Once a cheater, always a cheater

cheater - cHeAtEr
Philippines
May 1, 2007 1:25pm CST
Do you believe in this? Do they change? I wonder why they do it? =)
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7 responses
@reese27 (57)
• Philippines
2 May 07
hmmm.. not really... i believe that there always room for changes... even a cheater could change..there's no such thing as having a cheating nature..it's only a mistake caused by temptations that if presented, we ourselves couldn't control..so for me 2nd chance is very essential..give that person the benefit of the doubt..if he had been faithful by that time, then you have proven this topic wrong but if he did it again...it would be a pleasure for me to burn down his house hehe..just kiddin..
• United States
2 May 07
I believe this so much. When my last husband cheated on me after only one year of marriage I went and sought therapy to better understand what was going on. The therapist told me that it was not my fault that he cheated that cheater cheat for the pure reason that they love the thrill of keeping it from their mate and the thrill of first love, and once they cheat, they will always seek this thrill, no matter what they do in life. So YES, I believe a cheater will always cheat.
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@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
2 May 07
Unless they are very young and not set in their ways yet, no. I don't believe that cheaters change.
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
1 May 07
I think that you need to give people the benefit of the doube. People change. You never know why someone cheats. I cheated once and will never ever do it again! It was a very bad time in my life. I had very little self esteem and wasn't happy with anything. I may have been a bit depressed. I got help, confessed to my husband and realized what I would loose if I were to do it again. I now am very happy and have my priorities in life set straight. I have learned and matured threw this experience.
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@calvin222 (1607)
• India
1 May 07
Once a cheater, always a cheater is very true. i cheated once and now i am a pathological cheater. once a person has tasted the easy blood of cheating nothing will keep him away.
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@ravinskye (8243)
• United States
1 May 07
I think that in some cases, if a person cheats it doesn't always mean they will do it again. For a lot of people it is a self esteem boost. I was in a bad relationship(and only 16 mind you) and I ended up cheating on my boyfriend 3 times. I tried to leave him but every time I did he talked about killing himself. And he even cheated on my. The 3rd time I cheated it turned out I met my future husband. He was exactly what I needed in a guy. I broke it off with my boyfriend and we've been together ever since. I have never cheated on him and I never will. But sometimes, when things were rough between us and I didn't feel like he was attracted to me, I felt myself looking for it else where. I stress again, I would never cheat...but the feeling that you are desired can be quite addictive. So I'd like to think that I changed and I'm not "always a cheater" I made a promise to him and myself that if things got that bad I would leave him instead of cheating on him.
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
1 May 07
Haha, rated:-))) LOL! Well...i think that they change themselves...they change their nicknames:-P
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