Reluctance to add interests

By Leca
@lecanis (16664)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
May 2, 2007 7:34am CST
Right now I'm thinking about adding Wicca to my interests, just because I respond to tons of discussions under that interest. But I hesitate a little, because I'm not Wiccan, and I don't want to misrepresent myself. On the other hand, I have many religious books under "books I have read" and only one of them is really from my own religion. So maybe I should just add it and stop being silly? Do you ever find yourself reluctant to add something to your interests even though you've responded to multiple discussions there? Are you add interests often? Do you even think carefully about which interests you add, or just click "yes" so it'll stop popping up after discussions? What is the longest you have held out on adding an interest before giving in?
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@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
2 May 07
My interest list is probably pretty long, too-- although it has been a long time since I have checked. I tend to "resist the pop-up window" fairly thoroughly-- for example, I seem to read lots of discussions that were posted in "parenting," but I am NOT a parent, so I haven't really felt like adding it. Similarly, I answer lots of discussions about relationships... but I haven't added "marriage" as an interest, because I am really NOT interested in getting married. What you bring up here makes me pause and think about how we USE the "interests" area on myLot. Is it to create a profile about ourselves, or is it to filter the kind of discussions we want to be exposed to? Or that we can post in? Like you, I have typically concerned myself about misrepresentation... but then I wonder how many people ever LOOK at the "interests" area of someone's profile.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
2 May 07
See, when I first joined I did think the point was to create a profile about ourselves. But as time has gone on, it's starting to look less and less like that's how it's used. I know I look at other people's interest sections, but if there are a lot of them, I'm probably not actually going to check them all. I don't resist that pop-up window so well myself, I guess. I've often added things that were really just another way of saying the same thing. However, so far I don't think I've really added things that could misrepresent me. I am really glad to hear that others think about these things too!
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@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
3 May 07
Believe me I understand. I haven't put Wicca or Pagan under my interests either. I'm not quite sure where to put them under. Hobbies I enjoy? Things I have done with my life? That is the problem with a few different things I have thought of adding. Some just don't really fit in the choices we have. I respond to a lot with "People" under hobbies I enjoy or people I admire, "Parenting" or "Parents" under hobbies and also things I've done, and roles I play. I've also responded to "Life", "Society" etc. I don't think any of them really fit under the varied interests I've seen them in. That too is a problem. Where do you place them? I might put Parends under roles but others might put them under hobbies. It would be nice in some cases if they had a basic list for some things and you could pick from them instead of just adding them yourself under anything you wanted.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
3 May 07
That's a really good point. There are so many things that just aren't under an area where I feel comfortable having them. It took me a while to accept "religion" because it's under hobbies, and that's just annoying to me. Same thing with parenting! I think that's an idea, having a basic list, but then I'm sure tons of things would get left out. Hmmm... maybe mylot could take all the interest groups already out there and consolidate the ones that are really the same, like mispellings and rephrasings and the same thing under different categories!
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@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
3 May 07
I think it could help with some instances. For example right now I have two mylot listings, one under hobbies and one under sites I visit, I have two Doctor Who's, one under Doctor Who and one under Dr. Who, and I have two Harry Potters, one under books and one under movies, there are more but you get the idea It can sometimes be hard which one is which that I'm responding to let alone for making a discussions up which one do you put it under?
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@DeaXyza (577)
• United States
2 May 07
Lecanis were you reading minds when you posted this? Well I do hesitate, so I do not add some of the intrests, I often think well how many discussions have I answered in the particular topic, in percentage? If I feel it adds upto atleast 2 questions or more from a certain topic everyday then it makes sense for me to add it to my intrests otherwise I find it not such a great idea to add intrests without the weightage. I answer about an average of 9 questions each day so for me a intrest should be really worth my time to be added. Thanks for asking dear and hope all's well at your end.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
2 May 07
Hehe, I'm a mind-reader all right. =p No, really, I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one who really thinks about this! I try not to add things unless I really am very interested in them, even if I occasionally respond in that category because my friends start discussions there or whatever. I like that measure you use. I'll really have to think on this one. I'm pretty sure on most days I answer several discussions under Wicca, especially since I've added several friends who post there. So maybe I will wind up adding it after there. All's going well here. I'm still waiting to find out exactly what my new treatments are going to be, but the doctor upped the dosage of one of my medicines, and I've been breathing better already. I was sick last Monday, but I made it to work the rest of the week, and I'm off today because it's on the schedule, not because I'm sick. Thanks for your concern! How are you?
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@DeaXyza (577)
• United States
2 May 07
I am doing great dear thanks for asking and it is good to hear that your are doing better. Take good care of yourself and have a very cheerful day ahead.
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• United States
3 May 07
I think if you wiccan to your interests does not mean you are practicing the religion it just means you are interest in it. I do not always put things in my interests because I do not want people to thing I am this way or that way. Infact today I answered a question on hobbies. I put watching children at parks. I do not want people to thing I am a pedophile I am a mother of two. I just love to watch the dynamics of children playing with each other and familes at a park or beach. Yes I think about what I am going to put down for my interests. Just because it comes up on my tags I do not always put it down.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
3 May 07
*nods* That's a really extreme example, tea! (Yes, I just viciously shortened your name, but it's sooo long!) But you're right, there are things that you just know people will misunderstand! Thanks for responding!
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@jwfarrimond (4474)
2 May 07
If you've responded to lots of discussions of the subject, then I don't see why you should not add it as an interest. You are obviously interested in the subject or you would not have responded to the discussions.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
2 May 07
I wrote a big long explanation about this, and then deleted it. I'm being silly. You're right. Thank you. =p
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@buldwgz (1483)
• United States
2 May 07
If it is something you respond to often, and are interested in, you should add it. I seem to have so many interests now that I rarely am asked to add any, though I do get the occasional screen asking me to add an interest. I do add a new one sometimes, just depends on my mood that day I guess.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
2 May 07
*nods* I think I'm thinking too much on this one. I just have to explain to people about 10 times a day offline the difference between my religion and Wicca, so I'm getting a little paranoid about being called Wiccan. But really adding it as an interest on mylot doesn't mean anything, so I should just stop whining and do it. =p I think it's funny that you think you have a lot, and on your profile it says 20-something. I guess you must just pretty much stick to those categories in responding, if you don't get asked very often. My profile says I have 180-something interests already, though some of those are repeats just phrased differently.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
2 May 07
Hello.lecanis,I had not added any interests for a long time already. I found out that the topics I replied often are related to life ,relationship and mylot topic,i also have other interests but I had not replied or started a discussion about it ,that is why I had not added any interests for long time.I did not want my interest list to be so long.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
2 May 07
My interest list is already really long, because it often includes the same thing under multiple phrasings. For instance, I have parenting, have kids, children, etc. It does get a little annoying to have too many interests, but I usually just add things after responding to discussions there a few times. Thanks so much for sharing!
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
3 May 07
i have many difficulties with this kind of thing. Adding things to your interests is like oppening up more of yourself than perhaps we are regularly willing to do. I however do feel we will always cause others to missunderstand us whatever we put on here so i have a tendency to do it anyway, more a case of publish and be damned. blessed be
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@missak (3311)
• Spain
3 May 07
I don't think "interested in" is the same thing that worshiping that religion. I have added it myself since I am interested in all religions, althougth I don't know nothing about Wicca, just what you all teached me in my discussions and a few others I have read. Yesterday I had the same thougths towards the interest "Australia", since it has always been a place that somehow mysteriously attracts me, but it was put under "places I have lived" and I am too far for have ever visited it, so I hesitate from adding it. Finnally I didn't add it, since I have it already in "places I would like to visit" and sure I can answer more discussions that way than real questions about real life there. I add some interests sometimes, andand then I find more possibilities responding, but sometimes I feel like actually I always respond to the same and others are just there to confuse me... So I think it is rather a decision based on your way to use mylot than on your real interests in life.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
3 May 07
Thanks for sharing Missak! You have a really good point about "interested in" not being the same thing as being a part of the religion. In my case, if I were being honest, I could be "interested in" just about every religion out there, especially all the ones that fall under paganism. Thanks for sharing that story with me! It's interesting the thought processses we go through in making such decisions. I like how you said that at the end, about the decision being based on the way you use mylot and not your real interests in life. It's something I hadn't considered before, and it's very true.
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@missak (3311)
• Spain
3 May 07
You're welcome, I proud you liked my point of view :).
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• United States
3 May 07
The only time I'm reluctant is when I already have too many to begin with. As a matter of fact, I'm thinking of removing a few that I haven't bothered with since adding them. Some just aren't active enough.
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