That Poor Child

@wolfie34 (26820)
United Kingdom
May 2, 2007 7:23am CST
I was out shopping today and I saw this woman who was quite plump (but wasn't fat) she had this low cut top on showing her midriff and she was with a three or four year old child and at the same time she was on her mobile, swearing every other word it was F this F that and then her child starts to wonder off and she screams blue murder at the child and then grabs him back. It was terrible to see, but this goes on a lot nowadays! It makes me more annoyed that someone as calm, patient and loving like me would love the chance to have a son or work with children and yet here is this for want of a better word fishwife with this lovely child and she is swearing and treating this child worse than a dog. Have you seen these sorts of people out in the town showing this behaviour, especially in front of their children? Is it any wonder that children grow up to be juvenile deliquents?
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• United States
2 May 07
That is sad and I hate to see it, especially with so many people that would give anything to have a child of their own. This reminds me of a story regarding my daughter. Before my daughter became pregnant and when she was carrying my granddaughter and probably the first few months of her life my daughter has such a potty mouth, everything out of her mouth was F this and F that, it was so bad that I thought for sure my grandbaby's first words would be the F word. I kept reminding her that children minick their parents for words, when my granddaughter said her first bad word I laughed, thought it was quite funny, here I had been saying it all along and never even stopping what she was doing. Well that stopped her mouth when she heard her baby start to say it. My granddaughter is almost 3 years old and nowdays you won't hear a curse word out of my daughter's mouth, it is a blessing that she finally realized the harm it would do, I wish others would be as blessed.
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@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
2 May 07
Children pick up on things VERY VERY quickly even at a young age, thank you my friend for your response.
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• United States
2 May 07
Children are a blessing and should be treated as precious cargo, if we all have this philsophy perhaps we would never see women like the one you witnessed today. You are more than welcome my friend, take care and have a wonderful day~!
@shoelover (1573)
• Australia
2 May 07
Yes I certainly have. My mother in law is one of those people and her children all have serious emotional problems. All I can say is some people don't deserve children.
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@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
3 May 07
Amen. I agree with you. Another poster mentioned that there are so many women who want children and the people who don't deserve them seem to be popping them out left and right. And we wonder why this world is so messed up.
@liranlgo (5749)
• Israel
5 May 07
I did see alote of those examples. many adults that do not know how to treat their children, and if to be more accurate, they simply do not care or pay attention to think a minute how their behaviour can and will effect the child in the future. I know that i always think, how can this be, how is it possible that a child was given to those people, it i very clear to me that in the future as an adult the child will act the same as his parents to his own children. It i a pity that there are those things.
• United States
3 May 07
I don't think it's the words. It's the attitude. It's this young woman's hatred, anger and ugliness that will destroy that young life.
• United States
3 May 07
Yes, i have seen stuff like this whil eout with my mother. We hav even said something to the parents a few times. They are always very rude and indignant and don't give a rat's you know what about anythign you have to say to them. Brian, i think you need a child. i think you would be a wonderful father.
@fox123 (285)
• Philippines
3 May 07
i agree with you sometimes it is the parents fault on children that have attitude problem,since from the very beginnings its us who are the role model of the child and immitate to as they grow up.. Yes i ahve seen a few in my country..
@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
3 May 07
I have seen that type behaviour and it is very sad. And I think this is why that some parents have problems out of their children as they get older, they are just copying what they are around
@Calais (10900)
• Australia
3 May 07
I agree with you toally. People dont have the time patience these days and are very selfish. Having a child is a blessing and privelige and most people just simply do not deserve this.
@ellanick (191)
• Philippines
3 May 07
luckily for me as i seldom see this kind of people with child in tow swearing. i am not agree with people showing this kind of behaviour in front of children as we all know children imatate fast what they saw and heard. i am also a parent and i try not to talk those kinds of words in front of my children coz i dont want them to learn to say those kind of words. some children become delinquent coz in their early days as a child they are already exposed to doing bad things and they taugh it is alright.
• United States
3 May 07
yes,i see alot of this behavior being done.I could not even imagine behaving like that in front of my children then treating my child like that cuz i was on the phone.no way.a child does not deserve to be treated like that.this is why kids turn out the way they do because they learn from watching their parents.
@semak76 (187)
• United States
3 May 07
My son has used a few swear words himself, and yes, I was probably at fault for some of it, I guess I never realized how much he was picking up when he was younger. We had a big talk about how that language is innapropriate, and now if I slip up, he screams "Don't use bad words mommy!" It definately keeps me in check...lol
@bad1981 (799)
• United States
3 May 07
Yes, this does annoy me but then again we dont know why she was so annoyed. I dont think this is why they turn into juvenille delinquents...i just think some have more patience then others with their kids.
@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
3 May 07
That is truly sad. It dosent seem fair at all when you arent being given a fair chance to teach . I wish that you could open your own school since you have your credentials. It would be so wonderful because we know you would create a safe learning environment. I wish they would supply funding to people like you so that you could open a better learning establishment for children.
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
3 May 07
yeah... i had seen that kind of incident on the road or in the shopping centre when i am doing my groceries... i am always annoyed and feel irritated whenever i see parents treat their children like that... i am dying to have a baby on my own and still trying until now... i never stop praying that God will give me one at His time... yet, people who are already blessed with children don't treaure them and mistreated them... i hope they will learn someday that it is so wrong to treat their children like that as they will grow up one day to be like them...
• United States
2 May 07
I see it a lot and that might be one of the reasons children grow up to be like some of these bad children are now. Children need role models to follow.
@student7 (1002)
• United States
2 May 07
Ok first of all, I feel sorry for the child who has a mother who dresses like a hoochy mama. I am a bit overweight and I would never dress like that. I would not even get myself so distracted as to not notice my child wander off. I would not say F this and F that in public. I do say it in private with out my children present. I hope that child doesn't end up marrying a woman like her.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
2 May 07
Well now we know where some of the children get their attitudes from. I am always disgusted to see children talked to in that manner. I can't imagine what would happen if some one talked (yelled &swore ) at her in this way. Wolfie you time will come , don't lose spirit. keep in mind that when the pupil is ready the teacher will appear. There is a very special child that is waiting for you, it is just getting you together that seems to be the problem. Keep applying and looking. as well look in places that maybe no one else would think of. I would put a small advert. in a big paper and offer to travel with children and mind them if parents will pay your way.
@gabs8513 (48764)
• United Kingdom
2 May 07
Wolfie I have seen it very often and that is why I have been saying that the reason Kids are the way they are today is the way Parents treat them And believe me it will get worse there is no doubt on that It hurts me every time I see it and all I want to do is cuddle the Child and show it what Love is but of course I can't
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
2 May 07
Oh my that's sad. I have seem some like that and it makes me sick in the stomache and wanted to say something to this person. I would think that's why kids are like that when they get older as they learn from their parents. I would never do that to my daughter.
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
2 May 07
Yes, I see this often in stores. It makes me sad for the child, I wish I could take them all home with me. Poor child. I hope that someone screams at her the way she screams at her child.