Do You Believe Women have a Secret Desire to be Submissive, despite Liberation~?

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@Jusred (1578)
United States
April 27, 2007 8:04pm CST
Despite all of advances taken on Women's behalf, all the efforts put forth and all the equality fought for, etc ..Do you believe women have a 'natural' instinct to be submissive, at least regarding some certain aspect(s) of their life~?
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@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I am a submissive. I live in a D/s lifestyle relationship with my Masterhusband 24/7. I have no desire to be liberated. I truly believe for me my place is in the home taking care of my Husband. I also believe though that is each womens right to choose what is right for them. I would never try to force my views on anyone else. I also think for women out in the work force that there should be equal pay for equal work.
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@Jusred (1578)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I am ALL for equality..was even viewed as a 'femenist' in my firends' eyes @ one time..lol..But i am one who wants to be equal with my partner, except in cases where i want him to be in control..and even in just daily life, there is just a sexiness about a man in control..But with one particular aspect of my life, i want my man to be in 'complete' control~ ;)
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@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 07
Well, does it mean that you practic BDSM and what kind of?
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@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
28 Apr 07
As an observer and student of the human condition, I believe ALL human beings have a secret desire to "have their bread buttered on both sides," so to speak. From a psycho-anthropological standpoint (and this is just a guess, mostly), women may historically have a "natural" instinct that favors submissiveness. If you go back to pre-stone age culture, the best way for a female to protect her young would be to "duck and cover" (the child) rather than "stand and fight" (resulting in separation from the child). If you look at that in the context of genetic mutations sometimes taking 100s of generations, then it would not be unreasonable to think that women have remnants of a "natural instinct" to be submissive. My question then becomes "Is a 'natural instinct' and 'secret desire' really the same thing?" And... exactly what KIND of "submissive" are we talking about? The Cleaver Family Model of "the little woman at home" or sexually submissive?
@Jusred (1578)
• United States
28 Apr 07
~Either, both, every and all :)
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• Canada
28 Jul 07
I think "women" is too big a generalization. Perhaps SOME women, but not all. My fiance and I realize that there are certain things that he is good at, certain things I am good at, certain things that are my responsibility and certain things that are his, not because of our genders, but because of who we are as PEOPLE!!!
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@Jusred (1578)
• United States
6 Sep 07
This is really less of a question of rights of the genders, or people in general..But more of a subconscious 'desire'. Thank you for your response~
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@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 07
Yes, i have this desire and this is most subconsious.The paradox is that if i meet a dominate person -i will fight against it with all my heart. Theese archetypes are very confusing sometimes and they are never so clear, in most cases they are mixed.
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@Jusred (1578)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Reading your response made me feel as though i were looking into the mirror- Thank you
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@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
13 Jun 07
The complexity of this matter is very different regarding life and its different conditions and situations! Some time it seems that this would be a nature of the women! But so many time it looks that it is not nature but it is imposed by male dominancy since ages so It is genetically also become part of programming!(?) I think that basically any kind of quarrel and violent steps are not part of women's basic nature (there might be exceptions too)! So regarding to keep this nature more active they themselves decide to submit few things to boost up or fulfill men's ego! By this way they are also working to make changes in men's dominancy at a positive level and some time succeeded also! BUT I PREFER THAT WOMEN KNEW BETTER ASBOUT THEM SO THEY ARE THE REAL PERSONS TO LIGHTEN UP IN THIS MATTER AND LET THEM COME UP WITH REAL PERSPECTIVE!
• United States
28 Apr 07
I suppose many men would like to believe that all women are naturally submissive, but like all generalization (or stereotypes)it's mostly wishful thinking. It's partly a matter of temperament, and women who aren't submissive have always suffered in traditional societies. Personally, I had a marriage in which equality was the unspoken rule, and I wouldn't have put up with anything else. I have a strong need for autonomy (not dominance) and I've never been able to tolerate being under anyone's thumb, for any reason.
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 07
The In and Yan in the nature are interconected. So there is never complete domination, i think. The nature needs this balance. So if one society is matriarhat now, after some period it will be replaced by patriarhat.Theese roles are valid in the femaies too.
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• United States
28 Apr 07
Ya know..i think it depends on a persons life style than gender,,if someone is mainly in control all the time..i think they secretly or not so secretly lol..want to be submissive,its like a form of relaese from the real world..i know for me..i love it! I desire it so bad when im intiment with someone..because im always in control..and that goes for men too..but most men are ashamed to feel this way and never end up doing anything about it..then there are the ones that want to be in charge for once in the bedroom..usually these people are the ones u would never think of..the QUIET ONES!! YES WATCH FOR THEM!! LOL! thyey are the ones that need to do some paddling!! hahaha!!ok i like that side too lol lol!