monogamy: is it REALLY natural?
April 30, 2007 8:03pm CST
This topic has been debated b-4, and it's always gotten me 2 thinking: IS monogamy in our nature, or are we just FORCING ourselves into an UNNATURAL way of being? 4 some, the easy answer is YES, especially if u're the type of person who wholeheartedly subscribes 2 a traditional, conventional lifestyle. But, I've always pondered this question. As I observe the other species in nature, most of them are NOT monogamous! In fact, not only are they NOT monogamous, but quite often, the male of the species will literally RAPE the female (at least, that's how it appears 2 me)! Of course, there are those who will say that we aren't like other animals, and that they live on instinct alone, while we have the capacity 2 THINK and discern. Well, I wouldn't argue with THAT, but I still wonder how "natural" it really is! And with the abundance of CHEATING going on, obviously, there's a whole lot of people who want something, or SOMEONE, OTHER than their primary mate! And, the reasons vary, of course, but the fact remains that cheating is at an all time HIGH, and it's reflected in all of pop culture, from movies 2 TV 2 music. I can think of SEVERAL songs that address the cheating topic. But, are people who cheat really unscrupulous, or are they simply rebelling against something that is unnatural? So, the question is, are we naturally monogamous, and many of us simply DON'T have the integrity 2 live up 2 our committments, or are we going AGAINST nature, in trying 2 FORCE ourselves into being monogamous, in the 1st place? What do u think?
• United States
15 May 07
In my opinion we are forcing ourselves into an unnatural way of being only because there are so many people in this world..we are human and were going to be attracted to alot of them..even while were in a realtionship. In reality we are all on the hunt (yes like animals) whether we admit it or not. I just think that before we get into a "committed" relationship we have to have that really deep intense coversation with our partner to see how they feel about "cheating" most dont agree with it because in soceity we label "cheating" as it being wrong. I guess it really just depends on the people. Creativemind you come up with such interesting topics that keep me thinking.
• United States
15 May 07
Thank u 4 the compliment, Gorgeous! Even though I still ponder this topic ALOT, I'm leaning in YOUR direction, in that we ARE forcing ourselves into an UNNATURAL way of being! Like I said, if u observe other "animals" ('cuz we're still "animals" 2, like u pointed out, even though we THINK we're so much more evolved than other species), there really is NO monogamy present! I agree with u, also, in that our attraction 4 others DOESN'T stop, even when we're IN a relationship, and even if it is a GREAT relationship! That's just how we're "wired", I feel. I don't view cheating as "wrong". I just look at things like "what GOES around, COMES around". So, if u cheat, u'll eventually be cheated ON! It's only a matter of time. Karma is a mutha! But, like u said, if u have that really DEEP, INTENSE conversation with your partner, and u're HONEST about still being attracted 2 others, I don't think u'll HAVE 2 cheat! U can just be out in the open about your feelings, and u can either decide 2 still restrain yourself, OR, if u and your partner are the "freaky" types, u could possibly "swing"! I think HONESTY is the key! Everything ELSE can flow from there! Another great post, Gorgeous!