Am I wrong to feel this way?

United States
May 2, 2007 12:22pm CST
It will be my 5 year wedding anniversary soon and I am very excited about it, the thing is something bout my husband. He's not perfect and that's ok, but it's his teeth. They are very unattractive, and he refuses to see a dentist to fix them. He loves to smile but when he does it sort of embarasses me, because most of his front teeth are black. I'm not trying to downgrade him or make him look bad, it's just I don't feel attracted to him as much because of this and other things in his personality. Am I wrong? I don't want to leave him, I just wish he would at least get that smile fixed and he refuses. Please help.
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@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
3 May 07
I can relate to this. My partners teeth are very bad as well...although they are not black...I know in our situation...he needs so much work done that we could not afford it...for any of us. However...now he has a better job with benefits...so my son is booked for next week...and I will go after...Anyway...perhaps it is the money...or he could be afraid of the pain...etc. I would have a talk with him and try and work things out...good luck...
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• India
3 May 07
no you are not wrong but it is better to say your husband that what about you think about him as he also have to know the fault in him ....and you both are the life partner and both have right to know your self and understand each other and in this stage you have to coparate each other .....you also have to take passionce ....and go to a good doctor that can solve this ... not go to that one who cant do it so carefully do this as this is the matter of face and you have to take it seroirsly ... you also think that your husband should be smart and your thinking is so good so you have to talk to you husband first.....
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Hi, curvychick77. I see what you mean. Maybe you can persuade him to see a dentist so that he can get this corrected. I hope that he can. I hope that money is not an issue that is keeping him back from getting dental work done to his teeth. I know that in cases like this, it may sometimes be the issue.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
4 May 07
I understand how you feel. I have the same issue with my partner. He simply refuses to visit the dentist and have his teeth done. He has holes in this front teeth. There are times when I even offered to pay the cost but he keeps giving excuses. Now I cannot be bothered anymore even though I really wish he would get it done.
@Betso221 (1702)
• India
3 May 07
I feel you should tell him to go to a dentist and get his teeth done, If he doesn't wanna do it force him do some crazy things that he don't like so he will come and ask you later on that what is wrong with you why r u doing this to me then tell hime the same thing why r u doin this to me why can't you go and get your teeth done. Hehehe.
• Canada
3 May 07
Hi, fear is big for sure but money probably is a big issue too. I say talk to him and ask if you put money asside for the teeth would he go. If it boils down to fear then.. get him to read this. I am the biggest baby going. Finally I went to the dentist to get some work done. I had to go to a specialist due to gum desease. They had to go up in under my gums to get the work done so that I didn't end up losing my teeth. The dentist told me that when the work was being done, if I felt any pain at all I was to tell her and that person would be fired. She said in dentistry today their is no need for anyone to feel pain. I said will I don't want to get anyone fired. I am a big baby you know. She assured me no pain there was no need for it. I have had my teeth and gums all fixed up and now I plan on going back to get some spacers put in on the bottom as I have had a couple of teeth missing since I was 19. I do expect pain but they assured me it would be nothing to cry about. Not only that. Doesn't your husband want you to do things to look good for him. Maybe keep your weight down, stay fit. Maybe not but this is something you would like him to do and maybe he should do it. He might do it for you but in the long run he will be glad he did it for himself too.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
3 May 07
If you hair was to fall out would you want him to be less attracted to you? Think about it!
• United States
3 May 07
Is there anyway you can convince him to go to a dentist? are they black because they are rotten or because he doesn't brush. You should try buying whitening tooth paste and encourage him to go to a dentist. Tell him the health risks of not going, I know it's not healthy for a person when there teeth are bad. You should research that though. Maybe see if you can get him to go to the dentist as a 5 year anniversary present to you? Good luck
• India
2 May 07
hey there. if you love your hubby do not ever think about leaving him because you will be the biggest looser in the long run and If you love your hubby never ever spate him. Why dont you tell him what annoys you. Good luck
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
2 May 07
If this is your husband than you are suppose to share everything, for better and for worse. try talking with him, explain to him how you feel and that u also for his sake wanna get them fixed. If it is as bad as you say, he also can not feel good about it´. A nice smile is something we all want
@nurhoney (1123)
• Philippines
2 May 07
Well did you tell him how you feel about his teeth and why you want him to have it fix? In marriage, it should be an open thing like you can share whatever it is you feel to your partner and you should also try to hear out your partner's opinion and accept it if it is for the good of both. You can tell him, having his teeth fix will not just be your advantage but also his...you cant lose anything for having his teeth fix. Does he have any reason why he doesnt want it fixed like is he afraid of going to dentist and the gadgets there? like a phobia or something? just try to open it up to him and it might just work out. Its nonsense also to leave your hubby just because he has ugly teeth...you married him for who he is not for how he looks right?