Would you marry/live with someone of a different religion?

Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
May 3, 2007 5:48pm CST
You find someone, you fall in love, you really want to share your life with him/her, no matter if you are going to marry or not. Then you find out that he or she belongs to a different creed. That obviously implies different customs sometimes, etc. Would that be a problem for you? wouldn't you live with someone just because they belong to a different religion?
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@so3869 (7)
• Hong Kong
4 May 07
Sometimes it's not only about love in this situation. It may not be a problem for you but members of your family. The pressure from your family cannot be ignored. If it happens on me, my mother will probably not accept. So the answer is no for me.
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@emeraldisle (13160)
• United States
4 May 07
I wouldn't have a problem with it at all so long as they could accept my religion. If they were constantly trying to convert me then no I couldn't. I think so long as we can respect each others faiths and beliefs then there isn't a problem with it. I could let them follow theirs and I can follow mine. Depending on the religion some things might over lap, you never know. A lot depends on each person involved.
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@lecanis (16741)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
4 May 07
I am married to someone of a different religion than mine. We've been together for eight years now, and will have been married three years on May 15th. So far things have gone really well for us with the whole religious difference issue. We each celebrate our own holidays, and take part in each other's celebrations. We belong to a religious fellowship for people of all religions. We plan to teach our son (who is almost 1 year old now) about both religions, as well as many other religions, and let him make his own decisions about what to believe. Once in a while we'll have a discussion about the differences between the way we look at things because of our beliefs. It's very interesting how we arrive at a lot of the same moral decisions based on entirely different belief systems and deities.
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• United States
10 May 07
yes my husband is catholic and i'm baptist and we have the same believes and views as far as our religion goes and we are raising our daughter to make up her own mind about what religion she chooses to follow.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
11 May 07
well said sramsey, that's an example of tolerance many should learn from.
@cdparazo (5769)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Yes I would but both should be aware that the difficulties and adjustments would be great but not insurmountable. If both should commit to make the relationship work and there would be a big chance of making a happy life together. We only live once and deciding not to marry someone just because he/she is of different religion is passing on the chance of really living life to the fullest. I believe that everything is possible when there is really love.
@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
5 May 07
I am a very free minded person. And if i will fall in love with someone from another religion i would consider getting married to him. But i do confess that it will be very hard for me, and that is because my religion is very important to me, and i do want that my children will have the same religion. So, the first step that i will do before getting married to that person is probably go and live with him, and see if we get along, with the religion things. And if we will get along with that, and will agree on how to raise our children. I will seriously consider that.
@parnap (124)
• Indonesia
4 May 07
it will make a big big big problem, so i will not do it
@dbeast (1500)
• India
4 May 07
it would not be a problem for me.if i was in love with a girl it doesnt mater from whatever creed she is in.all that is enough is that we both love each other and would be happy with each other.this would be what ultimately matters.
• United States
4 May 07
Well i'm penecostal, and my fiance is Christian Orthodox. her church is more traditional like they couldnt eat meat for a long time, and eater is caled pasca and the pasca service goes from 11am saturday night, to 3 am easter sunday. and there pasca sunday varies each year sometimes its a week before or after regular sunday, sometimes it's on the same sunday. thats all i know about it so far. And my church is pretty muhc, you believe in god, thats pretty much all you have to do.
• India
4 May 07
I will not... Religion must have to be the same.... Rest can be taken care of.
@oldiebut (859)
• Canada
4 May 07
My wife of 20 years has a belief system that is pretty much exactly opposite of mine. She is into new ageism, feng shui, tarot and a few other things. I am a hard core skeptic and agnostic. It has never been a problem for us, we realized long ago that we have different likes and dislikes and it just didn't matter. I should mention that my mother is Catholic and my father is Protestant, and they have been married for 58 years without any conflict there (definitely the odd conflict elsewhere).
• Philippines
4 May 07
as you vary religion, you also vary your beliefs. it would be a hard thing to live with someone who will be contracting your beliefs. let's face it! your partnership will just lead to conflict. but if love is really there, it will make a bridge for the two of you. just give a try! maybe the relationship will work.. (*i dont mean marry him, ok?*) and i think part of marriage is acceptance. so if you accept each other then there is no problem. =)
• United States
4 May 07
To me, God always comes first. If I were to marry someone outside of my beliefs, it would be very hard to put God first because my spouse would not understand. I've been in a relationship where he had a different religion than me. I broke it off because I could never have a complete relationship with him. I would always feel like something was missing. I've seen it work, but there are way more struggles and arguments than a relationship where they share their beliefs. Plus, what about when you have kids? That can cause another dilemma all on its own. I would never marry outside my beliefs and would advise against it, but to each it's own.
4 May 07
i'm a firm atheist so i'd tend to stay clear of anybody with strong religious beliefs
• India
4 May 07
Well if u believe in god than u should have respect for each religion..and moreover if u love the person then these things should not be treated as barriers....
• India
4 May 07
i think in my case there is no value for religion. iam also love with a girl on differnet religion see iam going to marry her, even though my parents didnt allow me to do. Here i think my decision is most improtant iam leading the life with her. so according to me it depends on the way of thinking different people have different kinds of thinking
@magikrose (5426)
• United States
4 May 07
I already do. My husband is Christian and I am Wiccan. Even tho we both have way diffrent beliefs we respect eachother. We take our kids to sunday school at a Christian church so they can learn that history and I teach them my beliefs. We celebrate both holidays so that the kids can learn both. That way when they get older they can decide which is better for them and there family.
@maddog108 (3442)
• Australia
4 May 07
well thats easy i dont have a religion so yes as long as they keep it to them selves and dont try to bible bash me it would work fine
@rhinoboy (2129)
4 May 07
That would depend on just how religous the person was. As an atheist, I don't have a problem with any other religion, provided I don't have my 'face rubbed in it'. As mentioned by a wise soul previously, most religions share similar core beliefs about fundamental issues. The deciding factor is love, it is said to conquer all, so I don't think religion should be a big enough issue to get in the way of a couples happiness.
@eyewitness (1580)
• Netherlands
4 May 07
It shouldn't matter at all.Though a lot people think different about it.My father and mother are from different religions,but they are still together.It was real love.So it doens't have to be a problem we can live with eachother if we only let ourselves to.