who were you closer to growing up?

@winterose (39917)
Canada
April 29, 2007 4:00pm CST
Were you closer to your mother or father? If you had siblings were you closer to one of them? Were you closer to an older brother or sister, or a younger brother or sister? I grew up with my grandmother and so I was closest to her. But in terms of my parents I was very close to my father until he walked out of my life when I was 5 years old. I hardly knew my mother back then she was almost a stranger to me. I had two sisters and I didn't know them, they lived else where. Who were you closer to and why?
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@Serina (70)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Hey, I was closet to my mom and still am.
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@winterose (39917)
• Canada
1 May 07
Serina, glad to see you here!
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@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
1 May 07
Hi Winterose, you must have loved your grandmother dearly. I gather, girls in their young age are quite attached to their father; I guess this must have been the case for you. I cannot really remember with whom I am attached to more, was it my mother or my father. Looking back when my children were young, my daughter was very much attached to me and my son was to his mother. Now they are in their late twenty and early thirty. My daughter has grown closer to her mother and they spend a lot of time together. Initially, I had a problem with this shift. Now I have grown to understand this. As for my son, he is still close to his mother but he has come nearer to me. My son nowadays, always discuss with me when he needs to make some important decision and he values my opinion. I still love both my children equally.
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• United States
30 Apr 07
For the mother and fater, I was closer to my mother when I was young. Now, I am more closer to my father. For my brother and sister, I was the youngest. I don't think it really went either way. Depending on the period, I had times I was closer to both. Now days, I am closer to my sister. I love them all though :)
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• United States
30 Apr 07
When I was growing up, my sister was away at college, and my brother was just leaving for the army when I was born, so when I was young I was not really close to them. My mom and I are so different that we still have trouble today communicating and getting along. My grandparents were much older, my mom was almost 40 when I was born, so I wasn't really close to them. Later in my teen years, I became very close to my dad's mom, she was the last grandparent I had left alive. My closest relationship growing up was with my father. We had the same birthdays-I was born on his 40th, and we always had our birthday party together. When he retired, I was only 8 years old, and he took me everywhere that he could. I would go have coffee with the guys, we would go visit friends when I wasn't in school, or just stay home together. We had such a strong bond, that when he passed away, 12 days before our 21st birthday Ha!Ha! (his was really 61st}, I was devastated! I had just lost my best friend and my buddy. I am glad that I was that close with my dad, he enjoyed everyday we had together, no matter how much pain he was in, and so did I.
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• Philippines
30 Apr 07
I am closer to my father since childhood. my brother's and sisters used to call me the falviano the second, coz aside from being the father's girl, were look a like, from the eyes to my rounder face.. i'll share our pic jaust wait when I upload it. Since I was a kid, my sister before me, was my enemy, we always fight, and some are violent that to the extend I throw to her any objects I can see, but then, despite that history of ours, while experiencing adolescence our treatement to each other was getting closer.
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• Pakistan
30 Apr 07
well till my father was alive i was close to him, after him i am close to my mother as i dont let her stay alone for a single minute. As being mature person in my family i am close to my brother as well. He takes guidelines from me and suggestions as well
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• United States
30 Apr 07
I was probably closer to my mom. I dont know how though. Both of them mood swings, punishments for wrongs not that bad, grudges and all that junk. But if I were to say I would say mom. I wasnt close to my one sister, handicappted so its kinda hard. She doesnt talk still or eat normal food really still wears diapers. Turns 21 in Sept. But me and my sister, 3 yrs younger fought sometimes but not super much. Closer now than back then. And not close to parents either at all.
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
Hi mom winterose! sorry for not being around lately and missing some of your discussions. I am closer to my mom because I am the only child but after 10 years my younger sister was born and I was so happy to have a additional member in the family. My mom and I are like best of friends she knew everything I felt and do and major decisions that I do but I am close to my dad to because I am a daddy's girl lol!!!
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@zjenikka (292)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
I am more closer to my mother than my father. My mother is always with us comparing to my father. It is not they are separated because they are not, my father has a job that takes him to be in the place where he is often. He only visits us once or twice a month. So I am more closer to my mother.
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• Philippines
30 Apr 07
ever since i was a child, i grew up being very fond of my mum is she whom i spend most of my time and she is the one who saw me grew up each day. my father is also there but he's more of the work stuff so I can't remember such a significant moment with him before. i also grew up in the guidance of my grandma everytime i am in school. she is the one who brings me to school and fetches me back. how i miss those times.
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@massageeh (966)
• Taiwan
30 Apr 07
I was closer to my mom. She was more of the take control of a person. My dad worked. My mom was the one that disciplined, lectured, cared for us. So most of our concerns we have, we would talk to mom.
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• United States
30 Apr 07
Growing up, I was much closer to my father than my mother. My parents had all daughters, and he picked me to be the "surrogate son." I would be the one he would take to Home Depot every Sunday because he thought I would like it. I didn't really like going tool shopping, but I was thankful that I was able to spend time with my dad. I didn't want to hurt his feelings. As I got older, I became closer with my mother. I have four sisters, and I'm not close with any of them. We are all so different, and we don't have much in common.
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@BigO32 (47)
• United States
30 Apr 07
You do have something in common, your family bond. I understand, life makes siblings grow apart. And the differences cause them to feel like there is nothing in common. Some of my friends have this sort of relationship with their siblings so it is not unusual. By the way, Home Depot is having some great sales. Take Care!!
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
30 Apr 07
My Da was the one I was closest to..He liked or disliked people because of what they did instead of how they dressed,talked,color of their skin,disabilities,religions,the language they spoke.I loved to listen to him talk about how we should treat each other. I loved to go into the woods with him.He would tell me the habits of the animals and their tracks. He always made me feel like I could do anything I made my mind up to do. He always treated everyone with respect and wasn't judgemental. I loved my mother but I was closer to Da.
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• Canada
30 Apr 07
I am always amazed when I hear people say they are closer to their fathers. I was afraid of my Dad growing up! Now it is different he is probably more afraid of me. Meaning he watches his tongue around me in fears I might correct him and say that is not exceptable. We have a really sad family I would say. Does anyone else reading this discussion feel that way towards their family?
@villageanne (8554)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I was the oldest of six children. As a result, I had to grow up rapidly. I had to help mom wiht the kids, cooking, cleaning and taking care of the farm animals. I am not closer to any one of my brothers or sister than I am the other ones. I love them all and am very close to all of them even today. I have been married for nearly 29 years and still feel as close to them as I ever have.
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• Canada
30 Apr 07
I loved reading your post! It is has it should be! Do you have children? Are they close to each other? Also is your whole family close to all the kids born to each other? By close to the kids I mostly mean like when you all get together does everyone love each others kids and show respect for them? Just curious? If so you have the perfect family! Not saying without trials and tribulation, such is life. Having a loving family is everything! Don't you think?
@cyrile07 (236)
• Philippines
5 May 07
im closer to both my parents :) and closer to my younger siblings.. were closer to each other and always talk with each other and im so happy and blessed that i have a great family :)
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• Philippines
1 May 07
as to my parents, i really cannot determine if i was much closer to any of them.... i think my parents have been fair with the attentions they have given me that is why i am close to both of them. even upto these days i see to it that if i cannot go out with them together i'll have individual bonding with them. In terms of shopping i go with my mom, in terms of technology, i go out with my dad.. as to siblings...i only have one elder brother and no sisters at all...he is six years older than i do..when we were still young we always had that little childish quarells but now that we are both grown up and have a work of our own, we have become closer to each other and we share a lot of things... i love my brother and im so proud of my brother.
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@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
30 Apr 07
I was closer to my mom, because my dad passed away when I was five. She became ill with cancer when I was sixteen, and I ended up taking care of her a lot, over the next three years. She passed away when I was nineteen, and we'd grown very close (even more due to her illness), and the fact that we spent so much time together. I was very close to my older brother when we were all still at home, and my younger sister too. Today, my brother and I have drifted apart, due to family circumstances, but we still keep in touch, and I'd like us to be closer. I need him to take steps toward this. My sister (who's five years younger than me) and I, are 'like' best friends. We've been there for each other through too many hard times to mention here, and continue to be there, to this day. She's the greatest sister that I could ever ask for, and I'm very thankful for her.
@maucute (980)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
I'm much closer to my mom when I grew up because she's the one who's always home with us.. In order to give us a good living my dad who until now keep on working and going in and out of town just to earn.. When it comes to siblings, I lived with my younger brother so we're much more closer but I love my older brother as much as I love my younger brother..
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@jason_co (408)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
i will say that it will be my mom. she quit her job just to take care and spend more time with us. my mom was always there for me. she quit her job when i was 5 years old. before that i have a nany.
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@cutiedhes (508)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
I was much close to my father rather than my mom. I can tell to him anything under the sun. When it comes to my siblings I was close to the both of them.
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