Victims

@magica (3710)
Bulgaria
April 30, 2007 10:57am CST
Do you choose a behaivior of victim sometimes -conciously or not -just to manipulate others? And if yo u confront with this kind of behavior from your closed people -parents, spouse or children- what are the usual reactions to it? Do you still continue to encourage this just because you love them?
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• United States
30 Apr 07
No, I don't know how to play the victim, but I do have some family members who love to play this role to gain sympathy and manipulate or guilting others into helping them. Me myself I give them suggestion on how to do it themselves and that I will not be helping them in no other, if they don't take the suggestion I don't care. Because I love them is why I don't encourage it.
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 07
My mother is from this kind of people. Most of the problems we have here are real, so she has some reasons. But she often reacts more dramatically just because she needs more attention. She is the hero and the destiny is so brutal... Well, i cant give so much attention as emotion.If i can-i will help.If i cant-i will try to give courage.But if this behaviour is constant- at last i will stay indifferent.
@Impervious (1154)
• United States
30 Apr 07
There are way too many people in this world that do just that assume the role of a victum either to justify feeling sorry for themselves and to elicit that response from other people. I have a saying on my desktop from George Bernard Shaw that reads: People are always balming circumstances for what they are. I do not believe in circumstances. The people that get on in this world are the people that get up and look for the circumstances that they want, and if they cant find them, They make them.
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 07
This is also a favourite method what passive biovampires use: they allways want our attention, our cares, our emotions...and if we refuse it- they blame us for doing so. Can you clearly recognize when somebody is a real and when -imaginary victim?
@draukeem (12)
• United States
7 May 07
I think that most people that play victim are just stuck in that mind set because it is all they know. Most people naturally fear change, and to change from being a victim to something else can be quite terrifying if that is all you know. They become comfortable with the idea that they are always the victim. So comfortable in fact, that the idea of taking charge of their lives and becoming a happier person actually scares them. Since we're doing quotes, here's one of my favorites from Nelson Mandela: "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us."