Her kid was playing with the traffic!

@muscare (3069)
Australia
April 30, 2007 5:50am CST
While walking down the street with my wife and son, we saw a woman who my wife had loosely associated with because of a mutual friend. We stopped to talk in front of her house, and while doing so her son, who is 7, was crossing over the road, then waiting for cars to come before dancing back and forth in front of them. His mother obviously knew what he was doing and said nothing to him. When I brought this up later with my wife, she said he does it all the time, and his mother doesn't care. He also watches M rated DVD's, he was very excited about the new spiderman movie coming out! I'm afraid I won't let my son watch M rated movies at the age of 7 (or play in the traffic,at any age!). To me, this is almost like child neglect. What are your thoughts on the matter?
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• United States
30 Apr 07
Yes this is sad. Some parents just do not care what their kids do as long as they are not getting bothered but beings I have had my three year old accedently ran over while her dad was backing out of the drive way and she was to short to see. I would of had to tell her about how bad of a parent she was for letting her kid do that. My daughter lived and just got a broken collar bone and scrapes and brusies from it think god but I would not wish that on my worst person I hated.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
1 May 07
I'm sorry to hear that story about your daughter, I'm very glad she is ok. How about Dad? It must've been very traumatic, and for you,too. I do believe that is her attitude, as long as he is not bothering her...
• United States
1 May 07
Dad is doing lots better but she still reminds about once a week about it but she tells him she knows it was an Accendent and its ok now.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
2 May 07
I'm pleased to hear it. Good luck to you all.
• United States
1 May 07
I hadn't heard about the new spiderman being rated M, I'll have to watch that before I let my son watch it. He is also 7, and has been looking forward to getting to see it. I think my little one would be over my knee or in his room grounded if I caught him dancing in front of traffic. The kids on our street play basketball and pass the football on the road, but when a car turns down our street, they all move to the side and let them through. But there is only maybe 14-15 houses on our street, and 80% of them have kids and know to go slow and watch.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
1 May 07
I think that is the best idea, preview the movie first. That way you know whether it is suitable for your son. I don'tthink this boy gets too much disciple, if any, at all. At least it's not a busy city street.
@wachit14 (3601)
• United States
30 Apr 07
There's a fine line between what could be considered neglect and what is just poor judgment on her part. Watching mature movies is just a matter of opinion as to what's appropriate for your own child. As for the game with the cars, this is again poor judgment on her part and hopefully she never has to find out the negative outcome of such a game.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
1 May 07
Yeah, poor judgement, as you say, it is a fine line. I just wonder how her judgement is for a lot of things regading her son.
• United States
30 Apr 07
That's pretty bad, but there are alot worse cases, unfortunately. Maybe you could try talking to her....
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
1 May 07
Yes, there are worse cases. As to talking to her, she hears only what she wants to.
• China
30 Apr 07
It's very dangerous for the little boy to do so.But his mother seems to pay no attention to his lovely son.If unfortunately thing happened,then...
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
1 May 07
I think she has the attitude that she is the important one, he just seems to be an inconvenience to her.Sad.
@KissThis (3008)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Personally if the child was doing this in front of me I would have said something to his mother. If she didn't stop what he was doing then I would have said something to the child. I couldn't have just stood by and watch. I would have felt guilty if something did happen. While I know it is not my place to tell someone how to raise their child I won't stand by and just watch a child be put into danger either. Now about movies. I don't allowa go by a movies rating to decide if I will allow my children to watch it. My partner and I view the movie first to see if it is a movie that we would allow the children to watch. There are some g rated movies that we didn't approve of.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
1 May 07
When it was pointed out to the mother, she responded with 'he's alright'. Now, because it wasn't a busy street, there were only a couple of cars go by the time we were there. Had it been a really busy street, I wouldn't have been able to just let it go. Yes, I also agree with you on the movie front too, about certain G rated movies. There seem to be quite a few where the mother has been killed, and that's just an example. That raises so many questions and fears for a young child. Thanks for your opinion.
@Gemmygirl1 (2871)
• Australia
30 Apr 07
I do think it's neglect but i think some people go too far with movies - don't get me wrong, every parent has the right to decide what their children watch but i don't think i'd be too concerned with a Spiderman movie myself. I don't think a comic book character is likely to cause too much damage but my daughter is only 10 months & isn't really interested in things like that, thankfully, her favourite movie (the only 1 she'll sit & watch properly) is The Adventures of Elmo in Grouchland! Cant go wrong there :) They teach her all sorts of things from the alphabet to counting! I definitely DO NOT approve of allowing your child to play chicken with cars & be dancing out on the road - the parent should stop it from happening & at 7 years old, they should have already been taught the dangers of the roads & cars, then know better than to play out there.
@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
Good for you, you're a really good father. Your son is so lucky. . That is some mother, who does not care about her son playing with traffic.. . that's right, that's equivalent to child neglect, and somebody, the husband or family members should call her attention. One, to allow her son thrill play with traffic is unthinkable. . then allow her son, a 7 year old to watch rated films. But since you're not that close, and I'm sure you'll be misunderstood, it would be best that somebody close to her should warn her about these two things so that next time around, she would be aware that people are concerned about her son's safety and welfare.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
1 May 07
Yes, and I think that is a lot of the problem. The father split with the mother years ago, so the kid doesn't really have a male role model, or someone for extra discipline. Good luck to anyone trying to tell the mother anything, she seems to know best. In her opinion, anyway!
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
30 Apr 07
I go mad seing this type of kids besides road sometimes and i ask them not do like this and i will scold sometime if does not listen to my words and even some times i inform their parents about this but they never feel dangerous and just neglects,it was my 1st expereince to see such inactive and neglegible parents. Even i go with your idea in making kids not show them M rated movies in the very early stages and if at all they watch i would tell them that it is all fake and is just the imagination that was created for the entertainment of kids should be never kept in practice as it is dangerous becoz it may lead to cause accidents.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
30 Apr 07
Yes, this mother saw him doing it, then went right on talking to us. And as you say about the movies, kids minds just aren't ready to be watching movies meant for mature people, especially those who don't know playing on the road is wrong!
• United States
30 Apr 07
i agree, this is child neglect. I'm sure that if something happens to him they would probably charge her with it. I don't understand some parents, I would have been hysterical. If my daughter is walking on the sidewalk and gets too close to the road, I panic.. I see children in my neighborhood that must be like 5 or 6 just roaming the streets like nothing with no adult in sight. I almost wonder if these people really consider other dangers as well, like them being abducted. I would have walked right over and grabbed that child by the hand and put the fear of God in him since his mother was failing to attempt to do so. Wether she got mad or not someone has to look out for this child, maybe one day the next approaching car that he dances back in forth of will be a police car.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
30 Apr 07
Yes, that would be good for all, were a police car to come along. My son walks in middle of my wife and I whenever we go anywhere, and is not allowed to walk along the road edge. Now, if you really want the icing on the cake for this story, the mother works in childcare!!! She even said to us, while her son was dancing on the road, that we could leave our son with her if we ever needed a break! I'm sure I don't need to tell you what our answer was.