How Long Does It Take To Get Over Someone Close To You Dying??

United States
April 30, 2007 12:14am CST
Its been almost a year since my grandma died (May 10th). I lived with her and my family my whole life. She was like a second parent to us. I miss her still horribly! I am wondering how long I will keep missing her. I know it will be a few years at least. But wondering if someone close to you dies, how long it takes to not be so sad anymore. Any thoughts are welcome. thanx!
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@jerryn (818)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Everyone is different and grieves in their own way. It's just best to remember the good times you had with her. Time heals all wounds.
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@cutebaby4 (196)
• India
30 Apr 07
It takes a lot of time to forget someone who is dying, and especially if the person who is close to you. Even being away from a person close to you, hurts you a lot. I have been through some of these situations and i cry a lot in these situations.
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• Indonesia
12 Jul 07
I lost lots of people close to me. My dad, 2 of my grandmas, my uncle. Losing them were the sadness things especially my dad although I was only 7 but it made me sad enough. But as time went by I can heal from this feeling and I don't remember anymore how long it took. But until now I still miss him sometimes.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
5 May 07
my father at 73 years of age just passed away last december of 2006 and it has been5 months since then.i miss him very much and i love him very much. he is my mentor , everything that i know came from him but i have realized that he has to go now his own way and mine ,too.there are reasons for that just like old friends parting but the memory of having a friend remains. we all have to let go sometime or else we won't move on with our life and it is not productive and in the same way your grandma is asking you to let go og her, she is already tired and needs to go where she should be going, she would be beter off in that place. be strong for her and that is what she wants you to do.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
1 May 07
I lost my great grandmother in 1999 and my grandmother last year. I still am sad about both of them. I miss them so much and wish they could be here to share my life with them. I do believe they are watching over us and they are in a wonderful place.
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
1 May 07
I think it all depends on the person as some people are able to recover quickly and others take a long time to get over their loss. My friend lost her husband almost a year ago and she is still hurting terribly and missing him a lot. Some people are able to let go after a while and some are not. Your grandmother would want you to continue living your life and having fun and do all the things you want to do. She would not want you to be sad forever. She is always looking down on you. I am not sure how long it will take when my parents are not around anymore but it probably will take a while.
@sunniek (286)
• China
1 May 07
it takes a long time to get over the pain of someone close dying.i think maybe two years could be the recovery time.
1 May 07
My husband lost his father nearly 2 years ago, the pain is still there and he worries about his mother all the time as she is now on her own, when my husband needs to talk about his father I am always there for him, if he needs to cry I cuddle him, what I'm trying to say is that your family understand your grief as they feel your pain, I wish you and your family all the best!
@AmbiePam (48172)
• United States
30 Apr 07
That is a universal question, isn't it? No matter the color of our skin, or the origin of our family's roots, we all grieve. It varies with the type of person each of us is, but the most important thing to remember is that there is no set time. Of course, anyone still experiencing the same grief they felt when they got the news of their loved one's passing might want to consider counseling. For a couple years to pass with no let up on the grief, outside help is needed. As for you MokeyWriter, I hope with time the pain fades but the good memories continue to be fresh.