should have not apoloized when you had already given the correct pronunciation of your son's name she should have apologized to YOU and YOUR SON. What an idiot and I would have been insulted.
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• Singapore
27 Apr 07
I don't. Why should I apologize if I am not in the wrong? I say thanks too much perhaps, but not sorry. Only if I am in the wrong would I say sorry.
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@bad1981 (799)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Yes, Im always saying im aorry to my husband for petty or dumb things and sometimes hes like why do you keep doing that. But that is just me.
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@prestocaro (1254)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I find myself doing this a lot. If someone is mumbling, I apologize and then ask them to speak up. I also apologized the other day in the drive thru when asking for ketchup. I don't know why I do that either. I'm going to try to keep an eye out for it now and put a stop to it. I mean, if I say it all the time then what good is it when i really mean it?
@bunalice (315)
• China
27 Apr 07
If I do something wrong,I will apologize,I think this is polite,we all should do that.
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• United States
27 Apr 07
Yep, I'm sorry but I do too! Everyone one says quit saying you're sorry. Then I say I'm sorry about saying I'm sorry! I feel that it makes me sound wimpy but I've been doing it for so many years that it's a habit.
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@Dana5881 (609)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I honestly think I don't apologize enough. Sometimes admitting that something is my faul and saying I'm sorry it's a challenge for me but I don't have trouble saying excuse me and stuff.
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@alex309 (45)
• China
28 Apr 07
to my eyes,about apologize need to consider many aspects. face different things we must deal with in unlike ways,like apologize,sometimes we must apologize to somebody what you have done bad or made silly things,but sometimes opposite. if someone agree my ideas,thank you first here!
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
28 Apr 07
I apologize all the time. Even if its not my fault for something, so i can see where your coming from. I just am the type of person that if i snap a little, or if i say something that might have upset someone i apologize all the time..sometimes i apologize in fights even though i think im still right
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
not that much.. i think once or twice you say "sorry" to a person is enough.. saying it many times losses its meaning or significance.. its for them wether they will take it or not.. the most important thing is that you said it.. and as long as you mean it saying it...say it once but mean it.. not saying it just to let them hear from you... no matter how big or how small it is,... say it and mean it..
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@AmbiePam (48118)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I think in this matter I am a mirror image of you. I used to say "I'm sorry" for every sort of thing under the sun. When someone didn't understand something simple, or couldn't do something right, or just couldn't find what they were looking for - I'd say I'm sorry! My mom commented one day on how I always did that and she assured me I hardly ever had a real reason to say it. So what did I do? I changed my tune from "I'm sorry" to "I apologize." LOL But after seeing how it was noticeable to other people, I consciously made an effort to stop it. Now days I always apologize if I'm wrong, or if I bump into someone, but unless I need to save face for an elderly person, I don't unneccesarily apologize anymore.
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• United States
27 Apr 07
I apologize all the time for idol things, I hate doing it too. I just do it all the time, its so annoying. I really really hate it, however I usually do it for things i'm actually sorry about.
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
27 Apr 07
That sounds exactly like me!! lol I have always had that habit of apologizing all the time for silly things. I'm afraid I do it so much I probably get on people's nerves. Then I almost feel like apologizing for apologizing so much. hehe My husband sometimes says "why are you sorry?!" and I say "I don't know". lol I guess it just becomes a habit cause of trying to be polite or something, and then we end up doing it when we really don't have any reason to! lol
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@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I have no problem apologizing when I do something wrong or say something wrong. I do not apologize for things that are not my fault. My mother has a hearing disability and she is constantly apologizing for everything. If the sales person says something and she doesn't hear her she apologizes for not being about to hear. There was a sales person one day that raised her voice to my mother because she had to explain herself over again because my mother could not hear her. My mom is saying how sorry she is while this little snit is being rude to her. I felt so bad for my mom that I had to step in. Lets just say this little snit wont be talking to my mother that way every again. There are tons of people in this world that don't know how to apologize that I will not apologize for them.
@villageanne (8555)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Like you, I seem to apoligize for every little thing. I have this thing about everything being my fault. If I analize it long enough, I could probalby apoligize for the Gulf war. LOL I think I would rather apoligize than feel guilty for something. LOL
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
28 Apr 07
Yup, I am bad to do this too. It seems we feel the need to preface our comment with an apology for fear of angering the other person or for 'bothering them.' I find we often do it when they are in the position to be bothered...I mean they are working and are supposed to be 'at my service!' Why do we do this? Are we weak? Are we overly mannered? I have often wondered this myself! For instance, if I have to ask a waitress for something, I find myself saying, "I'm sorry to bother you, could you please bring some ketchup" or something like that. I shouldn't be apologizing, as that is what she has been hired to do! But yet, I do it!