Do fat married Women get treated differently than thin married ones?

@saralee1 (1983)
United States
April 27, 2007 3:47pm CST
I have been thinking about this a lot lately, wondering if I was missing something. My husband likes me the way I am (fat) but, then I wonder why we never go dancing. besides the fact he swears up and down he can't dance, I wonder if I was skinny, would he change his mind, and at least try?
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@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
I am not sure maybe he just don't want to dance. You never did go dancing? Just like in a small dance or you are in your house when you hear a music that is very nice? With regards to skinny, its still the same though because dancing is not a matter whether you are fat or not because when you feel like dancing you can go and dance out there. It will never hinder you so go and dance with him now. Ask him.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
27 Apr 07
He doesn't like to dance.(boo-hoo!) would itbe terrible to find just a dance partner? hmmmmm!
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@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
3 May 07
He will not really dance? I am sorry for that. Okay, you better ask for a someone to dance with you.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
23 May 07
I know! we had a discussion on this yesterday. I told him he can't be truly happy unless he dances. the good news is, he is actually considering it now (LOL!)
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@andak2007 (3230)
• Philippines
4 May 07
so the issue here is not really whether he would treat u differently if u were thinner...its the dancing right? it is ok to find another dancing partner...if u really love to dance then dance...i like to dance too and my husband is the one who is fat and doesn't like to dance.
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• United States
23 May 07
..hubby and I are both 'pleasantly plump' :))
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• United States
27 Apr 07
I was a lot thinner when I met my hubby and I think that he treats me better now. If he were to treat me differntly then he wouldnt be around. Maybe your hubby doesnt like to dance. why dont youask him? Tell him to take you dancing and if he says no then ask why....There is nothing wrong with being fat, fluffy, chunky, well fed, or what ever people call it. As long as youare happy with your self!!
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I used to have so much fun dancing! I don't see why people would not like about it! it is kind of a celebration to life, I suppose.
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• Philippines
25 May 07
our husband will make some assurances that he finds us okay that way, fat. yet, try losing some weight and you will be amazed on how he will be pleased with it. just give it a try and you will see for yourself the difference! now, as for him bringing him to dance parties, try persuading him. there might come a time that you will be able to successfully talk him into it. but honestly, if i were you, i will be contented that he won't go dancing. it is better that you keep him to yourself. at times, men starts to meet another woman when they meet an attractive one at some occasions.
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
28 May 07
Naw, my hubby has no intentions upon leaving me. If he does, then he does. I guess it happens. the jealous possessiveness is sooooo unattractive! ew! anyways, the fat thing is a myth. I'd say, 97% of men do not like fat women, and there are only 3% of the men on this planet that are even worth marrying. lucky me.
@flowerchilde (12520)
• United States
23 May 07
..they say ultimately most men hate to dance.. and judging by my dear hubby, that's right on! I love to dance.. so I take advantage of weddings, etc.. but will dance at home too, which is actually more fun as I can do whatever silly thing I want.. [I'm not what anyone would call 'skinny'.] :))
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
24 May 07
I love dancing somuch1 I really miss country line dancing a lot! My husband has agreed to shuffle his feet, as you call it a few times though (haha)
@twils2 (1821)
• United States
6 May 07
I really wouldnt think it was due to your size. For guys( well myself anyway) I feel like I'm on stage when I'm on the dance foor and I really dont care for being in the public spotlight too much. I'll bet he really doesnt feel like he can dance and dosnt want to embarrass you. Back when I was younger I used to try to act like I was dancing but I think I just scared the girls away. Take care!!
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