Do your parents still help you out, or when you need the help??

United States
April 28, 2007 1:46pm CST
Do you have parents who still help you out when you need it? Are they right there when you need them and if ever need any help with anything? Are you a parent who still helps your adult child(ren) when they fall? Or do you try and let them do everything on their own? I am 22 years old and have had to recently move back in with my parents with my 2 kids, i am grateful they are here to help me out because i could not afford to keep the place on my own share your experiences
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@sunshine4 (8708)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I am 43, married with 4 children and my mother is my only parent still alive. She is 76 yrs old and is always there for me. She is the most generous person I have ever met. She is there to watch my 6 yr old if I need a sitter. She gives my older boys rides when I can't. She will go shopping and see something that we might like, so she buys it for us. I only hope to be as generous to my children when they get married and move out.
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• United States
29 Apr 07
awww that is wonderful
@jacki3 (137)
• United States
29 Apr 07
i'm a single mom and i still live in my parents' house. my mom and dad help me out a lot, because they understand how difficult it is to raise a kid on my own. i have never heard them complain even once and i'm grateful i have wonderful parents. but i don't want to take advantage of their goodwill and make it a point to earn a living for myself and my son. it's only when i have nothing that i ask for their help. and when i do have extra, i buy groceries for the house and gifts for my mom and dad.
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@Dana5881 (609)
• United States
29 Apr 07
My parents and my parents in law help us out when we need it. It's not very often that we ask them for help but there are times when we do and they have always helped us so far. I am very thankful they are able to help us when we need it.
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@Whisp1976 (488)
• United States
28 Apr 07
If I geuinely needed help and my parents were in a position to provide it I am sure they would. However, I would never ask them. I also think that parents who give their adult children hand-outs on a regular basis do not teach their kids independence, so they unknowingly do them harm in their endeavour to show kindness. Having said that, there is nothing wrong with sharing the house with your parents until you get on your feet, but you should contribute what you can to household expenses.
@mohit1123 (564)
• India
28 Apr 07
Yes, they do help me out when i need them.
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@5000ml (1923)
• Belgium
28 Apr 07
My parents definitely still help me out, as much as they possibly can. I honestly know they will always be willing to stand by me until the day they die, no matter what my age is by then. I'm very grateful for their support and neverending help, plus they always give me excellent advice.
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@msjigga (866)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I am a 26 year old single mom of 2 my parents are divorced. my mom will not and do not help when I need help. I love her dearly but she is very mean and degrading. My dad he will help me if he can help me. My daddy is the greatest. I could never move in with any of my parents though.
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@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I for one have to be very greatful to my parents. My mom has had my sonsince he was born. She still comes thru when I need her she is well appreciated.
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@loved1 (5336)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I rarely ask my father for help but I know that he would be there for me if I needed him. I also provide my children that unconditional love that is provided to me. Families need to stick together and help one another whenever possible. That is what family is all about.
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I help my adult children and my mom helps me. Once a parent always a parent, it doesn't stop when the kids are grown. We all need help every now and then. There is no shame in that. Someday your parents will need the help, you can be there for them. Thats what families are for, sharing, helping and just being there for each other. Take care, you life will get better.
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• United States
29 Apr 07
thats a good answer!
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
29 Apr 07
i'm 27 years old,sometimes my mom gives me a help when i need it.i feel very misarable.my parents are both 54 years old,now they still work in their places. my mom has already retired,but she find a job with a little money.my dad has not been retired. sometimes i'm very anxious about my actualities.but now, i feel better.these 3 months ,i have a stable income,and it will last forever.but now,i cant send some money to my mom,i long to say sorry to my mom.i'm not a good daughter.i always blame myself .it is not usefull ,i know. i should work hard and earn more money.i decide to work in an office and work online.i'm glad i have a stable and enough income to support myself now.although i dont like work in an office.if you live in the world ,you cant decide everything.
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@wildhorse (1293)
• Egypt
29 Apr 07
Yes I'm lucky to have both of my parents to help when needed, I had bad times and had to rely on their helps many times but luckily for the bast few years things was better for me and didn't ask for help anymore.. still it's reassuring to know that there's someone who really cares for you and ready to help you when you need them.
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@vinu123 (225)
• India
29 Apr 07
ya my parents are in india where they have sent me all the way from india to new zealand. it's ben only 1 week in new zealand. but they still try to call me up, help me out on internet, send me money. taking care of myself even if they are in another country. so there is no doubt about it. they share heir experiences after i left from the place, they keep remembering me there, try to reach out. so, whenever i need a help they are there, no problem.
@Akyu22 (24)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I never really ask my parents for help, but when I do it seems like they never really help at all. I guess I shouldn't be bitter about it, because in the end it just makes me stronger as an individual.
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• United States
29 Apr 07
Yes, my parents are still there for me whenever they can be. Sometimes it is not always possible for them, which I can understand, we are all human, but they are there emotionally always. My mom lives only 40 miles away and would always take me in with her if things came down to a situation like yours or even my grandparents and I am always grateful for that knowledge. It is always nice to know that we are loved and can depend on someone to be there when we fall and stumble as we are almost always certain to do at some point in our lives. :) Hope things start looking up for you.
@scapula (760)
• Jordan
29 Apr 07
Yeah they always helping me in many staffs, they always encourage me to success and let me know that they love me, this is alone makes me feel good all the time.
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@gemini1960 (1162)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
They did not stopping helping me , until now that i hav ealready a family, it is mostly on financial nature.
@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
29 Apr 07
My parents are mostly there when I need them as far as help with watching my kids or with household repairs that we don't know how to do on our own. My husbands parents are there for us in a different way. While we don't need their help with our bills and such, we just bought a house which needs costly repairs here and there. We don't ask for their assistance in providing money for that - they just do it. And I hope that when my children are all grown up we will be able to be there for them as well.
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@wolves69 (756)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I was too happy to leave the house after graduating from HS. Not because of anything bad, but I had a desire to be self-sufficient. Over the years, my parents were there for me and my family if we needed it, and we were there for them. Its gone both ways. They probably helped us out more then we helped them...fortunately, not all was money related. There's just too much experience wasted if you couldn't use your parents as a resource! Helping the kids out...well, we're the kind of parents that allows them to problem solve but we're also there to guide them and provide them with inputs. The oldest understands completely that her actions/inactions has lasting impacts, so she thinks about the consequences. The second, we're still working on, and the oldest boy has a good concept....
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• United States
28 Apr 07
My children know that I would be upset should they need help and not ask me. I still feel responsible for having brought them into this realm . . how it should be, this love is unconditional.