Reluctance to add interests

My interest list is probably pretty long, too-- although it has been a long time since I have checked. I tend to "resist the pop-up window" fairly thoroughly-- for example, I seem to read lots of discussions that were posted in "parenting," but I am NOT a parent, so I haven't really felt like adding it. Similarly, I answer lots of discussions about relationships... but I haven't added "marriage" as an interest, because I am really NOT interested in getting married. What you bring up here makes me pause and think about how we USE the "interests" area on myLot. Is it to create a profile about ourselves, or is it to filter the kind of discussions we want to be exposed to? Or that we can post in? Like you, I have typically concerned myself about misrepresentation... but then I wonder how many people ever LOOK at the "interests" area of someone's profile.

Believe me I understand. I haven't put Wicca or Pagan under my interests either. I'm not quite sure where to put them under. Hobbies I enjoy? Things I have done with my life? That is the problem with a few different things I have thought of adding. Some just don't really fit in the choices we have. I respond to a lot with "People" under hobbies I enjoy or people I admire, "Parenting" or "Parents" under hobbies and also things I've done, and roles I play. I've also responded to "Life", "Society" etc. I don't think any of them really fit under the varied interests I've seen them in. That too is a problem. Where do you place them? I might put Parends under roles but others might put them under hobbies. It would be nice in some cases if they had a basic list for some things and you could pick from them instead of just adding them yourself under anything you wanted.

If you've responded to lots of discussions of the subject, then I don't see why you should not add it as an interest. You are obviously interested in the subject or you would not have responded to the discussions.

If it is something you respond to often, and are interested in, you should add it. I seem to have so many interests now that I rarely am asked to add any, though I do get the occasional screen asking me to add an interest. I do add a new one sometimes, just depends on my mood that day I guess.

Lecanis were you reading minds when you posted this? Well I do hesitate, so I do not add some of the intrests, I often think well how many discussions have I answered in the particular topic, in percentage? If I feel it adds upto atleast 2 questions or more from a certain topic everyday then it makes sense for me to add it to my intrests otherwise I find it not such a great idea to add intrests without the weightage. I answer about an average of 9 questions each day so for me a intrest should be really worth my time to be added. Thanks for asking dear and hope all's well at your end.

I think if you wiccan to your interests does not mean you are practicing the religion it just means you are interest in it. I do not always put things in my interests because I do not want people to thing I am this way or that way. Infact today I answered a question on hobbies. I put watching children at parks. I do not want people to thing I am a pedophile I am a mother of two. I just love to watch the dynamics of children playing with each other and familes at a park or beach. Yes I think about what I am going to put down for my interests. Just because it comes up on my tags I do not always put it down.

i have many difficulties with this kind of thing. Adding things to your interests is like oppening up more of yourself than perhaps we are regularly willing to do. I however do feel we will always cause others to missunderstand us whatever we put on here so i have a tendency to do it anyway, more a case of publish and be damned. blessed be

Hello.lecanis,I had not added any interests for a long time already. I found out that the topics I replied often are related to life ,relationship and mylot topic,i also have other interests but I had not replied or started a discussion about it ,that is why I had not added any interests for long time.I did not want my interest list to be so long.

I don't think "interested in" is the same thing that worshiping that religion. I have added it myself since I am interested in all religions, althougth I don't know nothing about Wicca, just what you all teached me in my discussions and a few others I have read. Yesterday I had the same thougths towards the interest "Australia", since it has always been a place that somehow mysteriously attracts me, but it was put under "places I have lived" and I am too far for have ever visited it, so I hesitate from adding it. Finnally I didn't add it, since I have it already in "places I would like to visit" and sure I can answer more discussions that way than real questions about real life there. I add some interests sometimes, andand then I find more possibilities responding, but sometimes I feel like actually I always respond to the same and others are just there to confuse me... So I think it is rather a decision based on your way to use mylot than on your real interests in life.

The only time I'm reluctant is when I already have too many to begin with. As a matter of fact, I'm thinking of removing a few that I haven't bothered with since adding them. Some just aren't active enough.