Parents who criticize...

I don't think I could because I would never get past the water works. We're both emotional and if we talk about this, chances are, we'll just both cry and hurt each other.

I'm sorry to hear that, but i think it's the only way to settle these things. If you will not even try to open this to her, this will never be stopped. Chances are you will never find peace in your heart, there's no harm in trying right? Before doing it, you need to pray and accept both of your weaknesses and that we are only human, and that we commit mistakes, try to open your heart and put in mind that she is your mother. You have to let it all out, it's ok to cry and be emotional cause that's what make us human. I know i have no right to step into anybody's lives and that i have no idea what you've been through nor your mothers' but consider this as a friendly advice from a friend. But its always your choice wether you do it or not. I'll be praying for you both!.. God bless

Yes, I agree with she should be soft and polite with you even if she is mentioning your mistakes.

I would gladly take advice from her but I just wish that she would do it in a loving way and not the way that she's doing it right now because every time she does that I really feel like the lowest life-form on earth because I feel like my own mother doesn't like me.

You said it. I mean, not once have I EVER heard her compliment me. Not ONCE. It's always the bad things. I feel so inadequate, like what more can I do? It's really taking a toll on my ego.

Thanks, but it's hard though.

You think with eight children she would have moved on to the others but no, she keeps picking on me.

I know. It's hard not to take their criticisms to heart because we think the world of them and when the criticize me, I feel like dirt.

It's okay once in a while but my mom never let's up. Sometimes I just want to get married right away so I can go away and stop hearing all the criticisms.

Natalie, Getting married is another risk u taking. U neve know how ur hubby would turn out-however sweet and kind he may seem the first few times or yrs. Remember- A KNOWN DEVIL IS ALWAYS BETTER THAN AN UNKNOWN ONE (u know what I mean here-apologies If i hurt u anyhow, just try using a phrase to mean somethin) Again, relationship b/w parent and child is not always equal as between husband and wife-which are equal. Parents have given u birth, so u are indebted to them, they have an EDGE over u, unlike ur partner, so it may be worse if ur partner turns out the same. Jus' be more patient and tolerant girl. Cheers n chill!!! good wishes n luck

Yeah, the way my mom is going at it with me, no wonder I'm so insecure. I don't think my mom is trying to help me. I mean, I really don't know what she wants from me. *sigh* I hope I don't do the same thing she's doing to me to my future kids.