Your thoughts please?

United States
April 27, 2007 9:19pm CST
My almost 4 year old daughter still carries a blanky with her almost everywhere. I think this may be an issue when she starts preschool in Aug. I hope its not. I knew a neigbore boy who carried his blanky with him until he was in fith grade but not to school with him of course just all the way to school and than left it in the truck when he got to school. That kinda worries me. What are your thoughts on this maybe she will give it up maybe she won't?
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• United States
28 Apr 07
My daughter started pre-k this past year. Before that she carried her blankie everywhere. Last summer before she started school we had to talk to her about leaving her blankie at home. Since we started in the summer before school started we were able to get that under control before school. We did have time where she would throw huge fits about having to leave her blankie home but it got better. One the first day of school when she was really nervous we allowed her to take it with us in the car but when we got out the blankie had to stay in there. At the end of her first day we had the blankie in the car as she told us about her day at school. Now, a year later, she leaves it home unless we go on long trips or she is staying over at my in laws. We haven't had anymore fits about the blankie.
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• United States
28 Apr 07
Well that's great and glad you got it under control most of the way. We already started talking about it but she still not sure about it yet. We will just see what happens I guess. Thanks for the thought. Have a great weekend.
• United States
28 Apr 07
Maybe you could do a reward system for you daughter. That way each time she leaves the blankie at home (which my daughter does now all the time, except like I said before on long trips or spending the night with in laws.) That way it works out good for both of you. You could make up a poster sheet with spots for a sticker or put an X in the square every time she leaves the blankie at home and after so many boxes being filled she will get a reward. Just a suggestion.
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• United States
28 Apr 07
Thats a very good idea thank you. We are alreading doing reward thing with her if she sleeps in her bed all night she get a quarter just this week. So far one quarter but she say she going to get another one tommorrow but I said only if you sleep in your bed all night. Hope this works to.
• United States
12 Jun 07
It's completely normal for a 4yo to still have a comfort object. If you leave her alone about it, she will stop carrying it when she's ready. She may always keep it for memory sake, though. I would rule out any preschool that didn't allow comfort objects, b/c it shows a poor understanding of child development. My son was allowed to take his blanket to preK, even. He kept it in his cubby and covered up with it at naptime. He was very shy, and having his ninight there-even if he didn't have it in his hands all day-helped him to cope. Other kids had stuffed animals. Even if a child carries a blanket far beyond the typical time frame, as long as it's not affecting him socially (being made fun of) why does it matter? It's not a moral, safety, or health issue. It can help a shy or anxious child feel strong or safe enough to participate and take some social risks.
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
19 May 07
I am looking into preschools now for my son. An idea that comes to mind.... each school gives me information on needing to carry a backpack each day with a change of clothes and other required items in it. I would let her put it her backpack. Maybe the newness of starting school will make her not want it right away and then perhaps if she sees that no one else needs theirs she will be fine with out it. But if she needs it for a while, then she just needs it. Part of our role as a parent is to provide security for our children. I have always been of the opinion (as an ex 4th grade teacher) that the less of a big deal you make of things of this nature, the sooner they will resolve themselves.