when you enter a relationship, does your single lifestyle really have to stop?

Philippines
April 28, 2007 11:09pm CST
when we become part of a couple, do we really have to "settle down"? you spend your saturdays out with friend, your partner enjoys weekends watching old movies with popcorn or a bucket of kfc. this is not only it, you realize a lot of things has to change now that you'r no longer singular, you are now part of a couple. with this being said, once you enter a relationship, does your single lifestyle have to suffer?
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@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
nope, not necessarily. We should still have our own self when we are in a relationship. We should have our life with him and a life without him. But being in a relationship means that you already have limitations with regards to what you were doing before. But you should not keep yourself away from your friends and family because in some relationships, the men tend to keep their girlfriends away from their friends. They just want that the focus of the girl should be on them only.
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
I think not all your lifestyle when you were single have to suffer, maybe you must evaluate your time, you must have time to your friends and you must have time to your partner but still you must to talk to your partner first, if it is okey with her. Maybe you can go out with your friends, but when its every week when you were single, now you can go out once a month only but still it depends on your partner.You can never have a two both worlds right?
• United States
29 Apr 07
Things do change once you are in a relationship but it should only change as far as compromise. You should never change who you are or what you like because if you do you will grow to resent the person that changed you and the relationship will fail. Instead of not doing the things you love explain to your partner that you feel you still need these things in your life but that you do not want to cause conflict in the relationship so how can you work it out? Asking these questions shows you care about their opinion and are willing to be honest with them but at the same time are standing your ground of still being an individual. Best wishes I hope this helped. I have been married for 18 years and this has worked in our marriage we love doing things together but let eachother have our own individuality as well. It makes us apprecitate eachother all that much more.