Good Friend Bad Friend

@wolfie34 (26792)
United Kingdom
April 27, 2007 9:31am CST
Have you ever come across a friend who thinks the world of you one day, and in their eyes you can't do anything wrong, they worship you and they can't do enough for you, then the next day they don't want to know you? Not so much as a text or they'll ignore you? Have you ever heard of the saying 'good breast, bad breast'? it's a pyschological term. Or are some friends like walking on eggshells, the slightest thing will upset them? Maybe it's a work colleage who is your best friend one day then looks at you the next as though you are a piece of sh*t brought in from the streets? People are STRANGE!
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
27 Apr 07
Well. Yes.. i did manage to know and i still know a few of those friends. I don't think that it is related to strange or not strange. I think that it is related to certain problems, a lot of times we are speaking about mental problems. I know that this person (and we are talking about adults), are unstable people. They usually can not control themselves on a lot of things in life, not just with this friendship cases. I do know one dear person to me, that has this problem. Did you ever hear of BPD? it is usually relates to that. Borderline personality disorder is defined as a mental condition characterized primarily by emotional dysregulation, extreme "black and white" thinking, or "splitting" (believing that something is one of only two possible things, and ignoring any possible "in-betweens"), and chaotic relationships. It is described by mental health professionals as a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in mood, interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior, as well as a disturbance in the individuals sense of self. In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation. I think you ought to read about it, because it does relate to the post you opened. Tell me what you think.
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
27 Apr 07
You are welcome wolfie, it is not accidental that i know about this..
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Well, Wolfie you are not picking the right friends. You got people right in front of you who love you and would never do such nasty things. Look with your eyes Wolfie *grins* I am always the same way . I don't turn on my friends. I might get mad at them. But i always forgive them. Thats what a true friend does. Someone who Will never judge you or be mean to you. There are people like that. I promise. Now stop taking my tiara and hiding it from me. lol
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 07
I've only taken your tiara cos you've pinched me crown! I wish you were closer too, reckon we'd paint the town red or pink! Friendship to me is platignum not a throwable toy, it is important to me x
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I feel the same way Wolfie. You are and always be a great friend to me.
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 07
There is a phrase: "Love me when i am black, when i am white-everybody loves me".One real friend is a friend at good and bad moments. He dont treats you as god and devil.He respects and loves the person in you-with your divine and devilish characteristics. That`s why this person you speak about is not a friend.
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@semak76 (187)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I think I may be guilty of being the flaky friend at time, I hate to admit. Not that I ever get mad at anyone, but there are some days I just don't want to deal with people, so I don't. I won't answer the phone, or go out. It is nothing against the person, it is just me. My good friends know this about me, and don't take it personally. They also know that is there is ever a major problem, I will be there. Just because I dont feel like chitchatting...doesnt mean I don't still care.
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@Naomi17 (624)
27 Apr 07
I don't understand them or class them as friends! Friends are always pleased to see you and these are fairweather friends who drop you like a hot cake then don't understand why you don't want to see them
• United States
27 Apr 07
Yes, we think we have all had friends like that, currently I have a friend who does not know I exist, well she talks as if I don't, she never stops, only to pause and take a breath, can't get a word in edgewise ... but if she is talking she is happy so I try to encourage it, otherwise all she does is complain how horrible her life is .. geez
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
27 Apr 07
You got that right some people are strange. I have some friends that are like that one day everything seemed fine then few days later they acted different like they don't know you or want you around I don't like that feeling and it hurts really bad, it used to bother me when some of so called friends do that but now I have decided that they weren't my true freinds some wanted attention or wanted something well no more of that I have never done anything like that to anyone.
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@patootie (3593)
7 May 07
Ohh yess .. I have had this kind of 'on/off' friend several times .. but after a few sudden changes in attitude I soon drop them and find ways to avoid them .. I need friends like this as much as I need a hole in my head .. hehehe
• India
28 Apr 07
hmmm....v hve good and bad friends.and among best friends i dont think they should worship us and they should do anything for us.
• United States
28 Apr 07
"People are strange when you're a stranger, faces look ugly when you're alone." That is exactly what i thought of when i read this post. Yes, people are very strange. There really is no TRUE explaining of the human mind. No two minds work completely alike. It's quite fascinating.
@nic_knick (741)
• China
28 Apr 07
well. I should say I am so lucky to have friends to worship me. and I do hope that my friends would like me. I do not know what is wrong with me and my friends since I start working two years ago. we seldome contact each other. and I do no believe that they are busy . as I can see.i am not really busy myself. and they often say that I am doing the busiest job in the world. and what the hell is that why do they seem to be busieer than I am . really werid. and I think it is lucky for you to have such kind of friends. who has been really good to you. just love them. and they would do you good too. I think...
@barrywh (11)
• China
28 Apr 07
yes,i do not deny that some people are strange,but i think it also have real friendship in the world.just find it,i am chinese, i believe preordain;
@easyzheng (666)
• China
28 Apr 07
Yes, such kind of people are everywhere around you. I once had a very good friend that we got together for more than 20 years. I helped her a lot and she would like to tell me everything that happened to her, happy or unhappy. But some day because her husband(now divorced), in order to cheat her money, took away her money and told her he had lent it to me, actually he bought money from my hubby and repaid it with his wife's money without her knowing it, and neither did my hub and I. She believed it and did not ask me for the money back until several years later, she came to me and asked me " May I have my money back?" I felt puzzled,"what moeny?" "The money you borrowed from my ex-husband." "No, I've never borrowed money from your ex-husband." I told her that her ex-husband borrowed money from my hub and had returned it to my hubby several years before. She went mad for it and hated her ex-husband and me at the same time from then on and never get in touch with me ever since. I feel very angry and upset about it.Her ex-husband was a scalawag, she knew it, but she still chose to break up with me. How sad!
@chiyosan (30198)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
i have been expose to this kind of a friend. we were so close and was really sharing stuffs with each other. and then i have just told him that our professor was looking for him in one defense we made, she just got angry and then never spoke to us again, even saying too many bad words, and i thought i knew her... she is such a foul mouthed lady.
@nilzerous1 (2435)
• India
28 Apr 07
I have been lucky enough to get people around me, my friends, who have always been my blind supporter; and not only that, they just follow me like nothing. They have more belief in my ability and attitude than I do have for myself. Being surrounded by such a group of person is not always a great thing to have. As in case you are doing something wrong, nobody is going to speak that out. But I must admit that I enjoy my present condition a lot.
• United States
28 Apr 07
This isn't something I've totally experienced, but is something I certainly fear. Tonight, my best friend (who works in the same building as I) was to check my schedule for me because I lost my copy somewhere. It got to be 10:00 and I didn't hear from her, so I started to freak. I had horrible thoughts like, "I thought I could count on her." and "Why would she not check something so small for me, now I have to drive twenty miles to go find out what I work." I had sent her a text to call my cell, but turns out she didn't get the text and when my husband were at the store, she called my house and left it on the machine. I was having all of these thoughts. I get paranoid like that, but I know she does think the world of me. She tells me all the time and I think losing that is a huge fear of mine.
@deblenk78 (133)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 07
yeah..it's normaly guys,because someone do it self..
@msjigga (866)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I had a friend who back stabbed or befriend me for no reason at. I thaight she was my best friend I shared everything about he and she shared everything I told her to everyone in the street. I also had a work colleage who changed on me like the water , now she wont even look at me I cant help but wonder why.