getting married at the age of 21.. pwede ba?

me and perry - love it?
Philippines
May 1, 2007 11:44am CST
were planning to get married, im just 21 and he's 23 yrs old.. we both have our stable jobs.. do u think its a good idea?
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17 responses
@nurhoney (1123)
• Philippines
1 May 07
The decision is up to you both...if you both feel that you are ready for serious commitment and being stuck with each other for life, then you know the answer to that. I was 22 and my hubby was 20 when we got married, we thought that it was the right time...it just didnt work out the way we wanted it to be though.
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• Philippines
1 May 07
but are u stil together??
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@nurhoney (1123)
• Philippines
1 May 07
sad to say...we are not anymore...i fall out of love for him...maybe that wasnt love i felt for him or maybe i didnt love him that much to stick with him forever...i never regret for the times we were together but it would have been nice to not get married so fast.
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• Philippines
1 May 07
sorry to hear that,, but i think its case-to-case basis,, ive known him eversince... weve been friends for more than 10 yrs, and his my boyfriend for almost 5 yrs now.. i thinks thats a good foundation,,, isn't it?
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@mystery5 (351)
• India
2 May 07
If you are sure that he's your soulmate, then just go ahead. There are a million advantages of marrying early, and the only risk is that if you are infatuated with that person instead of truly in love with him, then you risk marrying the wrong guy. When you marry early, you learn to adjust to each other much faster, and also grow together, which increases the bonding between the two of you, and increases love as well. I think it is a good idea, I've seen several marriages where people married at your age, and they're much happier than others who married later. All the best to you :)
• Philippines
3 May 07
i hope that we too, will live happily ever after, just like in the old fairy tales..
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@mystery5 (351)
• India
5 May 07
Well that is what I wish for you too! If you ever fight, at the end of it all, remember that your love for each other is more important than any other things, even ego. Just kiss and make up, and forget it!
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@toonatoons (3740)
• Philippines
4 May 07
getting married is a huge decision, reese. and it's definitely something that isn't for us to decide. i don't think age should be considered a factor here. but you need to ask yourself if you're both emotionally mature to face the responsibilities of being married.
• Philippines
4 May 07
i agree with you, toonatoons, that marriage is not an easy thing to go ahead with. it is one relationship which calls for a lifetime commitment. the maturity and readiness of the couples to go for it counts most.
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@ryanphil01 (4187)
• Philippines
2 May 07
the decision is up to both of you. our laws in marriage says that at your age of 21 you still need your parents consent. since your husband-to-be is still 23 he needs to present a written parental advice, i.e., a written indication that his parents are aware of their son's intent to marry you. advance congratulations and best wishes to both of you.
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• Philippines
3 May 07
really??? i didnt know about that... (im referring to the parent's consent thing) =)
@kcrysea (196)
• Philippines
2 May 07
well for me No muna... My cousin got married at very young age, then they got childrens. After 3 years they just got separated. Well in that case ang magssuffer is yung mga bata. I have a stable job as well, but i was thinking to get married by the age of 27. I just wanted to earn more and help my parents first before i have my own. It still depends on you... but you just have to think a million times about it.
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• Philippines
3 May 07
after all may kokontra pa rin pla... hehhehe... most of them kasi said "sure, y not?, if ur stable.. etc.. buti nmn meron akong nbasa that opposes them... i cant make my decision without reading such thing, because its not yet balance... thnks u so much
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• Philippines
2 May 07
I think if you truly love each other and the two of you are ready to face such consequences that come to you, then its time for the two of you to get married. Im only 20 years old now and i got married at the age of 19 and my he's only 19 too. Were happy but still regeret that we dont enjoy first our teenager life bwfore we get married. now we have a daughter and our own computer shop that we manage, we regret somethings but still we are happy that we are living together.
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• Philippines
3 May 07
im happy for you.. i think you've made the right decision.. hope ganun din kmi..
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
1 May 07
Why not? If your both matured to enter in that new stage of your lifes go on. As long as your young go enjoy your lives. But be sure you can handle it there is a saying marriage is not a hot rice that you can vomit if you feel it's hot.
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• Philippines
1 May 07
nice to hear one from u lyn.. thats y im askin it here to, for me to have different ideas.. and thnk u for contributing some..
• Philippines
3 May 07
awww. the picture looks so sweet. well for me, seems like that there is no question about the feelings toward each other. if you think you are ready for the responsibility of having a family, then go for it. if you think you can handle the pressures emotionally, psychologically and physically then its another thing for you to say that you are more than ready for marriage. also try to check if you are financially stable since money is really a big issue when it comes to settling down. you'll never know the sudden crisis when it hits marriages.
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@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
2 May 07
marriage is more than just a good idea girl, it is not like a business or a project that you can always start new when you seems don't like it anymore.It is a lifetime commitment so better be prepared althogh I don't think no one will ever be prepared and ready for this because along the way you'll find and discover new things from both of you..few things that muiht caught you unprepared..i hope you know what i mean.. having long years of knowing each other is not an assurance too althoguh it can be a good start.. you can get married now but you have to ask for your parents consent yet..because you cannot secure marriage license on your own untill you're both 25. think and pray about it..you don't wanna regret about it after all ayt?
@Chadanne (253)
• Philippines
2 May 07
I guess it depends on you. You could marry right now and start a family. But in my opinion marriage is only done when you already experienced the benefits that life can give when you are still single. When you marry, you surrender your life to your family so you may not be able to do those things you usually do before.
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• Philippines
2 May 07
You are 21 and hes 23 with both stable jobs, well i think you can get married. But its not only the financial aspect that you need to be concerned about. Are you both emotionally, psychologocally ready to handle the responsibilities of being a married couple? if you both are, then go for it.
• Philippines
2 May 07
we now that were both ready, in almost all aspects( i think.. hahah) the only problem that we had now is that my relatives are against with him, according to them were too young for it...
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• Philippines
4 May 07
Like what my mother always say, you cannot please everybody. I can relate to you because before one of my aunt do not like my boyfriend but my mom told me, dont bother. in the first place, you will be the one getting married not them. Though they maybe concerned because you're both too young but still its your decision.
@gabb88 (29)
• Philippines
2 May 07
pwede basta stable ka na sa pamumuhay at handa ka na para sa knya habang buhay
• Philippines
2 May 07
hahaha..nice one... r u married?
@jep2874 (26)
• Philippines
2 May 07
well if you are ready to take care of the baby, paying electric bills, water bills, rental fees, food for the babys go on hehehe
• Philippines
2 May 07
whoooahh... BILLS, BILLS, BILLS, hehehe,, good thing that were financially stable.. =)
• Philippines
1 May 07
It depends on you. If you think you have found the right one, go for it. Marriage is hard but I think you can handle it.
• Philippines
1 May 07
i know that committing urself to someone is not that easy, well, thanks for the advice.. now i have to think about it a lot of times,, again,,,
• United States
16 Sep 07
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@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
4 May 07
well it depends upon you, as long as you're ready to face the commitment and ready to have your own family..i got married when i was 22, and on dec we're on our 7th years.. i am very much happy and felt no regret in getting into this situation..God bless you and may the LORD guide you in all your decisions..Good luck
• Philippines
4 May 07
it seems to be a pretty good idea. i suggest though that you give yourselves a year more to finally decide on it. that will also be enough time to prepare for everything. make sure to consult a doctor so you will not have children immeidately. this is one of the errors of marrying couples. having a child immediately soon after marriage makes it difficult because the couple is still adjusting to married life yet. wait for at least 2 years or as much as five. then you will find that it will all be for the best.