Would you consider sending your parents to a home when they're old?

Philippines
April 30, 2007 3:12am CST
When your parents are old and grey, would you consider sending them to an old age home? Or would you rather take care of them? For me, I'd rather take care of them. They've done so much for me and the least I could do is to take care of them.
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10 responses
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
2 May 07
I feel that it is my duty and also my privilege to be able to assist my parents should their health or abilities require they needed live in care. It would also be a bonus for my children. I've worked at nursing homes, and I do not want my loved ones living in one.
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@charms88 (7541)
• Philippines
1 May 07
Oh my friend, I do not know what to say here. I don't have grandparents nor my parents with me for a long time already. They all passed away years ago. If given the chance, I would prefer to have them with me. No matter how cranky they can be, they are still my flesh and blood. There's no sense in wrapping them up and hike them off somewhere.
@psyche49f (2511)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
Same with me. When my parents were alive, my husband took them from their shanty, and brought them to our house, providing them shelter, food, and love. We Filipinos are not comfortable of sending our old folks to institutions, but instead, we take the responsibility of taking care of them. My parents then did not have anymore a source of income, so we had to take them in and provide them a comfortable place to stay. I am grateful to my husband because he was the one who initiated the gesture of bringing them in to our house. Now that both have passed away, I can say that we could have done more, but at least having them with us for years was the best thing that happened to us because my children saw how much we love my parents.
@mads_004 (26)
• India
30 Apr 07
No,never.Just consider this.when u grow old your children also do the same thing!!! And why people do this to their parents i don't understand.I mean can't they take their parent's responsibility in their old age when they have done so much for you? It is very inhuman.At least i can never do this to them.I would rather make them feel very special to give them that joy and happiness which they had given to me when i was small.At least i can return some of the love and care which they had given.After all it is they who gave birth to me.They have given me life.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
30 Apr 07
nope.. never. as they hacve done so much for me, i also want to take care of them during their old age. no question of sending them to any homes.
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@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
30 Apr 07
Hi there, No definetly not in my life time, I couldnt even think of sending my parents or grandparents to an old folks home. Thats definetly not an option in my family, our grandparents and parents raised us, so who are we to pawn them off to homes, because we may be a little busy with our own lives, anyway old folk homes are not like home, I think grandparents and parents deserve to have family around them and lots of love before they pass over.
• China
30 Apr 07
I think what is the most important is how they think about it. For me, I really want to take care of them, for they have spent so much on me. But I think I'll respect their opinion.
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@cutebaby4 (196)
• India
30 Apr 07
I can never think of sending my parents to an old age home. Parents are like God to us. They never sent us to any home, then why should we. Also after all our parents had done for us, do you think it is nice to repay them in such a manner.
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@dex1486 (272)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
i'd be bothered my whole life if i'd be sending them to a nursing home. i'd rather take care of them and have somebody to look after them when i'm at work. i owe my life to them, and sending them away would mean taking for grated the hard work and patience that they've shown to raise me...
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• United States
14 May 07
No way. That will not happen. Especially if Jesus comes to take us home before that even has to be thought about. I have a pretty big family and anyone of us would take in my parents if need be. In our nuclear family, it is just my sister and me. I would assume my Mom or Dad would want to stay in SoCal, so my sister would take my either my Mom or Dad in her home. They are not big fans or NorCal.