A lonely week

@kayrod2 (1304)
Australia
May 2, 2007 12:58am CST
I am having a hard week. My husband started a new job last week, which is great. But he is away from home all week and comes home on weekends. Last week was fine, but this week i feel lousy and lost. I know that i am lucky that i still see him each weekend, when some people dont see their spouse's for months, but this is the first time we have been apart like this since we were married and that was quite a few years ago. The kids have been pretty good, and it hasnt really bothered them, and they are helping a bit, but i hope i feel better about things soon. Hoping i get over this feeling soon. How do others cope in this situation
9 responses
@Darkwing (21590)
2 May 07
Awwww, warm, tight hugggggggggs to you Kay. I can imagine how empty the house feels without the man you love so much, even when you have kids there. You'll find that gradually the weeks will get shorter though... don't dwell on it and busy yourself with the kids and he'll soon be back home for the weekends. Also, the job perhaps won't last forever, or he might even be able to get a transfer to a closer location once he settles into the job better. I would say, just appreciate and treasure the time you do get together at the weekends and wrap yourself in the kids during the week. It will get better and at least you have his homecoming to look forward to. All your Mylot friends are here for you, whenever you feel down, so keep your chin up, Kay and Brightest Blessings on you and your family. xx
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
2 May 07
Thank you so much for the hugs, they help. I've had a good talk to myself actually and are going to get myself busy doing some things that need doing. So hopefully this will make the weeks go faster. The kids have sport training this afternoon, so we will be busy with that too. And then tomorrow night he is home. Thank you for being there, it is so good to be able to get on mylot, and know that friends are there. It really helps. Cheers
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@Darkwing (21590)
3 May 07
You're very welcome, Kay. I know you would do the same for me, and I'm glad the hugs helped. There's plenty more where they came from. Well done with getting yourself busied... I know it will help. Take care my friend. Brightest Blessings... see you soon. x
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• Australia
5 May 07
Hello kayrod2 Cheer ups, you must find other way to make you busy so you were not thinking about your husband. I know is hard but believe me keep on busy is really help. I did that at the first time my boyfriend work at other city, and i can make it for 3 years, and we still fine. Good day and God bless you
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
6 May 07
Thanks, angel. I glad to hear your going fine with your other half in another city. I have been keeping myself busy which has really helped. We have just had a great weekend together, but he gone back again to work. I am feeling a lot better than i was last week, and i think i owe a lot of that to friends here on mylot for all their encouragement. It has been so good to hear it all. Best wishes to you, and god bless
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• Kottayam, India
3 May 07
It is always good with your husband, if he got good job, why don't you put up with him at the new place, if his company can afford.
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
3 May 07
He staying with friends, and kids settled in school here, and our house here, so not viable. Thanks for your response.
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• Philippines
3 May 07
Try to find things that will make your time occupied. Be creative, do something in the house, but dont ever try to find friends that would later make your married life broken. Just adjust, i understand your situation.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
3 May 07
Thanks for your response. I am really trying to put a positive aspect on things. Today i started sorting out some stuff that needed doing. You know, those things that never seem to get done. Its been good actually, keeping myself busy. Cheers
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
2 May 07
Give it time hon, it is a new situation for you and your husband and you will both have to settle into the new routine. I know it is hard to be away from him but it is also healthy as well.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
2 May 07
I know, you are right. We will settle into a routine, but will take time.Thanks for your response. Cheers
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@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
2 May 07
Oh, that is really something that is hard in the beginning. It's normal to feel that way but as time passes by, you'll get used to it. Just try to do other things during those weekdays so that you will not feel much about the loneliness youre having right now. For me, i just try to do other things and be with other people so that i will not really miss that someone.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
2 May 07
Thanks. I am hoping it will get better, and i am sure it will. Im trying to do other things to keep busy, but this week is hard. Spending time on mylot been helping,though. God bless
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@biwasaki (1745)
• United States
2 May 07
What a tough situation to be in. Try to keep the lines of communication as open as possible. Send him a text message in the middle of the day, or just call him out of the blue to say "hello". I'm sure he's feeling as lost as you are. I hope you're feeling better soon and good luck with this.
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
2 May 07
Thank you for your response. We try to talk every night, and sometimes i ring him during the day. He is feeling the same i think. Cheers
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@MsTickle (25006)
• Australia
2 May 07
I guess you just keep busy. I know how it feels, you feel lost and empty but unfortunately you'll become accustomed to being on your own. Remember to talk to him and ask him how he feels and how he thinks you can cope. Try to help out so that when he's home you can have quality time together and he doesn't have to do so many catch up chores. Save things for you to do together as a family. These are hard times my friend. The rich are having a lovely time and the rest of us struggle daily.
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
2 May 07
Thanks Tickle. Hope your going okay. We make sure we talk each day. Actually last night i hadnt rung him, so he rang me thinking something was wrong, but i had only just got kids to sleep. It is so true what you say about the rich and then us struggling. I cant see it changing though. Well i have decided, after a long talk to myself, to get myself busy with some things that need doing, so i think this will help. God bless
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@MsTickle (25006)
• Australia
9 May 07
I'm home again after being away six days. Still emotionally empty in some areas. I hope things are better for you now, at least a little. Your man sounds like a good bloke, caring and concerned. I'm glad because you are a lovely lady. Blessed be dear friend.
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
8 May 07
The main thing is to be taken with things. Have a lot to do. But the most importent thing is, not feel so dependet for your partner. I have been married, but I am divorced. My divorce was ok. We are still friends....well we have to be, we have to children to conceder. I have been divorced now for five years. I realy did not have troubel with being on my own. I realy enyoud it, in fact. My suggeston is that yoy find things to do and the days will fly away faster then yoy think.
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
8 May 07
Thanks for your response, anetteh. I have been trying to keep myself busy, and it has really helped. With everyones kind words here has been great too. Best wishes to you
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